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To be absolutely sick of excuses being made for men's disgusting sexual behaviour? Trigfer warning. Hugh Edwards sentencing.

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UCConfuseMe · 16/09/2024 13:13

Just read that Hugh Edwards ahs been given a suspended sentence.

And if course it's not his fault. He had a mean Daddy and some mental health issues and some bad things going on in his life, poor lamb.

All that made him say 'amazing' when sent photos of children as young as 7 being molested.

Having a rough time and a strict father doesn't make you a fucking paedophile!!!

Take responsibility for your predatory and vile behaviour!!

To be absolutely sick of excuses being made for men's disgusting sexual behaviour? Trigfer warning. Hugh Edwards sentencing.
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Cantalever · 18/09/2024 14:21

WinterMorn · 16/09/2024 13:30

Absolutely not true. A suspended sentence IS a custodial sentence, with the first presumption being activation should there be any breach or further offence.

But its NOT custodial, is it? He and others will know that he "got off" these appalling crimes. He should have had a heavy prison sentence to serve as a deterrent to others by signalling that these behaviours are not acceptable.

ilovesooty · 18/09/2024 14:14

ilovesooty · 18/09/2024 14:12

In what way have I appointed myself as a monitor on the thread?

If you feel that any of my posts are a personal attack on others and breach the talk guidelines do feel free to report. ETA that was to @YellowphantGrey

Windchimesandsong · 18/09/2024 14:13

Sentencing is also about the best way to secure not reoffending as well as punishment. It’s important to undertstand why we have a system of punishment options and mitigation and pleading guilty matters too.

I generally agree. However I don't see that there's any mitigation for child sex abuse. Except genuine mental incapacity/severe mental illness - which isn't a mitigation as such but would require a secure hospital rather than prison.

We need people to be reintegrated safely into society.

I don't think that's possible with paedophiles. It's a urge/attraction they probably can't control (although they presumably can control whether or not to act on their urges?).

I agree that taking the “law” into the hands of the public does not benefit society.

I do agree with this. Apart from anything else, sometimes innocent people can be mistakenly accused or convicted.

DIY Justice isn’t tolerable in a civilised society and nor is sending more and more to prison when the best change of not refunding is an alternative course of action.

With some crimes I agree that prison isn't necessarily the best option. However child sex abuse is not one of them.

Firstly, as well as punishment, deterrence, and rehabilitation where possible, people often forget that another very important purpose of prison (or, where more appropriate, a secure hospital) is protection of the public.

Secondly prison sends a message. Lenient sentences for such a very serious crime (child sex abuse) sends a terrible message.

ilovesooty · 18/09/2024 14:12

In what way have I appointed myself as a monitor on the thread?

YellowphantGrey · 18/09/2024 14:10

WinterMorn · 18/09/2024 14:05

Thank goodness for @Haroldwilson, @ilovesooty, @TizerorFizz and the other sensible, rational people on the thread.

I still can't work out why the 4 of you have appointed yourself monitors of this thread and have tried so very hard to scold everyone who has shown anger at this case.

I also can't work out why you can't just let people be angry on a post? What harm has it done to have people say how they feel and why have you all felt the need to jump on and have a go at them?

What have you gained by doing this? Realistically people are aware of the law and sentencing but this doesn't mean people can't be angry at the injustice and to feel empathy for the actual victims of the crime

WinterMorn · 18/09/2024 14:05

Thank goodness for @Haroldwilson, @ilovesooty, @TizerorFizz and the other sensible, rational people on the thread.

YellowphantGrey · 18/09/2024 14:04

TizerorFizz · 18/09/2024 13:36

@Haroldwilson We always get the flog them and hang them brigade out when it’s a well known person and the sentencing guidelines are not understood. Sentencing is also about the best way to secure not reoffending as well as punishment. It’s important to undertstand why we have a system of punishment options and mitigation and pleading guilty matters too. We need people to be reintegrated safely into society. I agree that taking the “law” into the hands of the public does not benefit society. Look at the recent riots. DIY Justice isn’t tolerable in a civilised society and nor is sending more and more to prison when the best change of not refunding is an alternative course of action.

Sentencing is also supposed to act as a deterrent to a crime and it doesn't.

You can moan at everyone on here for not being fair towards the criminal or their sentence and plead all you like that they fairly deserve to be integrated back into society but when you're reading news on how a(nother) man has enjoyed watching a young child being penetrated and many more other images of young children, it makes it hard to want someone like that in society.

As usual the real victims of the crime are pushed aside whilst the criminal is taken care of.

TizerorFizz · 18/09/2024 13:52

I get paid? How? Yes, I do want a civilized society. It’s vital. Victims cannot call the tune on every aspect of law. Or we would have the death penalty and use it frequently. I prefer to live in a society that tries rehabilitation where possible. Other countries have a different approach to child offending for example. Some here like the idea of the death penalty for children. I’m a civilized society we try a different model. Sorry if you don’t like it.

SerenityNowInsanityLater · 18/09/2024 13:46

TizerorFizz · 18/09/2024 13:36

@Haroldwilson We always get the flog them and hang them brigade out when it’s a well known person and the sentencing guidelines are not understood. Sentencing is also about the best way to secure not reoffending as well as punishment. It’s important to undertstand why we have a system of punishment options and mitigation and pleading guilty matters too. We need people to be reintegrated safely into society. I agree that taking the “law” into the hands of the public does not benefit society. Look at the recent riots. DIY Justice isn’t tolerable in a civilised society and nor is sending more and more to prison when the best change of not refunding is an alternative course of action.

Such institutionalised pie in the sky tripe.
If only victims could get a slice of this pie for their own healing.
But go ahead, invest your hope in the hopeless. You get paid to.

TizerorFizz · 18/09/2024 13:36

@Haroldwilson We always get the flog them and hang them brigade out when it’s a well known person and the sentencing guidelines are not understood. Sentencing is also about the best way to secure not reoffending as well as punishment. It’s important to undertstand why we have a system of punishment options and mitigation and pleading guilty matters too. We need people to be reintegrated safely into society. I agree that taking the “law” into the hands of the public does not benefit society. Look at the recent riots. DIY Justice isn’t tolerable in a civilised society and nor is sending more and more to prison when the best change of not refunding is an alternative course of action.

ilovesooty · 18/09/2024 13:21

awaynboilyurheid · 18/09/2024 12:17

I’m sure they do that’s why I said I’m no professional just have a zero bullshit register
but imagine saying someone in a top TV role with capacity to think on his feet at huge live events of nationwide importance for hours on end had vascular disease/dementia but you continue to look for excuses for a paedophile if you like.
I know a close family member who has this disease in its mildest form she could not manage a tv role even with auto cue so yes so this to me is further BS.

I am not "looking for excuses for a paedophile"

SovietSpy · 18/09/2024 13:11

I think many people might be surprised, if they realised it's not that uncommon for abusers to be working in positions of trust and dealing with vulnerable people

exactly. I know it’s fashionable on MN to hate the daily mail but…. They’ve got an article today showing other paedos who have received similar sentences. Men in responsibile positions - teacher, councillor, a mayor. It’s disgusting but shows these men are everywhere in ordinary jobs and jobs that would have access to children or vulnerable people. It’s a shame it’s taken HE crimes to shine a light on the light sentencing (and yes I fully understand he was sentenced in line with the current guidelines). Maybe the papers should have a weekly article listing all the convicted paedos, their sentence and their jobs, so we continue to shine a light on how these men exist everywhere.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13863659/online-paedophiles-walked-free.html

The online paedophiles walking free after accessing child abuse images

Scores of British sex offenders offenders have joined Huw Edwards in dodging jail for viewing indecent images of children in recent years.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13863659/online-paedophiles-walked-free.html

Haroldwilson · 18/09/2024 12:31

rainsofcastamere · 18/09/2024 11:43

Human rights are for everyone or no one.

I think sex offenders are vile just like everyone else does.

I don't want to live in a country where people get mauled in prisons while the guards stand by. I don't think the guards want that either. I don't think NHS workers want to help sex offenders who've been attacked again, and I don't think the state wants to pay benefits to people who are disabled by prison attacks.

Being a civilised country means we're better than that. It's not siding with paedophiles, it's arguing for a basic standard of decency shown to every single person.

@Haroldwilson

I just don't agree with this! Of course, the people in charge of the country and our 'laws' don't agree with me and that's never going to change but I do not think that a man who would happily insert his erect penis into a child or wank over the pictures of another man doing so deserves any standard of decency.

I truly believe that a crime such as that renders your right to any form of decency BIL & void.

I mean, there are new born babies being raped daily and that's going to occur for the rest of human existence, but once those people are discovered I'm not sure why they deserve any form of decency. We exterminate dogs, who present a danger to children and yet we are expected to offer decency to actual human beings who KNOW they are doing wrong and yet still rape and abuse babies and children. No. I hope they die and I believe they should be helped on their way, not because I believe it's a deterrent but because they don't deserve to live.

I mean, this is why the system of law developed in the first place. So you don't have mobs tearing people limb from limb in the street. Then finding out they got the wrong person.

Sex offenders are repulsive. They need to be convicted and punished according to a system. The public should be protected from them. Every effort should be made to stop reoffending. If anyone harmed my kids I would also want to go round with a pitchfork, of course I would.

On the other hand, I wouldn't want to live in a world where it was seen as ok to beat people up. I don't think it would result in less sex offending. I think it would just make for a worse society.

awaynboilyurheid · 18/09/2024 12:17

ilovesooty · 17/09/2024 07:43

I'm pretty sure the professionals concerned have greater capacity to diagnose svd than members of the public do. I also imagine that people who have had relatives with vascular disease / dementia recall not seeing the signs at the time and only recognising what was happening to their loved ones in retrospect.

I’m sure they do that’s why I said I’m no professional just have a zero bullshit register
but imagine saying someone in a top TV role with capacity to think on his feet at huge live events of nationwide importance for hours on end had vascular disease/dementia but you continue to look for excuses for a paedophile if you like.
I know a close family member who has this disease in its mildest form she could not manage a tv role even with auto cue so yes so this to me is further BS.

rainsofcastamere · 18/09/2024 11:43

Human rights are for everyone or no one.

I think sex offenders are vile just like everyone else does.

I don't want to live in a country where people get mauled in prisons while the guards stand by. I don't think the guards want that either. I don't think NHS workers want to help sex offenders who've been attacked again, and I don't think the state wants to pay benefits to people who are disabled by prison attacks.

Being a civilised country means we're better than that. It's not siding with paedophiles, it's arguing for a basic standard of decency shown to every single person.

@Haroldwilson

I just don't agree with this! Of course, the people in charge of the country and our 'laws' don't agree with me and that's never going to change but I do not think that a man who would happily insert his erect penis into a child or wank over the pictures of another man doing so deserves any standard of decency.

I truly believe that a crime such as that renders your right to any form of decency BIL & void.

I mean, there are new born babies being raped daily and that's going to occur for the rest of human existence, but once those people are discovered I'm not sure why they deserve any form of decency. We exterminate dogs, who present a danger to children and yet we are expected to offer decency to actual human beings who KNOW they are doing wrong and yet still rape and abuse babies and children. No. I hope they die and I believe they should be helped on their way, not because I believe it's a deterrent but because they don't deserve to live.

Haroldwilson · 18/09/2024 11:27

OonaStubbs · 17/09/2024 17:52

Paedophiles are lower than vermin IMO. Their "human rights" should not even be a consideration.

Human rights are for everyone or no one.

I think sex offenders are vile just like everyone else does.

I don't want to live in a country where people get mauled in prisons while the guards stand by. I don't think the guards want that either. I don't think NHS workers want to help sex offenders who've been attacked again, and I don't think the state wants to pay benefits to people who are disabled by prison attacks.

Being a civilised country means we're better than that. It's not siding with paedophiles, it's arguing for a basic standard of decency shown to every single person.

Runki · 18/09/2024 09:07

@Postersandpaint Thank you. People who would even consider wanting to look at a poor child being tortured like that....I can't put here what I would want to happen as punishment for the bastard that this thread is about. In my opinion he doesn't deserve a place on this earth. I think that this sentence gives out a strong message to other paedophiles that they have a good excuse to continue looking at this stuff, as it's not taken that seriously if they're caught. Seven years on the register? Why not life on the register?! Is he going to magically stop having these urges after seven years? That boy has a lifetime of trauma and anger ahead of him. The bastard who propagates the circulation of these images is just gutted he has been caught. How many years has he been doing this and would continue to have done so had he not been found out? Whilst pompously "educating" the nation on the BBC news. As so many others here have commented, many of us have had mean fathers and abusive childhoods. I did myself. It made me want to be even more kind and protective of my own children so that they would never have to go through what I did. How the courts can justify this as an excuse is just so depressing and illogical.

Runki · 18/09/2024 08:54

@FragileWookiee I wonder this too. I also wonder how much Freemasonry is involved too.

BeethovenNinth · 18/09/2024 08:45

I haven’t fully RTT but am absolutely horrified this man has avoided jail.

ilovesooty · 18/09/2024 08:41

They need to be protected in prison as failure to do so puts prison staff at risk.

Postersandpaint · 17/09/2024 23:35

I completely agree OP. He was well enough to work in an extremely demanding job and is now suddenly confused, mentally ill and so on. This had been going on for years and he had got away with it and functioned until he was found out.

Sexual abuse of children is not a sexual orientation. These were category a images involving a 7 - 9 year old boy, that means sexual penetration. An eight year old child being sexually penetrated is going to be painful. Getting off on that isn’t a sexual orientation, it’s evil.

Sentencing doesn’t make sense. For inciting violence online during the riots, people got 20 months +. Ofcourse they were wrong, I’m in no way reducing that BUT how do these crimes get given 20 months, but watching a child being brutally raped receives a suspended sentence? Paedophiles need to go to prison to be amongst prisoners and get back some of the pain and violation they love to watch/inflict on innocent children. I don’t know why they need to be protected. Where was the protection for the eight year old boy whose body was tortured for sexual gratification?

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 17/09/2024 22:20

@UCConfuseMe it’s not keir. It’s local authority bullshit.

Lovefromjuliaxo · 17/09/2024 22:15

Yes, absolutely. While a threat from the law or “therapy” may stop them briefly, I don’t think it’s a permanent fix at all. Prison does not solve anything either, other than it keeps them away from kids for a brief amount of time (however long the sentence is) but is not a permanent solution. Pedophiles cannot be rehabilitated.

i really don’t know what would be the ideal route to take for someone like Edward’s, other than to ban him from the internet and give him a basic phone that is trackable by the police. Also to ban him from being near children and schools, including his underage family members.

Threeandadash · 17/09/2024 21:04

SpidersAreShitheads · 16/09/2024 17:43

I think this thread shows the difficulties around subjects like this and why it's so hard to have a discussion without descending into name-calling.

It's so emotive, logic often goes out of the window with wild statements being made.

The problem is that being understandably angry at the perpetrators of CSA means it's difficult to have a rationed and reasonable discussion. Some of the comments just get a bit wild.

For example, as some knowledgeable PP pointed out - this is actually a fairly tough sentence compared to what others get. It's also been pointed out that the judge has their hands tied to some extent due to sentencing guidelines. And yet, there are PP who are accusing the judge of being a latent paedophile, and that's why Edwards got off so lightly. It's just ridiculous and unhelpful.

I think the vast majority of us here agree that there's a problem with sentencing guidelines, and an overhaul of the law would be helpful. That's an entirely separate issue but it's not what some PP are saying. There's no acknowledgement that actually, there wasn't much the judge could do because there are sentencing guidelines in place. Slating those who are implementing the current laws is unfair.

The law clearly needs radical change especially with such prevalence of CSA, which is truly shocking. Some of the figures posted here in terms of how many cases there are every year is sickening. It IS mainly men, just like other sexual crimes, and that's where the focus needs to be. However, comments about letting out all the women or making men pay more tax are just infuriating as they're ideological and also unfair.

The real question is, how DO we reform this? I don't know enough about the efficacy of deterrent custodial sentences but the fact is there's not enough prison spaces. So what crimes do we go lighter on to make spaces for CSA cases?

People on this thread are talking about not bothering to imprison for non-violent crimes. And yet, on countless other threads, MN posters are furious about benefit fraud and think people need to be locked up for it. We can't have it all.

The system needs radical reform but I don't know what that looks like, or how it could be funded. But there needs to be real appetite for huge change - and the difficulty with that is that the public won't agree on what's OK and what's not. Look at the furore about Labour releasing some prisoners early - and that's now bitten them on the arse. People are outraged about early releases while simultaneously wanting extra magical spaces for CSA.

I don't think pointing out the practicalities or underlining the difficulties means you don't care. It's possible to have been personally affected by CSA and still want a rational and fact-driven resolution that protects our children in the most effective way.

And also, that means enabling paedophiles to come forward without shame for treatment/help. I'm not referring to people who are doing harm - I'm talking about (probably young) men who realise they have unhealthy attraction to children. BEFORE they access images of children, BEFORE they touch a child......let's get these people help. There will be some that don't want help and glory in their sick tastes - but there will be some that are disgusted with themselves. Right now, there's no easy way to seek help - there needs to be a pathway that can be offered to men to prevent them continuing, to prevent them doing harm to children. People don't like to talk about this because it's dismissed as being a "paedo sympathiser" but nothing can be further from the truth. Prevention is so, so important because only by throwing resources at early prevention together with deterrents and restrictions for offenders, will we actually achieve anything. It's how we protect our children.

I'm 48 and I'm absolutely sick to the back teeth of men and their sexual crimes, our patriarchal society, and misogynism. But at the same time I recognise that we need practical, achievable goals that are actually effective and don't just service an emotional demand.

(Ps - @WinterMorn, thank you, I've found your responses to be balanced and informative, even though it's perhaps not great reading in terms of what's expected and normal in these cases).

Thank you for this post. It's a breath of regulation in a sea of emotion.

OonaStubbs · 17/09/2024 20:53

Just dig a big hole in the ground and throw them into it.