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Would a 17 year old girl like this or is it cringe?

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StyleSiren · 18/09/2024 11:37

Bought this for my niece's birthday because she loves animals but now am having second thoughts. She's quite a trendy girl, into goth clothes/makeup etc. Would she be seen dead carrying this? It's weekend bag-sized.

Would a 17 year old girl like this or is it cringe?
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Sidebeforeself · 19/09/2024 16:24

For some reason I am singing Chapelle Roans “ Pink Pony Club”!

CombatLingerie · 19/09/2024 16:18

Ah @StyleSiren I understand now.

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StyleSiren · 19/09/2024 16:11

Just wanted to say huge thanks to all of you for your wise advice! 💟I am enlightened.

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gotmyknickersinatwist · 18/09/2024 14:38

OP does your niece like bright colours, neons etc.?

Mostly black but with something quirky on top.

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StyleSiren · 19/09/2024 16:04

CombatLingerie · 18/09/2024 14:18

You are a very thoughtful Aunt for trying to buy something your niece will love,but I don’t think that bag is it. I am also intrigued as to why the bag is so shiny. Is it plastic? Look I have been there with teenagers and their birthdays. Give the gift that never offends them.Cash!

I think it was described as "oilloth". It feels kind of like plastic on the outside and the inside is fabric-lined.

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StyleSiren · 19/09/2024 16:00

Threetrees745 · 18/09/2024 14:11

OP it would probably help if you could point us in the direction of which type of goth or alt fashion she is into.

Are any pics below looking familiar?

Haha… not as extreme as any of those! But the first one looks like me in secondary school.

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StyleSiren · 19/09/2024 15:46

JudgeJ · 18/09/2024 12:22

What's your elderly lady friend done to annoy you? Save her a trip to the charity shop and take it there yourself!

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Hahaha… would you believe I also bought one for myself.

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StyleSiren · 19/09/2024 15:42

EngineEngineNumber9 · 18/09/2024 11:58

Try here damagedsociety.co.uk/collections/bags?sort_by=best-selling&filter.v.price.gte=&filter.v.price.lte=

Thank you. Now I am going to have to buy the Cats Tote Bag for myself.

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Daffyyellow · 18/09/2024 19:25

2 teenage DDs, neither would use it. Neither would I, sorry

MoveItOnUp · 18/09/2024 17:34

Sorry but I don't think my daughter or her friends, who are similar ages, would like that!

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 18/09/2024 17:30

BodyKeepingScore · 18/09/2024 12:05

Oh no way! Nemesis Now bags are so fuddy duddy!

Attitude have much more suitable bags OP

www.attitudeclothing.co.uk/womens-c256/accessories-c118/bags-backpacks-c319/gothic-clothing-t684

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I would have suggested Banned Apparel but Nemesis Now aren't £80 for a bag that a teen might not use and have more messenger style bags fitting with what OP had already bought.

Lightslice · 18/09/2024 15:48

BebbanburgIsMine · 18/09/2024 14:13

@GLVF

Leopard/Animal print is the most unsophisticated and tacky print ever!

Absolutely hideous.

That’s just your opinion. I think it’s nice :)

Andoutcomethewolves · 18/09/2024 14:46

Having thought about it some more I would probably go with cash rather than a voucher. A lot of the goth/emo/rocker/alternative girls I know love getting a one off from a vintage shop or something from Etsy or Vinted or boutique type little shops (as did I at that age!). It tends to be more about being different or original rather than branded or very obviously 'goth'

Bollihobs · 18/09/2024 14:42

StyleSiren · 18/09/2024 11:48

Thanks for the tip. Those look really tacky to me but what do I know (clearly!)?

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I'm with you OP, they look like the sort of images you see advertised as a set of souvenir decorative plates in the back of old lady magazines! 😂

gotmyknickersinatwist · 18/09/2024 14:38

OP does your niece like bright colours, neons etc.?

Apolloneuro · 18/09/2024 14:37

Ohnobackagain · 18/09/2024 14:32

@StyleSiren I’d have wanted this at 17 and still would now

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That’s nice! Put in on your Christmas list!

Choochoo21 · 18/09/2024 14:36

Apolloneuro · 18/09/2024 14:00

I think it’s risky as it’s quite marmite. You’re obviously a lovely aunt and have another go at choosing something.

I agree.

Some 17yos would absolutely love this and some would hate it.

I don’t even buy my own DD clothes or accessories anymore because things that I think she’ll love, she hates and vice versa.

gotmyknickersinatwist · 18/09/2024 14:35

Ohnobackagain · 18/09/2024 14:32

@StyleSiren I’d have wanted this at 17 and still would now

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I like this one. It's not cartoonishly goth, like cat and moon prints are.

BePearlSheep · 18/09/2024 14:35

I think the problem with is that it’s a super specific design. Something more neutral could be better.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 18/09/2024 14:32

For anyone much younger than me I ask them what they like, for teens definitely a good look or ask them or parents what they like. And money is a good option.

Ohnobackagain · 18/09/2024 14:32

@StyleSiren I’d have wanted this at 17 and still would now

amzn.eu/d/epzLPJo

gotmyknickersinatwist · 18/09/2024 14:32

I disagree that it's childish, alt teens may like the kitsch-in-a-deliberate-way aesthetic (I had a powerpuff girls backpack in my late teens/early twenties) but it's maybe on the cheapy bag shop side of things. I could see an alt-kitsch-fashiony type carrying this, but more likely a boy tbh, and not a goth.

GLVF · 18/09/2024 14:30

BebbanburgIsMine · 18/09/2024 14:13

@GLVF

Leopard/Animal print is the most unsophisticated and tacky print ever!

Absolutely hideous.

@BebbanburgIsMine Depends how you wear it! I don't think anyone would describe me as tacky, but I know you can't vouch for that, so we'll agree to disagree.
I'm not talking women-with-inflatable-lips-and-caterpillar-brows leopard print, I'm talking maybe a printed belt with tonal top, or a bag or kitten heels with everything else pared back.
A matter of opinion, perhaps, whether you (one) can achieve a classy look with it. I like to think I can.

neverbeenskiing · 18/09/2024 14:23

BebbanburgIsMine · 18/09/2024 14:13

@GLVF

Leopard/Animal print is the most unsophisticated and tacky print ever!

Absolutely hideous.

Maybe so, but Leopard print accessories are very on trend this Autumn so a trendy 17 year old may like it.