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Would a 17 year old girl like this or is it cringe?

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StyleSiren · 18/09/2024 11:37

Bought this for my niece's birthday because she loves animals but now am having second thoughts. She's quite a trendy girl, into goth clothes/makeup etc. Would she be seen dead carrying this? It's weekend bag-sized.

Would a 17 year old girl like this or is it cringe?
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BESTAUNTB · 18/09/2024 12:58

She would better appreciate the money, probably. Especially if driving lessons are needed or university is possible.

This bag might end up in landfill or the charity shop after a period of time which seems so wasteful.

StarCourt · 18/09/2024 12:58

My DD would love it but she's 15 autistic and gothy

DillDanding · 18/09/2024 12:57

If she was an 80 year old, she just might like it. But, unlikely as it’s truly hideous.

TypingoftheDead · 18/09/2024 12:53

I really like the goth aesthetic, but my taste varies as well - I’m kind of on the fence about this bag! So, I’d still give it to her and see what her reaction is.

Mummyoflittledragon · 18/09/2024 12:52

I see disturbia has already been mentioned. This is the accessories page. https://www.disturbia.co.uk/collections/womens-accessories-and-footwear

Meant to say, it would be a no for me for the bag you purchased.

Women’s Accessories & Footwear – Disturbia

Shop or latest accessories and footwear. We ship worldwide!

https://www.disturbia.co.uk/collections/womens-accessories-and-footwear

Sartre · 18/09/2024 12:50

This is reminding me of the time my mum went on holiday when I was a 15 year old
goth and returned with a pink fake playboy hoodie for me as a gift…

That bag doesn’t exactly scream teenage goth OP, no.

1dayatathyme · 18/09/2024 12:49

lololulu · 18/09/2024 12:38

The age is irrelevant. It depends on her tastes.

Unless we're talking teenage fashion I think people are long past considering age appropriate styles. As long as they look good who cares.

Dahlietta · 18/09/2024 12:48

It looks like a Cath Kidston changing bag, which doesn’t really scream goth. The skinny little cheetahs are a bit spooky though.

SmileyHappyPeopleInTheSun · 18/09/2024 12:46

easylikeasundaymorn · 18/09/2024 12:36

This - three different people who are apparently into the same style have already pooh-poohed the other's suggestion- and they are all likely to be over 17 so the op's niece may very well disagree with all of them!

Just give her some money and buy something small as a token ackowldgement of her interests - lots of either cheaper "obvious" goth skull candles and things in the shops atm or slightly more expensive/niche themed dark academia/fantasy ones on etsy which would likely fit with her aesthetic but also not be an issue if she didn't LOVE - she'll still use it for the smell.

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This.

It what I do with 17 year old niece give voucher and token nod to interests.

My similar sounding once 17 year old loved her steam punk vibe biker/thigh/drop bag - the style that goes round waist and one leg and acts as a handbag essentially - but can't say I commonly see teens wearing such things.

MoralOrLegal · 18/09/2024 12:45

Sorry, it looks like a Magic Eye puzzle!

housethatbuiltme · 18/09/2024 12:43

It really depends... I'm part of the ALT scene and have some friends that would adore this and others that would think it was hideous.

I personally hate bright green so for me this wouldn't be great but some more colourful eccentric friends would probably like it.

Rummly · 18/09/2024 12:42

It’s great! It would go wonderfully with a tartan shopping trolley.

What’s not to like?

Pukeyproblem · 18/09/2024 12:40

Fable England do a nice mix of gothic/animal/botanical

Button28384738 · 18/09/2024 12:39

My 13 yo wouldn't use this sorry OP

RandomUsernameHere · 18/09/2024 12:38

I'm no expert, but it looks basically the exact opposite of goth.

lololulu · 18/09/2024 12:38

The age is irrelevant. It depends on her tastes.

1dayatathyme · 18/09/2024 12:37

JudgeJ · 18/09/2024 12:22

What's your elderly lady friend done to annoy you? Save her a trip to the charity shop and take it there yourself!

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1dayatathyme · 18/09/2024 12:36

StyleSiren · 18/09/2024 11:45

Aw, rats!
I might give it to an elderly lady friend instead.

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I can't think of any elderly ladies I know who would appreciate this OP. I think it's awful. At least people are being honest.

easylikeasundaymorn · 18/09/2024 12:36

Nagatha · 18/09/2024 12:22

Just give her a voucher. I know, I hate doing that too but I've also been on the receiving end of gifts like this that someone assumed I'd like, when actually I think it's horrendous. Then begrudgingly used once before sticking in a cupboard/charity bag.

Don't waste your money on something you're not 100% sure she'd like.

I can't say I know anyone who'd use that bag to be honest.

Edit to add, I know people are trying to help but I do find it odd so many people offering up totally different suggestions for bags for a young woman they've never met. Taste is soooo subjective. It's dangerous road to try and guess what someone else deems nice.

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This - three different people who are apparently into the same style have already pooh-poohed the other's suggestion- and they are all likely to be over 17 so the op's niece may very well disagree with all of them!

Just give her some money and buy something small as a token ackowldgement of her interests - lots of either cheaper "obvious" goth skull candles and things in the shops atm or slightly more expensive/niche themed dark academia/fantasy ones on etsy which would likely fit with her aesthetic but also not be an issue if she didn't LOVE - she'll still use it for the smell.

LoobyDoop2 · 18/09/2024 12:36

I think it’s probably too childish for a 17 year old. It’s the kind of thing a proper adult woman might love because it’s quirky and she doesn’t care what others think, but teenagers have to prove they’re not kids- however cool they play it.

Cantbelievethatimafoolagain · 18/09/2024 12:34

Looks childish

AmyDudley · 18/09/2024 12:34

Can you ask your neice's Mum or Dad if they think she'd like it ? They probably have a better idea of what she'd use.
(For what it's worth I like it and would happily use it, but I'm 65 so maybe more of a useful opinion if you decide to give it to your old lady friend 😁)

timeforanewmoniker · 18/09/2024 12:32

StyleSiren · 18/09/2024 11:48

Thanks for the tip. Those look really tacky to me but what do I know (clearly!)?

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Both equally tacky, just in different ways. Although theirs are better printed than the one you bought, which looks to be suffering from chromatic abberation.

PeatandDieselfan · 18/09/2024 12:27

I like it. And I would have been very pleased, if my auntie had given it to me when I was 17. But that was almost 30 years ago so my opinion is irrelevant.

Waffle78 · 18/09/2024 12:26

No I don't think she would. Be different if it was a wheelie case. But it looks like a bag me granny would have used.