i got engaged in Feb (yay) and immediately knew who I would want to be my 3 bridesmaid. Sister as MoH and 2 close friends. I’ve been friends with these girls for 7 years when we worked in a retail shop when we were at uni - we are close despite not seeing each other regularly / texting much. I have tried to organise dinner with the 2 bridesmaids but the younger one (27) is just not responding. She always cancels and it got to the point I just had dinner with the other friend as I wanted to touch base with her about her life and what’s been going on ( till this point we always socialised as a 3)
i have tried texting and ringing the bridesmaid but she just isn’t answering. She doesn’t read my messages and when she does she promises to ring me but she’s not free coz she’s at dinner or show. I don’t begrudge her having a life, but if she can’t even answer the phone to me when I want to ask basic qs like when are you free to do a dress shopping or do you need a plus one at which point should I take the hint that she’s not interested. I sent a fairly direct msg saying I understand life can be crazy and if she can’t be part of the wedding then I understand but she needs to tell me - silence for 2 days and then responds with hey I’ll call you tonight. Never rang. I rang her , no answer. Finally responded today saying she’s out at dinner and for me to text her my questions.
i am not dramatic- if you can’t be a bridesmaid, no skin off my back. But without information from her saying so I’m in limbo. Kicking her out of the WhatsApp group seems harsh but I don’t know what else to do.
thoughts ?