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Winterrush · 16/09/2024 17:30

I went to a family event on Saturday and my younger cousin (22) made a comment that I thought was rude, but maybe I'm just being sensitive. Please let me know your thoughts.

For context, I had a rubbish time in school, I was bullied for years and ended up bunking off half the time. I don't even remember taking any exams but I must have and obviously didn't get very good grades. I chose not to go to college/university and went straight into a full time job instead. I've always worked and been sensible with money/saved up for things and supported myself without any family help.

My cousin is very intelligent, good grades in school and is currently in university. She worked part time for a couple of months last year but apart from that her parents have supported her financially. Holidays, clothes, phones, driving lessons and they bought her a car when she passed her test. She's spoilt (her mother's words, not mine).

Anyway, I own a 10 year old BMW that wasn't expensive (compared to what a lot of people pay for cars nowadays) but as the previous owner modified it and had it wrapped it does look newer. She must have seen my car and said to me "How is it that I went to school and got grades, yet you're the one driving round in a BMW". She caught me off guard so I didn't say anything, but wish I'd said "because I work". So because I didn't get good grades in school I can't have anything nice, that's how I took it anyway.

Would this piss you off?

OP posts:
ShortWide · 16/09/2024 17:36

@Pocketlint What a nasty comment.

ThanksHunPenneys · 16/09/2024 17:36

I agree tone is everything, I can see how it might upset you.
Are you particularly sensitive about your education experience? I can understand how you would be, but you may be extra sensitive here.

Pocketlint · 16/09/2024 17:34

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pinkyredrose · 16/09/2024 17:34

She's academically smart but emotionally dim. Take no notice, most people talk occasional shite when young.

HeddaGarbled · 16/09/2024 17:33

Tone is everything. From one of my cousins, I’d have taken that as a jokey compliment.

PrincessofWells · 16/09/2024 17:31

No.