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DS aged 3.9 is stood on our gate …

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indurently · 17/09/2024 13:29

He’s looking at cars, tractors and so on. We live on a country road. I’m pushing his sister on a swing.

And a couple just walked by and told me he shouldn’t be on the gate.

Racking my brains somewhat as to what we have done wrong!

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TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 17/09/2024 14:45

DickEmery · 17/09/2024 14:28

How come only rural gates are damaged by lack of hinge proximity?

Anyway tell them to fuck off OP. If they've already gone past, run after them and shout fuck off at them.

In rural areas, rights of way usually pass through other people's land, so learning to respect other people's property - including their gates - is more of an issue than in the city. Climbing over other people's gates is a big no-no.

Think about the impact of damaging a normal city garden gate. The only one you use frequently is likely to be your own, and the impact of damaging it is fairly minimal.

Now think about the gates you might pass through while walking through a farmyard, and the impact of damaging them. They see a lot more traffic than the average garden gate, and are likely to be the farmer's only means of securing a field that contains livestock. They are also likely to be a lot more expensive to repair/replace than a normal garden gate.

AAudreyHorne · 17/09/2024 14:44

DappledThings · 17/09/2024 14:33

Yes, as already explained. He was standing on it. He stood on it would be a completed action. He was standing on it was a continuing action. He was stood is incorrect.

Same with sitting and sat. He sat on the sofa. He was sitting on the sofa.

Is it rude to pick up on SPAG errors? The jury's still out. But in this case you asked so I've answered.

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Be careful if you go to Lancashire or Yorkshire, there's a very strong chance you won't understand what anyone is saying.
It is common in these areas to say 'he was stood there' or 'she is stood by the fire'.
It's a regional dialect. It may not be grammatically correct, but lots of regional dialect isn't.
You are nitpicking over an irrelevant point in a post about something completely different.
Like most of MN at the moment.

FeedingThem · 17/09/2024 14:43

gapattachment · 17/09/2024 14:27

It’s just shorthand for three years nine months.

It's really not.

Does it really matter? Ops kid is 3 coming 4. So not a just turned 3 toddler but practically a preschooler.

Moonshiners · 17/09/2024 14:43

Malvala · 17/09/2024 13:39

Sorry I cannot understand is stood. Is it is standing, or stood??? Is stood doesn't make any sense to me.

Pedant in action. Very good

BarbaraHoward · 17/09/2024 14:40

DickEmery · 17/09/2024 14:28

How come only rural gates are damaged by lack of hinge proximity?

Anyway tell them to fuck off OP. If they've already gone past, run after them and shout fuck off at them.

Size matters, I guess.

(More stress on the hinge the further along you are, which isn't likely to be very far in non-rural settings.)

BarbaraHoward · 17/09/2024 14:39

DickEmery · 17/09/2024 14:35

Good point. Was he upside down OP? Is he three and nine months or three and ten point eight months? What is stood? I have never before encountered such a word. What does it mean? What is a gate? Are you rural? We are rural. Are you sure it was your gate? Have you checked the deeds? Before you know it there will be an elderly Korean lady stood on your spiky cow rural gate and all hell will break loose. Best go back in your house OP. Take your stood child of indeterminate age with you. Don't answer the door. I mean this kindly. It's for the best.

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Grin

Was he eating some UPF while he was stood standing there?

knittingdad · 17/09/2024 14:39

My niece is 3y6m and the last time I saw her she was adroitly clambering over her Grandpa's old steel tubes and broken-down boat. I wouldn't be concerned at all about her standing partway up a gate.

People generally are too restrictive of what children should be allowed to do.

BarbaraHoward · 17/09/2024 14:38

DappledThings · 17/09/2024 14:33

Yes, as already explained. He was standing on it. He stood on it would be a completed action. He was standing on it was a continuing action. He was stood is incorrect.

Same with sitting and sat. He sat on the sofa. He was sitting on the sofa.

Is it rude to pick up on SPAG errors? The jury's still out. But in this case you asked so I've answered.

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She's writing informally and used a long-established regional phrase in a way that was perfectly understandable. She's grand.

And as for 3.9 - again, I think it was pretty clear, but any decimal wouldn't have changed the meaning, so who cares.

ABirdsEyeView · 17/09/2024 14:38

@DickEmery Grin

ABirdsEyeView · 17/09/2024 14:36

Your gate, your child, your business!

Sone people just can't help themselves and have to pass comment out loud on things which would be better staying in their heads.

DickEmery · 17/09/2024 14:35

crumblingschools · 17/09/2024 14:30

Was he rude to them as they walked by? Was he standing on the wrong end?

Good point. Was he upside down OP? Is he three and nine months or three and ten point eight months? What is stood? I have never before encountered such a word. What does it mean? What is a gate? Are you rural? We are rural. Are you sure it was your gate? Have you checked the deeds? Before you know it there will be an elderly Korean lady stood on your spiky cow rural gate and all hell will break loose. Best go back in your house OP. Take your stood child of indeterminate age with you. Don't answer the door. I mean this kindly. It's for the best.

DappledThings · 17/09/2024 14:33

indurently · 17/09/2024 14:00

I didn’t understand what she didn’t understand. I thought it was someone a bit dim to be totally honest 😂 Did I make a SPAG error? I didn’t even notice!

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Yes, as already explained. He was standing on it. He stood on it would be a completed action. He was standing on it was a continuing action. He was stood is incorrect.

Same with sitting and sat. He sat on the sofa. He was sitting on the sofa.

Is it rude to pick up on SPAG errors? The jury's still out. But in this case you asked so I've answered.

Cas112 · 17/09/2024 14:31

indurently · 17/09/2024 14:26

No, just a wooden one Smile

God knows, just ignore them😂

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indurently · 17/09/2024 14:30

No - it took me a moment to register they were talking to me!

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SherbetSweeties · 17/09/2024 14:30

indurently · 17/09/2024 13:32

Hmm not sure what this means (being thick sorry!)

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Possibly standing on the hinge could weaken or break the hinge. But it's your gate and your child

crumblingschools · 17/09/2024 14:30

Was he rude to them as they walked by? Was he standing on the wrong end?

AllThatFancyPaintsAsFair · 17/09/2024 14:29

Did you not ask why?

DickEmery · 17/09/2024 14:28

How come only rural gates are damaged by lack of hinge proximity?

Anyway tell them to fuck off OP. If they've already gone past, run after them and shout fuck off at them.

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indurently · 17/09/2024 14:28

gapattachment · 17/09/2024 14:27

It’s just shorthand for three years nine months.

It's really not.

It is used on here and real life sometimes. I don’t think it’s worth arguing about either way tbh, I really don’t, and find it strange that you scoured the post to find something to criticise.

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NewGreenDuck · 17/09/2024 14:28

I did this all the time when I was a kid. The only instruction I had from parents was to stand on the hinge end, as others have said.
I would also take my shoes and socks off to walk across the adjacent fields to see the pigs. ( I had the additional instruction to keep shoes and socks clean!) When the pigs were replaced by cattle I would climb in the hedge and feed them cabbage leaves from the garden.
I bet the people who commented to your LO would have had a blue fit, had they watched me!

gapattachment · 17/09/2024 14:27

It’s just shorthand for three years nine months.

It's really not.

LeafHunter · 17/09/2024 14:27

It’s very common on MN to say 3.9 (for example) as 3years 9 months. I’ve seen our health visitor do the same so although it might be different ro what you’re used to, it’s entirely normal.

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indurently · 17/09/2024 14:26

No, just a wooden one Smile

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Cas112 · 17/09/2024 14:26

Is the gate spiky.. Usually I would say they are being OTT but I actually know an adult who slipped and landed on a gate with spikes and went in his chin

So maybe they are over cautious over something like that loool

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indurently · 17/09/2024 14:24

gapattachment · 17/09/2024 14:23

0.9 of a year is 10.8 months.

They were probably just trying to be helpful since you clearly weren't aware that what he was doing would damage the gate.

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It’s just shorthand for three years nine months.

I don’t think it would damage the gate, ds is small.

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