Who is BU? Kids had noro, their dad is refusing to take them to school

I would message the school and explain you have Noro and whilst your kids are recovered, as a single parent you have no-one to take them to school and cannot afford a taxi. Due to the vomiting etc you cannot drive them in and the only person you can ask is their Father and he has a new baby and he is steadfastly refusing to take the kids to school in case Noro gets passed to his newborn.

If they (the school) can offer an practical assistance or advice, it would be appreciated but failing that, the kids will need to stay off school with you which given your ill health, is really the last thing you want.

I have to say I do not get the Dads rationale though, he will collect them but not drop them off...will then be less contagious then??? He can pick them up without coming in the house surely?

Here's a thought, tell him to pick them up and look after them as you are too ill!

Do you not think the teachers have other things to do other than transport children?

With a small baby I understand him tbh. Noro can be really dangerous for them. Even if the kids are over it you still have it and you're in a house together so they will carry your germs on their clothes and stuff.
I guess you'll all just have to have a chilled day at home

Ps. I think you were out of order to send them to school today. Now loads of kids are going to be puking up

There's other ways he could deal with it surely?

Just keep them off and say they are still unwell and you don't want to spread it. How do the school know they are well? Your ex is a dick.

It is probably one of the few benefits of having two homes. See also Covid.

Personally I think if the baby is literally a new born and mum is feeling all sore and stuff too then I think it's perfectly reasonable.

If he is unwilling to do it, then maybe he could be the one to make alternative arrangements?

Can he walk them to school masked up, and make no physical contact with them? He might already be infected anyway. Maybe he shouldn't handle the baby for a couple of days just in case.

Apparently that's a reasonable risk to expose the new baby to in order to avoid the OP's kids missing a day or two of school 🙄.

It is vile and highly contagious.My DP came back with it after a trip away. I tried so hard to avoid catching it but myself and DS came down with it by end of the week. If you take DC to A & E with it how do they protect the other patients and stop it going round the hospital?

Tell the school to come collect them then?
My children's school would be ok under the circumstances

Tbh OP i think if the shoe was on the other foot you’d be refusing too.

It's a horrid situation OP, but my little one ended up in hospital because of norovirus - I understand them wanting to keep their distance.

I’m sorry you are dealing with such a shit OP.

For what it’s worth. I don’t agree with PP saying they ‘understand because he doesn’t want to risk giving it to the new baby’ at all.

They are his shared children, and his shared responsibility. He is also responsible for their education, regardless of his changed circumstances. A new baby doesn’t mean he is no longer jointly responsible for his existing children. A new family shouldn’t mean his existing children have to suffer, or have a Dad that has ‘reduced’ his Dad capacity.

Yes, it’s a risk the new baby might catch it (albeit a very very minimal one and quite frankly a ridiculous excuse - as 48 hours sickness free, and the children are not in contact with new baby) and one he will just have to take.

Sending hugs and hope you don’t feel too horrendous x

That the OP tells the school to take a hike.

I understand the concerns around persistent absenteeism, but schools are getting too big for their boots these days when it comes to insisting parents send unwell/infectious children in.

So what do you suggest?

Noro is like a combination of a D&V bug plus the flu. I've never known anything like it, felt like I was dying.

BTW how do you know it's norovirus?

Yes, but not by unnecessarily exposing a very young baby to norovirus.

Could the kids go in by taxi? As their dad has said he'll pick them up.

Or tell school there is an infection risk of them carrying it from you, into school, as you are so unwell.

Why would the school be on your case? If you told them today last symptoms were Saturday night, you can just as easily phone tomorrow morning and say ummm sorry was a bit of a relapse on Monday and so the 48hr clock has reset so they won’t be in until Thursday at the earliest.

You can self-certify that your children are too sick for school for over a week.

Could you ask a neighbour to take them to school, or a parent of one of their friends? If you are feeling that ill, you really don't need them under your feet all day. You might feel well enough to collect them or arrange something with another friend.

And what about his existing children? Don't they matter now?

@EverybodyWantsTo that's not what she said at all. They should have been off today anyway as they were ill Thursday-Saturday

School can insist they go in all they want but they're not going to be coming over to pick them up are they?

If you can't find anybody else to take them and you are really still too sick in the morning then they will have to stay home.

Is there a class WhatsApp or Facebook page? Maybe if you message now another parent might be able to take your kids in the morning?