To be absolutely sick of excuses being made for men's disgusting sexual behaviour? Trigfer warning. Hugh Edwards sentencing.

The thing is, I haven’t listed any of my achievements at any point. I mean, if you really want my CV I will happily send it over to you. Also, did you really find it necessary to provide a dictionary explanation to explain your post? I haven’t, not once, defended any sex offender let alone Huw Edwards. Finally, it really wasn’t necessary to point out that I am on AIBU. I can read. Why would I need to report any of your comments? Others on the thread have called me far worse, yet I don’t feel the need to report them as we are all adults here.

What do you think saying women do it to brings to the discussion and why do you feel it needs saying?

They both say 'almost'!

Here we go

Oh women do it too

Yes they do

But nowhere near as much

There are lots of historical convictions...rather than hunt them down and do what?

Prison in your 60's/70's and beyond rather than a comfy retirement. Just when they thought they had got away with it

It's worth considering if anyone feels they could

You've mentioned this several times and not explained why? This may happen again occasionally but it is not an endemic - or even common - problem. Do you think it's some kind of gotcha because men commit 99% of sex crimes? Because it really isn't.

@AccidentallyWesAnderson there are at least 2, one of which states absolutely zero women, which as I have said, is extremely dangerous to think.

I often wondered this (especially after working in probation services with a lots of offenders on license) - how come there are not more incidences of retribution/revenge??

Because little boys (and girls of course) grow up and are bigger and stronger than their abuser... So why don't they hunt them down??

I came on not to say his sentence is reasonable, but to address people saying there could never be mitigating factors in this kind of case.

This twitter thread explains it all better than I can.

https://x.com/threadreaderapp/status/1835694441840951542

No one has said women never do it. The posts you have referred to say 'almost' thus acknowledging 'some'. The stats of female sex offenders compared to male sex offenders are minuscule. No one however has said women never do it.

Wish people would read posts properly before rushing to scream ‘women do it tooooooo’.

It's not just female pardophiles

It's the female enablers too...sickening that they assist men.

I want to March the streets. I want to do something. I want to protect out children.
What can we do??

Stop introducing them to paedophiles by allowing them to have unrestricted access to the internet, unsupervised, from an early age. Many parents are negligent when it comes to children’s internet use. It’s easy to look outwards. Not so easy to honestly self-reflect.

Yes, I said “almost none”

CSA is an overwhelmingly male crime

my point is that if poor mental health caused it, you’d expect women to be equally represented

Smug, adjective. Having or showing an excessive pride in oneself or one's achievements. Is it an insult to describe someone as they are? Your posts are defending something that the vast number of people on here - 96% find indefensible. Given that the criminal justice system is clearly not tackling the problem of child sexual abuse in any way, shape or form I find it hard to understand why you think coming here to defend it shouldn't be subject to some fairly pithy comments. Also, this is AIBU. Clearly you are not familiar with the format. Feel free to report my comments if you feel they break community guidelines.

I'm probably going to have to leave this thread because it's just awful to see attempts at excusing abuse of children.

It's just so offensive to suggest if you've had an abusive or dysfunctional upbringing, you're less likely to know where those boundaries are.

Like I said I know a man who was sexually abused as a child. He would never do it another child. He despises those who do.

It's a horrible fact that lots of men and women are abused as children and do not become child abusers as adults. It's so offensive to them when child abuse is used by abusers or their apologists to "excuse" what they've done.

The same goes for mental health issues and substances issues. So many people sadly struggle with these problems (often as self medication after trauma) but are not paedophiles.

Obviously if a paedophile genuinely lacks mental capacity/has very serious mental health issues, then yes prison might not be appropriate - but a secure hospital would be.

I agree his sentence is deplorable.

But all of you saying women never do it...

2,200 in 2019 convicted female paedophiles. Number has risen year on year.

There are 76 cities in the U.K.

That's about 30 per city.

Please don't be complacent when safeguarding children by assuming women are not paedophiles.

Good job that others take an alternate view then, and are prepared to voice it, as it gives some balance 😉

I said “almost none”

men are responsible for 98% of sexual violence

Absolutely!

And every one of your 40+ comments over the past 12 pages has been predictably smug and patronising.

Simply not true and very dangerous as a statement.

Considering you've been accused of being a man and a nonce defender, you've been unfailingly polite.

FFS. Can people not read? The post says ‘almost’. Therefore acknowledging that SOME are. By comparison to males it’s minuscule but no one is saying that NONE are.

Where did I say anything about life sentences? Pretty big leap from 6 months suspended.

And for the record, participation in any kind of CSA IS one of the worst crimes. Why do you think it isn't?

OK 🙂