My DS accidentally hurt his friend

this is a school related accident, it was dealt with. It seems that your son would have apologised, and he’s explained what has happened.

the sorry card etc, suggests an element of guilt/ remorse. It was not malicious in intent, so I would leave it.

if the mother dislikes you as you say, then she will find another reason to to dislike you. If she doesn’t dislike you, then she will see the situation for what it is. Perception.

Hey OP, you're overthinking this. Some mums won't like u, it's thier loss. Don't get ur kid 2 write an apology letter/picture, he didn't do it on purpose and its just 1 incident. Imagine I was the other way round, do u think his mum wd do the same?
School has dealt with it, leave it at that

It sounds like it has been dealt with appropriately. I can’t imagine she is losing much sleep over it as it was an accident. If she does approach you then you can apologise on his behalf.

I wouldn't do anything, but I think as you believe the mum doesn't like you it might be nice to just approach her at home time or text if you can and just apologise and say you've had words with your son.

In similar circumstances I've done nothing. In Y6 my youngest son's teacher took me to one side at home time and told me he'd had a bit of a scuffle with a friend of his but it was sorted, he was just letting me know. Later on the mum of the other kid called me, she was so embarrassed - I said it was fine, they were both at fault and it's over and done with. You need to take a pragmatic approach to these things IMO.

(Sorry I don't know what RSD is so don't know if that's colouring your view).

School have dealt with it, I'd leave it. This will not be the last incident between these two. Your RSD is trying to solve a "it could be possible" problem that doesn't exist. Your LO has only been a school a short time, you'll work it all out xx

Like person said don't give much further thought unless he meant to hurt him. Really the school should sort it out it happened there if the mum gives u ne trouble then do the right thing n maybe report hernir beat her the fuck up if neone touches my daughter I will be there and properly hurt the child too as she is 12 now so I jus beat em up come near my daughter U DIE

Loads of people look intimidating but are actually really nice. I myself have been told countless times that "I look like a bitch" 🤣🤣 I'm not! Maybe she's the same and your worrying about nothing 🤔

Also the playdate thing, I wouldn't read to much into that! Loads of people avoid school mam friends for various reasons. It's quite often more trouble than it's worth.

Teach your son to be gentle. (Kind hands)

There is no need to apologise to the other mother. They are only five years old.

It sounds like you are overthinking this situation because you are worried about being disliked.

Try to work on your anxiety.

If you had simply said, "I am so sorry about that. We will work on being gentle in the future," that would have been polite. However, worrying and mentioning that it was accidental might make her defensive, as if you are blaming her son.

Just leave it as it is.

Please stop worrying. You are clearly a good mother. What she thinks of you is her business. Unfortunately, we cannot be friends with everyone. It is not nice, but that is life. You will encounter stuck-up or overprotective mothers on the playground. Just keep to yourself.

OP, what's made you think the mum doesn't like you?

Don't worry about it. It's been sorted.
If you are really anxious and feel you need to speak to the mother just say you're sorry that your DS hit hers accidentally and he was upset and owned up to the teacher straight away. Say how much your DS values her son as his friend. If she's an adult, she'd realise these things happen.
The school have dealt with it appropriately, don't fret.
My DS broke his fist on a wall play fighting with his friend - things happen with children, his pal ducked. I just told him off for doing it and took him to A&E. He's 45 now, and still good friends with the same lad.

Accidents happen all the time with kids, it's just part of growing up! Don't worry, it's normal stuff.

The school have dealt with it, if mum approached you in playground say I've told DS his behaviour was not on. *but only if she approached you)
Your anxiety might be making a mountain out of a molehill, you'll create drama.
Your son said sorry, they are still friends.

Least said soonest mended. School has dealt with it, it doesn't always help getting involved or talking to the other parent so I wouldn't give it another thought.

Leave it. School have dealt with it.

However do think about working on stopping your child play fighting. I would have declined play dates with a play fighter - in fact I did sometimes. Play fighting is just not good and I'm not surprised the other parent isn't keen.

Exactly

I had the same situation. I got D's to make a card with Sorry I hurt you inside and he put a packet of Haribos inside too . . . It helped him to feel a lot better.

Well school dealt with it so I'd leave it.

Well scho

Oh please. If the other mum gets sulky about that she shouldn’t be having children. They muck around, they sometimes get hurt. I thought you were going to say the other kid needed stitches or had a black eye!

No other action required. Your kid has apologised and feels bad, job done.
I guess the other boy was a willing participant in the play fight.

Absolutely don’t do this. It’s done and dusted and the school has dealt with it.

The teacher probably hasn't told the other parent which child it was. Where I work it would just be a calm
"So Billy was playing with another child, they were both playfighting and Billy ended up getting a little bit hurt. The other boy came and told us straight away and apologised, we have had a look, he's got a little red mark on his stomach but he seems fine and we have spoken to them both about not being silly in the classroom,"
So the only way she will find out that it was your son is if her own child tells her.

The other mother should know that this kind of thing happens between kids all the time and her son wasn't entirely innocent, he was joining in with the playfighting. Don't approach her but if she has a go at you, do what others have said and direct her to the teacher.

You’re going to end up making this a bigger deal than it needs to be to your son if you sit him down and make him write a sorry note. He went and showed accountability immediately by telling his teacher and I’m sure they dealt with it well. It’s kids playing - please just leave it at that, and move on.

let it go. Anything else is making him act on your insecurities. That is wrong

Perfectly put.

Id do nothing. School have dealt with it. If she mentions it to you just say "yes X is sorry your dc got hurt while playing yesterday , how is he?"

But otherwise leave it.