Could this be passive aggressive fat shaming?

It's your fingers that gets to me. I could barely move my fingers to type because it was that cold in my old office.

I'd complain to my manager that it was seriously affecting my productivity, but she was already on my side. We used to hide electric heaters under our desks to keep warm. We weren't allowed them because they weren't PAT tested. So someone would give the alert if the electrician came round so we could unplug them.

I never saw who was messing with the air con because it was a huge HQ, but I swear to you I'd punch whoever it was square in the face if I ever find them. I pledge vengeance, in this life or the next!

Agree. It's the chill of the air con rather than the temp of the whole room which gets into my bones.

Our Sainsbury's is SO cold I cannot wait to get out of there. It baffles me. They spend millions on marketing, yet don't consider the comfort of their customers.
It was hideous in the summer, I took to taking my coat with me. I wasn't the only one.
I understand it's to keep the food fresh and they don't want to put it behind doors or in cabinets because people want to be able to grab things easily.

It being women makes more sense…well sort of, I don’t get it regardless, I’m like you and it would have the opposite effect 🤢 I wonder if there are any women who enjoy male messy eaters 🤔

My mother was a matron in a hospital for decades. Her PET HATE was the ward being too hot. She always said it was a breeding ground for bugs and would throw the windows open. I'm sure all her patients suddenly felt much better and able to go home (to get away from her tyranny - she even had a rule about which side the "open" side of the pillow was to be on!)

And yes, in this day and age we need to not be cranking the heating up unnecessarily. Think of the financial cost as well as the cost to the planet!

I think you’re insecure about your size and should probably work to change it- either by losing weight or working on your confidence. No idea why your DH made that connection, they’re just commenting on not liking fans blowing at them all day rather than your weight.

I have had to wear a parka in a library. That shouldn’t be necessary surely. Tbf people complained and then it was like a sauna. There must be some middle ground here.

I think as @TheGreatIndoors says, it must be about oral sex. It’s not just burgers, it’s anything messy, the more that spills for her the better, although she’s at pains to point out that it’s only women that she considers to be hot. Whereas I see that and feel a bit sick and think someone needs a bib. Doesn’t matter how hot they are, it would turn me straight off.

I disagree. There’s something about air con cold that gets right into your bones and makes you feel quite unwell. No amount of layers that would be remotely suitable for the workplace can combat it.

Haha no definitely not doing that. I'm too busy worrying about myself to be trying to upset others.

I do absolutely loathe freezing cold offices though. I spent ten miserable years at an office where someone cranked the air con up to 11 every time there was the slightest sign of sunshine. I'll happily admit I'm still bitter about it.

And I wear shorts in January so that should tell you how bloody cold it was! The bastards!!!!!! 😁

I can’t say she’s had a very friendly set of responses. Maybe she feels upset. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Although actual pathological "feeder" fantasies about getting the woman up to 600lbs and immobile...those are more to do with control. Not a harmless imagining the person with their face in YOUR meat.

The eating fetishes are usually about...oral sex...just sayin'

Kebab, anyone?

Cannot comprehend this! Has she said why? People are interesting creatures, that’s for sure…

Therd is judgment in both directions in reality - esp MN where people are anonymous - and the one engenders the other.
It’s pretty low.

@Arctangent hello! No it's fine, have your small appetite. Just don't loudly make it your entire personality whilst side-eying a load of fatties please!

Some women too 😉

I have a friend who goes weak at the knees watching someone eat a messy burger. 🤣 weirdo

In general men feel the cold much less than women. That’s why the men aren’t commenting, not that they’re nicer than the women.

Obviously there are some exceptions to that - menopausal women being one, and yes often larger women - but generally women feel colder. That’s why offices and conference venues are always so cold - the temperature is usually set to men’s comfort.

There are a great many women who care what men think, sorry to disappoint!

Men like a woman who enjoys a steak cos it apparently means she...enjoys putting meat in her mouth...

Not necessarily. My work has a woman who likes her heater on full blast, and another who has hers blowing cold air. My desk is between theirs so my front is hot and my back is cold! I like my window cracked because I hate smells. Someone else thinks it's fine to spray deodorant and eat fish suppers at his desk. It's just part of the crappiness of a workplace, not everything suits everyone but if it's not causing actual distress you just put up with it. It isn't personal.
My own experience with GP surgeries is that they tend to attract women who fuss over small things. Again, not personal.

I was wondering if that was you! Hi again 😁

I'm well on your side on that thread but I'm not so convinced on this thread. I think it's bullshit that people should be judged for taking weight loss drugs, yes. But equally, I don't want to be judged because I don't have a massive appetite. Like I said on that thread, I haven't done anything special to not be mad for food. So I'm not trying to ram my small appetite down anyone's throat. It doesn't even occur to me that other people would be perceiving it as sniping at them.

Now that I hear people are thinking that, please let me reassure you that it isn't the way of it. I like food but I can't eat when I'm not hungry. That's all.

Who the fuck cares about what men like? 🤣 My goodness, how very feminist. 🤣

I’ll eat my salad. I won’t be ‘devouring’, I’ll leave that to the competitive overeaters.

There’s a fetish where men like to watch women eat messy food. Not saying this is the case for a woman eating steak but I wonder if it taps into a similar thing.

Why do men seem to be able to have a fetish for everything?

You and your cronies enjoy your sexist stereotypes don’t you?!

Well here's my thread on losing weight on MJ (I've namechanged but I'm the OP). plenty of discussion about thin people judging fat people

You shouldn't take weight loss drugs. Learn about healthy eating, eat less and exercise more. | Mumsnet