Would you find this comment rude?

I think her message was probably misconstrued. She meant that despite not going to uni and following the traditional route, you've still done alright for yourself.

Probably was a bit bitchy, but just brush it off.

She sounds a bit dim, despite her education. Seems odd her mum would say she's spoilt because that's down to the parents surely.

Sounds like you are doing well in your life and if you're happy that's what matters. It's never too late to go back to education if you want to. Everyone I know who was a 'mature student' made much more of their opportunities.

Yep, she’s jealous and rude.
If she says things like this again, be ready to hit back. “Well Flowerpot, this is how it works. I go out to work in a good job, work hard and earn the money that paid for my car. Your wonderful grades have nothing to do with my earnings. OK?”

She's a twat. Your subsequent posts show how much of a twat she is. She clearly thinks she is better than a lot of people and therefore entitled to things or a lifestyle they shouldn't have, seeing as they are not as smart/pretty as her but life will teach her to know better. Let's hope she learns a bit of humility. But the Christmas story is so awful, I would personally drop her. She certainly wouldn't be welcome to come into my home and insult me like that.

Think you may need to look up the definition of Sarcasm.....

.. she actually came to ours last year for Christmas, turned up, had dinner, asked if we could open presents even though she'd not bought any gifts herself, just assumed we'd all bought gifts for her and then asked her mum if they could leave 10 minutes after opening her gifts

See this puts a different spin on it! She sounds like a horrible little madam - I wouldn't have anything more to do with her.

Yes I think it’s rude, it would take me aback.

My cousin used to say stuff like this constantly. Could be about who got more sleep that night or who's sink had more washing up in it and it always somehow turned into 'well I WENT TO UNI and you didnt' i dont talk to her anymore. Funny because at one point we were both single mums on benefits but of course she was LESS disgusting as she had a degree. Or when she got cheated on it was MORE disgraceful as she had a bit of student debt😂. Lifes nicer without people like that, the intent and undertone is malicious.

Having read all OP’s posts of course it was rude and it was meant to be. It was meant to put OP in her place as uneducated and (rightfully) unsuccessful. It makes me think of “thin privilege “ when thin women attack and humiliate women who don’t obsess about weight or who are not conventionally attractive and say “I work hard for this body how come you got a good boyfriend?” Its a kind of just world fallacy. She is saying “in a just world I have everything and you don’t.”

Your cousin is a right little bitch.

She caught me off guard so I didn't say anything, but wish I'd said "because I work

Next time, say it.

In all honesty I think you both need to get over school. It was ages ago. I suggest counselling for you and learning basic manners for your cousin

@Pocketlint get back to your homework

Yes it's a bit rude but essentially she's envious of you (which is a tiny bit satisfying, no?)

My sister was always the golden girl, top grades, very academic etc. I was made to feel like my family didn't expect me to amount to much. But once academia was over my sister floundered whilst I enjoyed the world of work and flourished.

A few years ago she said sourly "you've got the life everyone expected me to have". I think your cousin might be similar - she was used to getting the best of everything and is peeved that you are doing well/better. She thinks she deserves it (because she is special) and you don't. But as you say there's no magic to it, try working a FT job!

Vile comment!!

If it’s a one- off comment, then let it go.

In many ways, she’s complimenting you for doing so well, considering you haven’t had the advantages she’s had, plus also expressing disappointment in her lack of achievement.

It sounds like one if those foot-in -mouth comments.

Yes, it would. It's rude, entitled and ignorant.

Yes, it’s a nasty comment. I did very well in school and University but earn less than all my friends because they worked really hard setting up businesses. I’d never dream of making a comment like that. Your cousin sounds unpleasant.

I don't think it was rude - it was a jokey comment and you sound like you're a little oversensitive.

I agree. She's only 22 and has a bit of growing up to do yet so I'd let it go too.😎

Definitely rude.

Yes, she's saying you shouldn't have nice things. Certainly shouldn't have better things than her.

Those saying she's young. Nah, my uni age dd wouldn't dream of being so crass.

I would have absolutely replied back saying it’s because you work hard to be able to afford nice things, even if in a jokey way.

She is not better than you just because she’s educated on paper.

University is not suited to everyone, which is why there is such a big push for T levels and apprenticeships etc.
We all learn in different ways.

Well done you for working hard and overcoming your issues from school.

I think it's rude. She's saying "I think I'm better than you because I'm more academic and I think it's unfair you have nicer things than I do".

But she sounds young, self centred and socially unaware. She might improve as she gets older. But not necessarily.