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Why sit in the kids section if you don’t want to be around kids

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Meatballsandmash · 18/09/2024 12:09

Sat having lunch in Ikea with my Dd, very quiet, not many people and lots of free tables inside and out. We’re sat in the kids area, Dd is playing.
Oldsr couple chooses to come and sit on a table nearby.
Couple starts tutting and complaining under their breath about the kids making some noise (not excessive) whilst they play

Why would you sit in a kids area, if you didn’t want the noise of kids 🤷🏻‍♀️

Annoying.

OP posts:
Moglet4 · 18/09/2024 17:33

housethatbuiltme · 18/09/2024 17:04

Being forced to do something (like sit with children, something most people avoid) because theres no other options available to you due to being disabled is absoloutly something you can be annoyed at.

Disabled people are allowed to not like or want to put up with your precious child just as much as anyone else is.

They did not CHOOSE to sit with a child, they had no other option because the child is in the disabled section.

Edited

Oh and it’s also not a disabled section - it is for the disabled and infants- equally- because it is the only place large enough to accommodate a bassinet and a wheelchair.

Moglet4 · 18/09/2024 17:31

housethatbuiltme · 18/09/2024 17:04

Being forced to do something (like sit with children, something most people avoid) because theres no other options available to you due to being disabled is absoloutly something you can be annoyed at.

Disabled people are allowed to not like or want to put up with your precious child just as much as anyone else is.

They did not CHOOSE to sit with a child, they had no other option because the child is in the disabled section.

Edited

No one chooses to sit next to a child; it’s just the luck of the draw. I wouldn’t choose to sit next to someone with BO or someone who stinks of whisky or perfume or who listens to their music so everyone can hear it but all of these things have happened. A plane has all types of human on it (and shock horror, children are human). No one has any right to choose who they sit next to and therefore no right to be annoyed. That goes for everyone, disabled included.

housethatbuiltme · 18/09/2024 17:04

Moglet4 · 18/09/2024 16:36

Nobody has a right to be annoyed about sitting next to children on a flight and that includes disabled people.

Being forced to do something (like sit with children, something most people avoid) because theres no other options available to you due to being disabled is absoloutly something you can be annoyed at.

Disabled people are allowed to not like or want to put up with your precious child just as much as anyone else is.

They did not CHOOSE to sit with a child, they had no other option because the child is in the disabled section.

Moglet4 · 18/09/2024 16:36

housethatbuiltme · 18/09/2024 14:26

Of course disabled people can be annoyed, they have a disadvantage that means they have no other option. That doesn't mean they have to be happy about being forced to sit with other peoples children.

Nobody has a right to be annoyed about sitting next to children on a flight and that includes disabled people.

FOJN · 18/09/2024 15:37

Skyrainlight · 18/09/2024 12:20

I think this is today and the Sat means sitting.

Thank you. 😁

Meatballsandmash · 18/09/2024 14:44

@HoHoHoliday No…not hugely noisy, but little ones playing, enjoying themselves…and shock…being chindren.. in the designated play section.
Yes, I go on my phone…for the half hour I get…not mindless scrolling either, usually catching up on emails, lists, replying to messages, then maybe some mindless scrolling…terrible parent that I am

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Meatballsandmash · 18/09/2024 14:39

@Whyhaveibeencutoutofmamsnot Likely exhausted.

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housethatbuiltme · 18/09/2024 14:26

Porridgeislife · 18/09/2024 14:03

You can hardly get annoyed as a disabled person if the airline has warned you that they’re also reserved for children. Where would you like “other people’s children” to sit?

If the seats are not booked by disabled or parents, they are first offered to frequent flyers. The airline opens up the seating arrangements in tiers as the flight gets closer.

Of course disabled people can be annoyed, they have a disadvantage that means they have no other option. That doesn't mean they have to be happy about being forced to sit with other peoples children.

HoHoHoliday · 18/09/2024 14:12

I've never noticed a kids area in my Ikea so perhaps they didn't realise that's where they were sitting.
But I also suspect your interpretation of your kids "not excessive" noise would be very different to someone else.
Certainly in my Ikea the little darlings shriek at full volume and can be heard around the whole store while the parents casually scroll on their phones oblivious.

Whyhaveibeencutoutofmamsnot · 18/09/2024 14:08

Am I the older person who quite likes sitting near the kids section of IKEA cafe seeing them playing and chatting.
It's the parents who seem to be the most miserable and grumpy.

Minesril · 18/09/2024 14:05

Starabella · 18/09/2024 13:45

Happened to me recently in the "family" waiting area at King's Cross station. Loads of people sat on their laptops doing work and visibly annoyed that the kids are running g around and playing with the slide etc that's in there. One older woman tutted and asked me why they were not in school!

There's a family area at KK station? How did i not know this? Although by the time I've been to the HP shop and spent time arguing with myself that i don't really need another Ravenclaw key ring, there's not much time...

Porridgeislife · 18/09/2024 14:03

housethatbuiltme · 18/09/2024 13:55

You do realize theres far more flights companies than BA right?

I just checked BA website and yes their specific company does state that:

'It may not be possible to choose bulkhead seats, as they're usually reserved for customers with a disability or those traveling with an infant'

but that has NOTHING to do with how many hours you have traveled for or special treatment or special clubs, thats because they are priority seats for disabled people.

A disabled person is entirely allowed to be annoyed at being stuck with other peoples children.

You can hardly get annoyed as a disabled person if the airline has warned you that they’re also reserved for children. Where would you like “other people’s children” to sit?

If the seats are not booked by disabled or parents, they are first offered to frequent flyers. The airline opens up the seating arrangements in tiers as the flight gets closer.

housethatbuiltme · 18/09/2024 13:55

Porridgeislife · 18/09/2024 13:37

That is quite literally what frequent flyer programs allow you to do. Travel however many miles over a year, get preferential access to booking seats.

You do realize theres far more flights companies than BA right?

I just checked BA website and yes their specific company does state that:

'It may not be possible to choose bulkhead seats, as they're usually reserved for customers with a disability or those traveling with an infant'

but that has NOTHING to do with how many hours you have traveled for or special treatment or special clubs, thats because they are priority seats for disabled people.

A disabled person is entirely allowed to be annoyed at being stuck with other peoples children.

TinkerTiger · 18/09/2024 13:54

JustEatTheOneInTheBallPit · 18/09/2024 12:58

There is a café near me that is FULL of toys and has 9 hole children's mini golf at the back. It's also FULL of mums - particularly toddler mums. Obviously, the preponderance of toys doesn't preclude anyone from going there - and nor should it... as long as they're okay with sharing the space with toddlers. Lots of toddlers.

And yet, I frequently see older women on the local FB page complaining about how the café is full of noisy children and that the café should ban them / limit them / put the toys outside. I can't understand it. (There are a lot of other cafes around)

This is the ‘What About Me Effect’.

TinkerTiger · 18/09/2024 13:50

Ahhhh, the horse meat scandal, takes me back to 2013.

Whatever is in them now still has me alive and kicking, and enjoying life

DonttouchthatLarry · 18/09/2024 13:48

It's like the people at the vet's who sit in the main waiting area with their cats and complain about being next to dogs - there is a dedicated cat and small animal waiting area they could go and sit in.

Starabella · 18/09/2024 13:45

Happened to me recently in the "family" waiting area at King's Cross station. Loads of people sat on their laptops doing work and visibly annoyed that the kids are running g around and playing with the slide etc that's in there. One older woman tutted and asked me why they were not in school!

Porridgeislife · 18/09/2024 13:37

housethatbuiltme · 18/09/2024 13:20

I have never, ever, not even once been asked my 'experience and knowledge' of flying when booking a seat for a flight.

Its not like 'oh you have over 80 hours of passenger flight experience so have unlocked a reward and can upgrade to this special 'bulk head' seat'.

That is quite literally what frequent flyer programs allow you to do. Travel however many miles over a year, get preferential access to booking seats.

LittleGreenDragons · 18/09/2024 13:34

Okay, I'm still thinking bs but since I don't want to derail OP thread I won't continue.

Porridgeislife · 18/09/2024 13:31

LittleGreenDragons · 18/09/2024 13:25

How would I achieve airline status? And how would, say BA know my status if I normally flew with another airline?

I'm assuming from your answer that this information is NOT listed on the website and therefore is not comparable to the OPs situation at all.

You get status by flying a lot with the same family of airlines. BA don’t care what other airlines you fly if they’re outside of their network.

The bassinets are marked on the seat map, so the information is certainly available. As I said, unless you are a frequent flyer they will close off parts of the seating map to you anyway so I don’t think this will be a problem for you.

LittleGreenDragons · 18/09/2024 13:25

Porridgeislife · 18/09/2024 13:18

If you rarely fly/lack airline status, you probably won’t be allowed to book in the bulkhead seats, to be honest.

Edited

How would I achieve airline status? And how would, say BA know my status if I normally flew with another airline?

I'm assuming from your answer that this information is NOT listed on the website and therefore is not comparable to the OPs situation at all.

DappledThings · 18/09/2024 13:20

KnickerlessParsons · 18/09/2024 12:39

I think this is today and the Sat means sitting.

And that's why grammar is important.

Hear hear

housethatbuiltme · 18/09/2024 13:20

Porridgeislife · 18/09/2024 13:18

If you rarely fly/lack airline status, you probably won’t be allowed to book in the bulkhead seats, to be honest.

Edited

I have never, ever, not even once been asked my 'experience and knowledge' of flying when booking a seat for a flight.

Its not like 'oh you have over 80 hours of passenger flight experience so have unlocked a reward and can upgrade to this special 'bulk head' seat'.

Porridgeislife · 18/09/2024 13:18

LittleGreenDragons · 18/09/2024 13:12

As someone who rarely flies i wouldn't know that. Is that information freely available on the booking websites?

If you rarely fly/lack airline status, you probably won’t be allowed to book in the bulkhead seats, to be honest.

Clumsy12345 · 18/09/2024 13:16

Clumsy12345 · 18/09/2024 12:49

This was the Elizabeth line so no they didn’t book the seat 😂

Also it happens very often and we mainly travel on the southeastern which doesn’t have a first class and you cannot reserve seats on it so that really isn't an excuse they have their pick of the seats. It’s like saying they reserved their seat on the bus..