Uni flat dishes - who is in the wrong?

Student 2 IBU. Maybe they’ll use it as a lesson to wash their dishes in the future. Grim.

Both are in the wrong.

One should clean up after himself and the other should use their mouth and words rather than childish passive aggressive notes.

Housemate who left dirty dishes in the sink shouldn’t have done that.

Housemate who washed her own pan was in the right.

I find piles of dirty dishes to be stomach churning. There is really no excuse for not washing them right away. It takes less than 10 minutes. At the very least, rinse well, fill the sink with hot water & fairy and let them soak.

Dealing with others' food prep, haphazard food storage/dirty refrigerator, food odours, dirty dishes and mingingness is one reason I sacrificed a lot of other things in order to live alone when young. Ugh.

Student 2 can’t find the time to wash their own dishes but can find the time to write a ridiculous note?

Dont want your dishes covered in food bits? Well don’t put them in the sink then! Student 1 either had to wash up over them or touch other people’s dirty dishes themselves.

Student 2 shouldn't leave dirty dishes in the sink if she's so precious about them. They're both going to have a wake up call if this is the kind of shit fucking them off already. The absolute state of some of my friends uni halls were atrocious. I lucked out and ended up with 3 out of 4 girls who were tidy and clean so our flat was always spotless (apart from the first weekend we had an open door party and the 4th girl didn't want anything to do with us but left us a shitty note about not leaving a mess in communal areas). Oh boy the fun we had with her if she even dared leave a crumb in the kitchen after that 😂

Another vote for why do you care op?!

Student 2 is wrong. Wash your shit up and there is no problem.

I have form for writing "fuck off" on those kind of notes. Or burning them.

I think they should all grow up, stop being scuzzballs and wash up immediately after the meal

@Poiuytrewql antisocial how? What does your DH think she should have done?

Well fortunately we are not all like you.

You do you and let the OP post what she wants to post. It is a free country.

110 people have responded so they all find the thread interesting.

You don't have to read, let alone respond. Go away.

@jen337 , if OP want to mention that her daughter is at a London uni, then she's asking for it.

@alpacachino

Nope, that idea can get in the bin. I wouldn't be be washing up other peoples bolognaise dishes for them, when I've got a knife. Fork. Salad bowl! Wash up your own manky dishes!

This is standard behavior for uni students.

I would feel suffocated if my Mother obsessed over the minutiae of my life

It's going to be a long few years for you OP if you get invested in all these issues.

Aah, uni days!

The one who CBA to wash up as they go should buy themselves a(n extra) washing up bowl. Then they can leave their crockery in their bowl but not blocking the sink for everybody else to use, and have their precious plates free from bolognese washings (which admittedly are the most "contaminatey" of all - the fat and tomato seems to stick to everything, and to dye everything it sticks to!).

Or just learn their lesson and wash up as they go, like a considerate adult in a house share.

Student 1 is right - they needed to use the sink, they did so. Student 2 is wrong - so no one else is meant to use the sink because your lazy a** can't wash up after yourself?

Not sure which your DD is :|

I am now remembering with a shudder the takeaways I bought during uni days just to avoid having to cope with the pile of dishes left in the sink and all the pans used up and food-encrusted, left on the cooker by flatmates.

I think the one who left the dishes in the sink is marginally worse but neither is really pulling out all the stops on the domestic front.

Both should just get studio flats asap.

I think you both have a lot to learn about student accommodation.

1. no one will wash up
2. people will steal each others plates because they have no clean ones
3. if one person decides they can’t stand it and washes everything to be kind, they won’t be thanked and it won’t make any difference
4. the kitchen will be rancid for the full year until they move out and professional cleaners move in - mouldy bread, burnt pans, disgusting fridge, fat on the hob.

My advice would be to tell your daughter to chill because nothing she (I mean student 2) will do will make a blind bit of difference. she should keep her plates and cutlery in her room and bring one plate out at a time, wash it and return it to her room. She will be living in a den of filth until next May.

Finally, don’t share with boys in year two. (Obviously someone is going to come along and tell me how their DS did all the washing for the whole house and hoovered up every morning before lectures).

Student 1 is in the right for cleaning up after themselves.

Student 2 should wash their dishes and put them away more promptly if they don’t want them to be covered in washing up debris. Student 2 won’t be very popular leaving such notes.

Someone in my daughter's halls bought 8 washing up bowls and everyone had to put their own unwashed dishes into their own bowls. It did work, but it was quite funny going into her kitchen and seeing them all there.

@Cosyblankets

sell, I'll start by saying student 2 is in the wrong, she shouldn't have left her dishes in the sink & shouldn't have left a note. She should have just accepted she'd left her mess in someone else's way.

i wouldn't leave my dishes in the sink because I don't think it's fair on everyone else & because I wouldn't want them made 'dirtier'. I'm vegetarian & low carb, so mainly eat quite clean food (like salad) so, the dishes are 'used' but not really 'dirty' like with meat & grease.

Yabu for being a pendant.

This.

Cook dinner, eat dinner, wash up.

Like grownups.

I was born in September which entitles me to park across dropped kerbs and, probably, take a dribbly dog (if I had one) into an Hospital Operating Theatre.