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To get frustrated over pity errors my colleague makes

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hungrybwcat · 18/09/2024 16:47

I work in a very small team of 2 plus our boss. We all WFH. My colleague is paid a London wage (she mentioned hers without me asking) which is over £10,000 more thank I get.

She makes a lot of silly mistakes. For example she replied to a forwarded email so the recipient of her reply did not include the original sender who had sent to query and needed the answer to which she replied and she wondered why the issue was outstanding. Another example - she does not check her work thoroughly so once (a lot of the times!) something went out with a mistake which was later returned and we had to correct it.

Our boss doesn’t get involved usually so quite often these errors and corrections are made without getting noticed.

However I feel like telling my boss she did this and that and I picked it and rectified it etc. but I don’t. It’s too pity. At the same time I feel disheartened because I get paid much less. For the context I did ask for a pay review based on my performance and my management agreed I am a high performer but the company as a whole only had a certain amount in the pot and none of us got more than inflation.

AIBU to feel like telling my boss my colleague has made a pity error?

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NetDesMamans1 · 23/09/2024 20:33

I've always thought that this was the case. But I’m not Scottish and shouldn’t have said anything!

Alconleigh · 23/09/2024 15:56

tuvamoodyson · 23/09/2024 14:47

Hoisted by your own leotard OP.

This has finished me off. I love this thread.

tuvamoodyson · 23/09/2024 14:47

Hoisted by your own leotard OP.

BashfulClam · 23/09/2024 14:32

NetDesMamans1 · 23/09/2024 11:10

If you say 'pity' in a Scottish accent it sounds like 'petty'.

No it doesn’t? Certainly not in any of the ones I know. Which particular Scottish accents as there are hundreds of variations? In my west coast accent both words sound different.

TheLittleOldWomanWhoShrinks · 23/09/2024 14:24

I was wondering what a pity error was. Pitying someone who doesn't merit it? Or making mistakes because you are so busy fretting about someone's plight? Or making deliberate mistakes because you feel sorry for someone who makes still more? Wondering if that's it, given the OP?

LBFseBrom · 23/09/2024 14:22

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 18/09/2024 16:49

I don't understand what "it's too pity" means. Petty? Or you pity her?
I would leave it. Sooner or later this slapdash behaviour will catch up with her.

That.

Op your boss may be more aware of what goes on than you think.

You will advance in your career in time, one way or another, but telling tales for something short of, eg bullying or stealing, is just not on - and bosses don't like it.

If things don't improve you can always look for a better job.

Kitkat1523 · 23/09/2024 13:52

This is a wind up right? 🤣

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 23/09/2024 13:51

I pity you for making the petty error in your first post, OP. Perhaps you could make a pithy reply to this thread and justify your opinion on why you want to put your colleague down. 😆😂

Sunisshiningweatherissweet2 · 23/09/2024 13:44

It's a pity your pettiness picked up on the 'pity' rather than the 'petty'.😆

Sooverwork · 23/09/2024 13:37

DeCaray · 18/09/2024 17:02

The boss should sack the pair of you if that's your standard of writing and you're complaining about someone who has an even lower standard.

Well said. Perhaps the colleague isn’t making errors and because OP can’t spell she’s assuming ( wrongly) that fellow colleague is making mistakes.

OneDaringCat · 23/09/2024 13:08

I think if this is a consistent issue then it should be raised with their manager - not sure why that would be deemed as inappropriate. If it's infrequent mistakes then everyone makes them.

madaboutpurple · 23/09/2024 13:00

Must admit this has made me laugh and I am continuing to laugh. A complaint about petty errors when the poster made a few petty errors herself .Maybe the colleague was not well on the day. Giving a bit of leeway is best. I do not like the idea of snitching to the boss. That is pithy and petty! How about asking if the colleague needs a little help would be better than going to the boss.

Pherian · 23/09/2024 13:00

London weighting has nothing to do with work performance or experience. It's due to the cost of living in the area and the company pays it so their business can be staffed in that area. Her cost of living is considerably higher than yours say perhaps in the North. I live in the north of the UK and I have previously lived in London ( I would never again) and the difference in cost is eye watering.

People make mistakes ( I do all the time) and I'm sure you do too. No one is perfect. Sounds like your boss is already aware of the issues with their mistakes. If you are not happy in your job, find a new one. That's the only way to get a decent pay rise these days.

SonjaBarkerFinch · 23/09/2024 12:31

Rerrin · 23/09/2024 12:26

Oh, lighten up. People are mostly being mildly funny at the expense of a (possibly consciously?) unfortunately expressed OP, not committing character assassination.

Lighten up? You don’t exactly sound easy going yourself.

Rerrin · 23/09/2024 12:26

SonjaBarkerFinch · 23/09/2024 12:24

This thread has poked the vipers nest.

Oh, lighten up. People are mostly being mildly funny at the expense of a (possibly consciously?) unfortunately expressed OP, not committing character assassination.

SonjaBarkerFinch · 23/09/2024 12:24

This thread has poked the vipers nest.

CustardySergeant · 23/09/2024 12:23

greencheetah · 23/09/2024 12:16

Given the number of errors (not just the pity ones) in your post, I suggest you keep your mouth shut and your head down

I can't help wondering whether the colleague that the OP thinks is making errors, is in fact not making any errors at all. The OP obviously has trouble with spelling but doesn't realise it and thinks she is spotting errors in the colleague's spelling when it is the OP whose spelling is at fault. It reminds me of the teacher who crossed out my daughter's correctly spelled word and wrote in an incorrectly spelled one!

Rerrin · 23/09/2024 12:19

Moveoverdarlin · 23/09/2024 12:05

Come on guys, give the OP a break. This is all getting really pity. Oh sorry I mean petty. Petty.

You mean give her a brake, obviously. Tut tut.

greencheetah · 23/09/2024 12:16

Given the number of errors (not just the pity ones) in your post, I suggest you keep your mouth shut and your head down

Moveoverdarlin · 23/09/2024 12:05

Come on guys, give the OP a break. This is all getting really pity. Oh sorry I mean petty. Petty.

InSpainTheRain · 23/09/2024 12:01

OP if you are going to raise anything you need to understand the difference between petty and pity first!

ScottBakula · 23/09/2024 11:58

This has got to be a wind up hasn't it?
My spelling and grammar are poor but even I can see several errors.

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 23/09/2024 11:58

This has got to be a joke?!

Macaroni46 · 23/09/2024 11:56

Bloopy2 · 23/09/2024 08:26

You guys are just being pendants.

🤣🤣🤣

Jennyathemall · 23/09/2024 11:56

Crunchymum · 18/09/2024 16:49

Oh the irony!

Indeed!

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