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Am at a loss to how to deal with 13 yo stealing

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applebananagraphs · 17/09/2024 06:22

My dd2 is 13 and I have no clue how to deal with her. I have tried everything, reminding her, telling her off, explaining to her why its not right, all to no effect. Grounding is nothing because she rarely goes out with friends, and its impossible to remove her phone.

She is really rude, like insulting and hurling personal attacks at her 16yo sister and me. Every night when we have dinner I get called a useless cook and she criticises everything I cook and refuses to finish her food.

The thing that bothers us most is she has the habit of stealing from her sister and I. She uses dd1's perfume without permission and she messes with her stuff. I strongly suspect she has stolen my money before and she definitely steals my skin care and make up from my wardrobe. I have no clue how to deal with her

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alpacachino · 17/09/2024 06:29

applebananagraphs · 17/09/2024 06:26

She would scream, punch the walls, and would cause destruction to my property and it would end in physical fight

Gosh she has serious phone addiction. I second the counselling

applebananagraphs · 17/09/2024 06:27

alpacachino · 17/09/2024 06:26

You need to hit her where it hurts. She uses your stuff then she has to buy it for you to replace it. Take her phone off her.

I have tried asking her to but she just refuses to and I can't exactly make her

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applebananagraphs · 17/09/2024 06:26

offyoujollywelltrot · 17/09/2024 06:24

Why is it impossible to take her phone?

She would scream, punch the walls, and would cause destruction to my property and it would end in physical fight

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alpacachino · 17/09/2024 06:26

You need to hit her where it hurts. She uses your stuff then she has to buy it for you to replace it. Take her phone off her.

applebananagraphs · 17/09/2024 06:25

Gimmeabreak2025 · 17/09/2024 06:24

To be honest she sounds very unhappy can you look into counselling for her.

do you mind explaining more to me? She has everything and hasn't expressed anything like that

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Gimmeabreak2025 · 17/09/2024 06:24

To be honest she sounds very unhappy can you look into counselling for her.

offyoujollywelltrot · 17/09/2024 06:24

Why is it impossible to take her phone?