To also lock cat out of the room?

Oh dear. You haven’t accepted that this is “his”
house now……..

just a joke from another cat slave 😂

@takealettermsjones

well to be fair that kind of reponse is to be expected when the poster is implying that good cat ownership means sacrificing your own sleep to accommodate the cats preference to be in your bedroom!

She said this after you called her a martyr and said you might nominate her for a Pride of Britain award.

You basically accused the OP of neglecting her cat. That's nasty and hardly just "offering an opinion" is it?

What you need is a cosy cat sleeping bag...

(Facebook reels clearly has an amazing algorithm to show me this right now!)

Well I wasn't going to post again but just tell me why you needed to get a final nasty dig in? My last post wasn't even addressed to you.

My intention when I put my original comment on was just to put one post on. It's only because of you , and other posters, quoting me back and being unpleasant have I come back to answer your snide remarks.

You posted in AIBU. I gave an opinion. You didn't like my opinion. Fair enough. Why you and other posters have to be so unpleasant about it I don't know.

You have plenty of other pp backing you up. Why not just ignore what I had to say? Why post in AIBU if you don't want differing viewpoints?

Well, she didn't accuse anyone of cruelty or neglect. Read her posts again 😉

Politeness is subjective, I guess.

On the flip side, maybe you shouldn't go around accusing people of being cruel or neglectful if you don't want backlash for it. I actually don't think that poster has been polite at all, and she's been (rightly) called out for her comments.

OP is doing absolutely nothing wrong - cats don't need to sleep in with their owners even if that's what they've been allowed to do before. Prioritising the sleep of a human is not "cruel" in any sense of the word.

It's a cat. Not a person, not a child.
Shut it in another room. If it doesn't have a cat flap it will be fine anywhere as long as it has a litter tray and food.
My cat is shut in the kitchen at night, he can come and go as he likes but even during the day he's not allowed in bedrooms.

I have - she said it's important to get to know a pet's individual needs and respond to them, so she said it was cruel to deny access to a bedroom if that's what the cat clearly wants. As I said, that's a bit different from putting a cat in the kitchen at night from day one. We have no idea whether the OP has tried anything like... simply putting the ornaments in a box.

Obviously you might not agree with her and that's fine, but actually that poster has been polite and simply offered her own view, and she's been met with defensive and mocking replies. I don't know why people post in AIBU if they can't handle hearing someone else's point of view!

Mine have always been shut in downstairs but with access to the cat flap. Each has been able to sleep, eat, go out at will. Several cat baskets so they can pick and choose where they sleep. I just find that easier. They seem happy.

Have you got my late Orange car, Cheddar reincarnated. She'd always make biscuits on my face at ungodly hours. It was a pain at the time, but I miss it now!

Cats are not nocturnal.

They are crepuscular (most active at dawn and dusk).

I really don't want to get into an argument over this.
But actually she listed all the places the cat couldn't go at night: kitchen too cold, living room not suitable because of dog, dd's room not suitable because of ornaments, OP's room not suitable because he keeps her awake.
So it does smack of not forward planning to take into account the poor cat's night time needs.

I'm not trying to knock the OP. But I admit I am fiercely pro cat. And pro a lot of pets actually. Not so sure about my pro human stance.

I'm not posting further on the thread

In fact, as someone who works with animals, I'd say the most unpleasant to be around (of any species) are those who are indulged in every aspect of their lives and who have never had any kind of boundaries enforced on them.

slightly off topic but why is every day things now described as 'bonding'
It's a nice bonding thing we have to find silly videos about them
twee twee

Read her other responses - she thinks it's cruel for cat owners to shut their cats out of bedrooms, even when it impacts their own sleep.

Actually, cats are not nocturnal - they're crepuscular.

Having pets doesn't translate to indulging their every whim and allowing them to rule your life, even when it starts to have a negative impact on your own health and happiness

My cat is full on nocturnal hunter - as soon as its dark outside he wants a big bowl of food then he goes out all night. He has access to a small utility room with his food in if he wants to shelter from rain. My DP leaves for work about 5.30am so he feeds him and lets him into the living room then, where he promptly curls up and goes to sleep all day. I don't let him in the bedroom.