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DS aged 3.9 is stood on our gate …

211 replies

indurently · 17/09/2024 13:29

He’s looking at cars, tractors and so on. We live on a country road. I’m pushing his sister on a swing.

And a couple just walked by and told me he shouldn’t be on the gate.

Racking my brains somewhat as to what we have done wrong!

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alpacachino · 17/09/2024 15:13

DickEmery · 17/09/2024 15:11

It would if the three year old was a horse.

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I don't think OP's three year old is a horse?

AlexaSetATimer · 17/09/2024 15:13

None of your fucking business you nosey cunts.

Best delivered by walking right up to them uncomfortably close in their personal space, hissing it with wide crazy eyes, and walking off. Usually works.

jen337 · 17/09/2024 15:12

DickEmery · 17/09/2024 15:11

It would if the three year old was a horse.

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This explains everything, thanks!

rainbowunicorn · 17/09/2024 15:12

gapattachment · 17/09/2024 14:27

It’s just shorthand for three years nine months.

It's really not.

Oh for God sake. It really is. You see it all the time. My health visitor used it, as do many others.
Everyone else managed to figure out what OP meant.

ErrolTheDragon · 17/09/2024 15:12

onfiree · 17/09/2024 15:07

Yes I think you’re in the wrong. You’re pushing another child on a swing meanwhile your 3 year old is unattended stood on a gate? I’d be concerned if he fell off and injured himself, especially as you’re occupied with another child. If he slipped would you catch him in time?

Omg what on earth do you think about parents with more than one kid who take them to a playground?Shock😂

DickEmery · 17/09/2024 15:11

jen337 · 17/09/2024 15:10

Doubt the weight of a 3 year old could damage the structural integrity that much.

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It would if the three year old was a horse.

TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 17/09/2024 15:11

jen337 · 17/09/2024 15:10

Doubt the weight of a 3 year old could damage the structural integrity that much.

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You'd be surprised. Standing at the opposite end to the hinge generates a lever effect so the force on the hinge will be much greater than the child's weight.

That poster was wrong to say that standing at the hinge end would be the problem though - it's the opposite.

onfiree · 17/09/2024 15:11

DickEmery · 17/09/2024 15:09

*standing

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Christ, how pedantic. I’m not sure if you’re making a joke about the other posters on this thread or being serious, however I was merely mirroring OP’s language ie using their own wording as they understand.

alpacachino · 17/09/2024 15:11

Malvala · 17/09/2024 13:39

Sorry I cannot understand is stood. Is it is standing, or stood??? Is stood doesn't make any sense to me.

Stood is the past tense and past participle of "Stand"

pigsDOfly · 17/09/2024 15:11

Dear god.

Someone starts a thread about an encounter with some nosy people in connection to her child standing on her garden gate. The OP used stood in a way that's not strictly correct and posted her child's age in a slightly unclear manner, and immediately you get the 'puzzled' posts.

Are people who can't understand a post unless the grammar and spelling, and everything else, is 100% correct really unable to comprehend what is, after all, casual speech for many people, or are they just trying to appear superior?

The faux incomprehension is really tedious. And no, it doesn't make you appear superior, just nasty.

jen337 · 17/09/2024 15:10

SherbetSweeties · 17/09/2024 14:30

Possibly standing on the hinge could weaken or break the hinge. But it's your gate and your child

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Doubt the weight of a 3 year old could damage the structural integrity that much.

TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 17/09/2024 15:10

onfiree · 17/09/2024 15:07

Yes I think you’re in the wrong. You’re pushing another child on a swing meanwhile your 3 year old is unattended stood on a gate? I’d be concerned if he fell off and injured himself, especially as you’re occupied with another child. If he slipped would you catch him in time?

The odds of a child seriously injuring themselves by falling from a normal wooden garden gate are low.

Yes, it could happen, but having falls and occasional scrapes is how children learn about risk and safety. You can't always be there to catch them, and this is a low risk scenario.

GalaticalFarce · 17/09/2024 15:09

Yes you should have him trained to stand beside you and await your next instruction.

alpacachino · 17/09/2024 15:09

Does it have spikes on it?
I vividly remember a fireman Sam book or episode where normal got his head stuck in a fence and they had to butter his ears to get him put. Maybe they have seen that too.

Proudtobeanortherner · 17/09/2024 15:09

indurently · 17/09/2024 13:32

Hmm not sure what this means (being thick sorry!)

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Rural children are taught never to stand on or climb over gates because it damages them. If it is essential to do this then they are taught to be as close to the hinges as possible so that they minimise the amount of damage.

DickEmery · 17/09/2024 15:09

onfiree · 17/09/2024 15:07

Yes I think you’re in the wrong. You’re pushing another child on a swing meanwhile your 3 year old is unattended stood on a gate? I’d be concerned if he fell off and injured himself, especially as you’re occupied with another child. If he slipped would you catch him in time?

*standing

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jen337 · 17/09/2024 15:08

ReadingSoManyThreads · 17/09/2024 14:04

YABU for stating age as 3.9 What on earth does this even mean?

Bloody eu. My son is 367 and an eighth moons old.

CamCurls · 17/09/2024 15:08

You should have used the classic motherspeak term “four next birthday”. Still works when they get to 42 next birthday.

onfiree · 17/09/2024 15:07

Yes I think you’re in the wrong. You’re pushing another child on a swing meanwhile your 3 year old is unattended stood on a gate? I’d be concerned if he fell off and injured himself, especially as you’re occupied with another child. If he slipped would you catch him in time?

ErrolTheDragon · 17/09/2024 15:07

Perhaps the random walkers thought the OP might have a horse she'd forgotten about lurking in her garden ready to bolt?

jen337 · 17/09/2024 15:06

TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 17/09/2024 15:00

With his mum literally stood (hah!) right next to him?

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Where did it say she was next to him? Also why didn’t op just ask “why?” Wondering how the conversation went.

rainbowunicorn · 17/09/2024 15:06

Malvala · 17/09/2024 13:39

Sorry I cannot understand is stood. Is it is standing, or stood??? Is stood doesn't make any sense to me.

I'm sure, if you try really, really hard you will figure it out.

TarantinoIsAMisogynist · 17/09/2024 15:04

Who cares what 3.9 means?

If the 9 is for mths, he's 3yrs 9mths. If the 9 is a decimal, then he's 3 yrs, 10mths and 24 days. Hardly any difference at all, and has no impact on whether the OP should let him swing on her own gate or not.

ErrolTheDragon · 17/09/2024 15:03

Waffle78 · 17/09/2024 14:50

Putting weight on the gate causes the gate to drop. Making it difficult to open and close. Fine if it's your own gate but he's doing it on public property.

It was the OPs own gate.Confused