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To be absolutely sick of excuses being made for men's disgusting sexual behaviour? Trigfer warning. Hugh Edwards sentencing.

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UCConfuseMe · 16/09/2024 13:13

Just read that Hugh Edwards ahs been given a suspended sentence.

And if course it's not his fault. He had a mean Daddy and some mental health issues and some bad things going on in his life, poor lamb.

All that made him say 'amazing' when sent photos of children as young as 7 being molested.

Having a rough time and a strict father doesn't make you a fucking paedophile!!!

Take responsibility for your predatory and vile behaviour!!

To be absolutely sick of excuses being made for men's disgusting sexual behaviour? Trigfer warning. Hugh Edwards sentencing.
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Wetherspoons · 16/09/2024 17:07

Efacsen · 16/09/2024 16:44

I really don't understand why people minimise the harm done by the recent riots - not just burning things down, attacking mosques/hotels etc etc but the absolute terror experienced by people living in those towns - IDK 10s or 100s thousands of people too frightened to leave their homes/use public transport particularly women of colour

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Empathy-gap, that's why sadly.

WinterMorn · 16/09/2024 17:05

@Puzzledandpissedoff it goes right far more than it goes wrong, but oddly, that’s never talked about.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 16/09/2024 17:05

Naunet · 16/09/2024 13:34

How do you figure that? If he’s in prison, he is cut off from children, making children safer. Seems like the perfect management to me.

Well, not unless he spends the rest of his life in prison!

Puzzledandpissedoff · 16/09/2024 17:01

it’s possible to manage people’s behaviour without them being in prison

In theory perhaps, @WinterMorn, but then when it all goes wrong - as it so often does - we simply get the standard whine about "lack of resources" and "lessons being learned"

For me, in order for folk to have any confidence at all in the system, it's important for justice not simply to be done but seen to be done, and for very many this just ain't it

It''s not even about revenge but retribution - an important difference which I appreciated seeing described thus:
"Revenge is a response to wrongdoing that aims to deter future harm by causing the offender pain. Retribution is a response to wrongdoing that aims to prevent future crime by punishing the guilty, protecting the innocent, and restoring societal balance"

WinterMorn · 16/09/2024 17:00

@Lovelyview that’s not true at all. I even said earlier that I hated what the system had become.

RainbowZebraWarrior · 16/09/2024 16:59

YellowphantGrey · 16/09/2024 16:21

No one has said women don't do it?

However why can't a thread about yet another man committing acts of paedophilia that he has been found guilty not just be allowed to run without people having to mention that women do it too?

It's like men's crimes have to be minimised all the time

This.

Sick to fuck of it.

It's insufferable.

Maybe there's some prize for who can get the NAMALTIng and "Women do it too" in most.

rainsofcastamere · 16/09/2024 16:58

I really don't understand why people minimise the harm done by the recent riots - not just burning things down, attacking mosques/hotels etc etc but the absolute terror experienced by people living in those towns - IDK 10s or 100s thousands of people too frightened to leave their homes/use public transport particularly women of colour

@Efacsen No one is minimising that persons offences. They're saying that making, downloading, sharing images and videos of children being abused and raped are worse. The sentencing guidelines for THAT crime should reflect that. They do not.

A suspended sentence for, again, making, downloading, sharing and wanking over images of babies and children should be far, far harsher. There are NO mitigating factors for doing any of those things. None.

Efacsen · 16/09/2024 16:55

Weiredeout · 16/09/2024 16:50

The reality HE who read the new, knew about convictions and prison etc etc continued over a period of time to do this knowing there would be limit of suspended sentence so is it a deterrent --- NO!
The other guy was i think already known peaedophile did it stop him.
Realistically it may be hard to stop people viewing images but current system is not working. If with the internet (and men living much longer and fewer wars etc) the number of children affected will continue to grow and number of offenders will too.
What are the numbers of prisons/prisoners now vs 50yrs ago with alo the population growth?

IDK about 50 years ago but the prison population has doubled from 44K to 89K since 1991

And we imprison a larger % of the population than more or less any country in Europe

AngryLikeHades · 16/09/2024 16:55

The acts of paedophilia ruin lives, including that of my own.
There need to be harsher, longer sentences and monitoring of the inhuman cunts, for example if they are given a sexual harm prevention order. The police are slack on monitoring and they do not act soon enough much of the time.

Lovelyview · 16/09/2024 16:52

WinterMorn · 16/09/2024 16:45

So why, if you know that, are you repeatedly having a pop at me?

Because you show no awareness that the sentencing guidelines might be wrong. If you follow women's rights you also follow a sorry parade of the vilest abusers being given extremely light sentences often because it might damage their career or affect their mental health adversely. Possessing child abuse images seems to be treated especially lightly despite the fact that the money generated from them fuels further abuse.

Americano75 · 16/09/2024 16:51

There has to be a zero tolerance approach to this kind of offence. Those poor children in those images deserve justice, and those who buy/view them should be locked up.

Weiredeout · 16/09/2024 16:50

The reality HE who read the new, knew about convictions and prison etc etc continued over a period of time to do this knowing there would be limit of suspended sentence so is it a deterrent --- NO!
The other guy was i think already known peaedophile did it stop him.
Realistically it may be hard to stop people viewing images but current system is not working. If with the internet (and men living much longer and fewer wars etc) the number of children affected will continue to grow and number of offenders will too.
What are the numbers of prisons/prisoners now vs 50yrs ago with alo the population growth?

WinterMorn · 16/09/2024 16:45

Lovelyview · 16/09/2024 16:42

We know that it's in line with other sentencing. That's why we're so angry.

So why, if you know that, are you repeatedly having a pop at me?

AngelicKaty · 16/09/2024 16:44

WinterMorn · 16/09/2024 13:20

To be honest, this sentence is actually quite punitive for a first offence. The vast majority of people convicted of this type of behaviour get a community order not a suspended sentence.

And that, in itself, is an absolute scandal.
"On 9 February, 2024, there were 3,623 women in prison in England and Wales. There were 5,286 receptions of women into prison in the year to June 2023, either on remand or to serve a sentence. (Prison Reform Trust; Factfile February 2024) . As well as all of the Prison Law advice required by men – including adjudications, categorisation, parole, release on license, recall, discrimination and healthcare – women require specialist attention in prison because around two thirds have dependent children and many have, themselves, been the victims of crime and abuse. Women are subject to short custodial sentences for minor crimes such as Council Tax evasion or shoplifting. These can have disproportionately catastrophic consequences, causing women to lose their homes and jobs – or, worse, have children taken into care or permanently adopted. In addition, with so few women’s prisons in England and Wales, women are often incarcerated hundreds of miles from home and family." [Source: Prisoners' Advice Service]
Why are we still imprisoning women for "minor crimes such as Council Tax evasion or shoplifting" but not men for these types of abusive crime? It's simply unfathomable to me.

https://prisonreformtrust.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/Winter-2024-factfile.pdf

ilovesooty · 16/09/2024 16:44

AutumnLeaves1990 · 16/09/2024 16:36

And his previous crimes were worse than being a paedophile? 🙄🙄🙄

I'm pointing out facts that affect the sentencing guidelines.

Efacsen · 16/09/2024 16:44

AutumnLeaves1990 · 16/09/2024 16:36

And his previous crimes were worse than being a paedophile? 🙄🙄🙄

I really don't understand why people minimise the harm done by the recent riots - not just burning things down, attacking mosques/hotels etc etc but the absolute terror experienced by people living in those towns - IDK 10s or 100s thousands of people too frightened to leave their homes/use public transport particularly women of colour

Lovelyview · 16/09/2024 16:42

WinterMorn · 16/09/2024 16:32

I have never mentioned a PhD as I don’t have one. I haven’t defended the sentence, but it is commensurate with the particular circumstances WHEN looked at other similar cases. You may think that my training is wrong, but as you aren’t the intended audience for my role and work it doesn’t matter.

We know that it's in line with other sentencing. That's why we're so angry.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 16/09/2024 16:39

Projectme · 16/09/2024 16:35

Especially the case in France atm. That poor woman.

(Nrtft so apologies if this has been mentioned already)

But I'm so so angry. For our children and for women. And all because men can't control their sexual desires.

It was a hot minute before the NAMALTers, Not My Nigel and ‘women are just as bad’ crew descended on that thread too.

Naunet · 16/09/2024 16:36

YellowphantGrey · 16/09/2024 16:25

I could cry, I'm so angry.

I'm so tired of being on a site that is predominantly female, where the majority are parents where you see multiple posts about abusive men and it always been excused in one way or another

And a site where parents can't be be angry about a paedophile without other parents minimising the crime

It's exhausting

I agree, you’re not alone. My therapist tries to tell me that as a society we don’t tolerate child abuse. I strongly disagree.

AutumnLeaves1990 · 16/09/2024 16:36

ilovesooty · 16/09/2024 16:33

That rioter had an extensive criminal record. Both sentences were handed down in accordance with the guidelines.

And his previous crimes were worse than being a paedophile? 🙄🙄🙄

Projectme · 16/09/2024 16:35

UnRavellingFast · 16/09/2024 13:28

It’s got to the point where I find it difficult even reading about this and the other stream of appalling abuse of women and children by depraved men. It’s making me wonder if there is any good in this world.

Especially the case in France atm. That poor woman.

(Nrtft so apologies if this has been mentioned already)

But I'm so so angry. For our children and for women. And all because men can't control their sexual desires.

Ramblomatic · 16/09/2024 16:35

rainsofcastamere · 16/09/2024 14:58

So you don't think a court should know if, for example the convicted has engaged with therapy versus saying they'd do it again. Or were experiencing psychosis/mania or off their head on drugs at the time. Or have a life limiting illness. Or committed offences in company of coercive person they've now broken contact with. Etc.

Mitigation isn't the same as 'things that make it ok to have done this'. It's things to be taken into account on the whole, when deciding a suitable sentence. The range of sentences is set out, the judge looks at aggravating and mitigating factors to work out what's appropriate.

@Haroldwilson

Do you believe that there are any fair 'mitigating circumstances' that should allow a man downloading, viewing and wanking over images of children being abused and raped, to have a lesser sentence?

What are those mitigating circumstances?

You seem to be (purposefully) misunderstanding what 'mitigating' means in the legal context.

GingerPirate · 16/09/2024 16:35

YellowphantGrey · 16/09/2024 13:43

I'm leaving Mumsnet if anyone comes on here and defends men or says women are worse.

I'm so fucking angry and upset and disgusted by how men get fucking excused for every single shitty thing they do.

This.
When I turned 42, I started hating men, they repulsed me pretty much since teenage years
/I'm straight if it's relevant/.
So happy now that I don't have to get anyhow involved with any of them.

ChishiyaBat · 16/09/2024 16:35

NonLinguisticRhetoricIsMyKryptonite · 16/09/2024 16:32

It's worth looking at the full post by FPFW because it goes into the details but I included the part that indicates nobody knows for sure—and this is because of the way that Police Forces and the Prison Service collect data. However, FPFW has done some calculations that I've added below.

According to official MOJ figures, in 2019 there were 13359 people in prison convicted of sexual offences. 125 of these are recorded as female and another 76 are known to be males who identify as women. This means there are around 200 sex offenders in prison who either is a woman or self-identifies as woman. The ratio of women to transwomen in prison for sexual offences is around 3:2. In other words, there are two transwomen for every three women in prison convicted of sex offending. That’s 38% of the ‘women’ in prison for sex offending actually being transwomen.
If this same ratio applies to police reports of child sexual abuse it is reasonable to assume that up to 38% of the 2297 recorded as perpetrated by ‘females’ may also in fact be male’s who identify as women. That’s almost 900 males recorded as female. This would be enough to account for almost all of the reported increase since 2015.

UPDATE: BBC claims that in 2019 there were 66 females in prison for England and Wales convicted of sexual offences against a child. FOI data obtained by us confirms there were also at least 23 male-born trans prisoners in for sexual activity with a child (not counting child grooming or attempting to incite a girl aged 13-15 into penetrative sexual activity). More FOIs have been submitted today to get the total number. Based on what we already know its clear that for child sexual abuse there is at least 1 male-born transgender offender for every 3 female offenders. Any claims that the numbers are too low to impact crime statistics is demonstrably wrong.

Thank you for that. I will read it later when I don't have a banging headache.

Lifeomars · 16/09/2024 16:35

User100000000000000000001 · 16/09/2024 13:15

Agree and he should have gone to prison. Disgusting human being.

I was disgusted that he did not get a custodial sentence. I once saw an interview with a really brave woman who had been abused as child, images were made and shared of her abuse and she spoke about the life long effect of knowing that those pictures were more than likely still circulating somewhere and some creature was perving over them.