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Neighbour is a Tw** …

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Fulltimemamabear · 17/09/2024 11:14

Just as the title says really!

It all started off amicably, helping each other put the Xmas lights up, polite hello’s and invited round for a play date (children the same age but with different childminders) and then it all went quiet from them. We suspect it’s because one evening in summer at around 8pm we had friends over for a BBQ - very quiet no music or overly loud chatting however their child had been screaming in the garden for 3 hours straight (regular occurrence) and one of our friends said gosh she goes on a lot! He said it in heat but he did have a point, not once does the mum
ever take the child in or try to get the little one to keep it down other than just saying stop it then doing literally nothing to enforce that. I suspect she heard it as our garden fences literally touch and their seating area is against the fence as is ours. We kept smiling saying hi when seeing them it just turnt awkward after this point. She knew it wasn’t us that said this as our friend has a distinctive accent (and also lives on the same road so she knows him).

Nothing has actually happened yet she’s taken this sudden and huge disliking to me and my family, avoiding eye contact or ignoring us if she does see us, which is fine she can do what she likes but I’m finding it very petty and unnecessary. The first thing we thought was odd was, whenever they go on holiday they say feel free to use our drive as we have a work car each and a family car, we only have a car park space for 1 so often park on the road, whereas they have one of the new build tarmac style drives which is in between our house and theirs. They didn’t say that thus time and asked another couple 4 doors down if they wanted to use it. Fine that’s her choice but just seemed odd, the other couple had enough space on their own drive, just seemed so we wouldn’t use it for parking (not that we would’ve without permission!!) then sudd let 3 cameras were put outside their house, one pointing almost towards our house. Then fast forward a month later the only time my partner had ver done it, he had parked out the front. Of our house, rather than go down to the end of the road where it’s very awkward to turn, he reversed literally just the back wheels onto the start of their drive, there was no cars whatsoever on it, she happened to drive towards us as he did it and she went mental shaking her head saying no do not do not ever reverse on my drive without permission how dare you! And wagging her finger at us. He obviously said okay sorry and drove off. Ever since she will not look at us! We had a parcel left by DPD yesterday down the side of their drive, the courier obviously mistook it for our drive as their garage is attached to both houses and within an hour later there was a big sign saying this is not property of number 38, it’s 36. Just all seems ridiculous!

Just so so strange how people act nowadays to neighbours. I don’t expect to be best friends but politeness costs nothing.

AIBU thinking a bit of manners are needed?

OP posts:
Fulltimemamabear · 17/09/2024 12:07

Missflowerpots · 17/09/2024 11:56

Lots off these neighbour threads.
I wonder if any of the posters look at themselves and their own behaviour.

I agree there is, however if we had done anything that I thought was wrong I’d of course apologised, the only thing we have ever done is reverse ever so slightly on their empty drive, and apologised straight after.

OP posts:
Fulltimemamabear · 17/09/2024 12:06

Azerothi · 17/09/2024 12:03

How old are you all? I ask because you have tried to disguise the word twat, like you're in trouble if you say it.

Wasn’t sure if you were allowed to swear on here! Not that it’s a particularly awful word

OP posts:
Azerothi · 17/09/2024 12:03

How old are you all? I ask because you have tried to disguise the word twat, like you're in trouble if you say it.

poppyzbrite4 · 17/09/2024 12:03

SocksAndTheCity · 17/09/2024 11:57

What is a 'Tw**'?

Twat

SocksAndTheCity · 17/09/2024 11:57

What is a 'Tw**'?

Missflowerpots · 17/09/2024 11:56

Lots off these neighbour threads.
I wonder if any of the posters look at themselves and their own behaviour.

ErickBroch · 17/09/2024 11:56

I don't think they're unreasonable to not like you anymore - the comment about the child obviously upset them (fair enough) and they don't need to offer you their parking space etc. It seems like they're upset with what was said and then these minor issues are compounding and making things worse.

I agree that reversing slightly on their drive, to me, is fine and their reaction OTT. However they are clearly upset already and this is all just adding up.

Either talk to her and ask what's wrong/apologise for the comment from your friend or just choose to ignore it

poppyzbrite4 · 17/09/2024 11:56

OP you're obviously not friends anymore for whatever reason. She's not going to be polite but that doesn't mean you also have to be rude. Just smile, be polite and go about your business.

alpacachino · 17/09/2024 11:49

AIBU thinking a bit of manners are needed?

Looks at thread title.."Neighbour is a Tw**"

Rightio