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Bought Oasis tickets for husbands birthday and now doubting the date I picked

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boymama55 · 16/09/2024 00:42

So for context I’m only posting this late as we have been at a wedding in London this weekend and I spent most of the car journey home asleep (6 hours as had to detour to pick kids up from my mums) and also I rarely experience hangovers these days due to having 2 toddlers so I think my anxiety levels are through the roof atm (lol).

I tried for Manchester tickets first time round, didn’t get into the pre sale ballot so queued for hours in general sale and no luck so gave up and started looking for alternative birthday present ideas as husbands birthday is on 20th September.

Then by some miracle I got invited to enter the presale ballot for the extra Wembley dates and got sent the code to join for the 8.30an slot yesterday. I was getting ready for the wedding at the same time as waiting in the queue. Ideally I needed Saturday tickets as my husband is a primary school teacher at a private school so the chances of him being allowed to take Monday off is pretty slim if not out of the question (he basically wouldn’t want to ask). Whereas I could take Monday as holiday if I wanted to or just swap my Friday as I don’t work Fridays atm. Anyway annoyingly there was 16,000 people ahead of me and by the time I got to buy tickets standing had gone. I really wanted standing. I then tried seating and at first there was only restricted view seats so I went back and tried again and then there was 2 top tier seats but I knew he wouldn’t want to be that high up so I tried again and there were 2 seats for lower section but for £206 each and I still wasn’t sure they were the best option?! I’ve never been to Wembley so not a clue where to sit as I just assumed I would get standing and I felt very under pressure to be quick - I almost bought them then last minute pressed the back button out of panic and then just couldn’t get back to where I was and had to join the queue again (yes, I know :| ). I then thought right I’ll just see if I can join the Sunday queue instead and low and behold standing tickets were available so I quickly added to basket without hesitation and purchased.

however, now I am thinking that I should have just stuck to the Saturday and just bought the seated tickets (lower section) ?! As we would be staying with my brother in twickenham which is at least 40 mins on a bus on a Sunday late at night and then it’s a 3 hr 20 min drive from his house to where we live so for my husband to be at work for 8am we’d have to leave at 4am in the morning 🙈 or we park at Wembley and drive back to ours after the gig and get home for 2am (if we’re lucky).
I don’t drive so it would be him driving.

So now I’m thinking have I made a huge mistake and will I end up reselling my tickets closer to the date? Or should he just be grateful that I got him standing tickets to a once in a lifetime experience and as a one off he’ll accept the situation as it is?! Also if he doesn’t want to go because logistically he doesn’t think it will work am I being unreasonable to be annoyed?

what would you have done in my/his situation?! Advice appreciated.

OP posts:
caramac04 · 16/09/2024 09:27

After a gig we got home home at 03:15 and I was at work for 08:00.

Barleysugar86 · 16/09/2024 09:26

I think I'd look at if I could hire a car to drive us home after the gig- yes it is extravagant but it's a birthday gift. Being able to both relax in the car and sleep after will feel wonderful and will definitely make it more of a memorable night. I think it would be worth the expense.

FriendlyNeighbourhoodAccountant · 16/09/2024 09:25

Curlygirli · 16/09/2024 09:11

Are schools still open at the end of July?

The two latest shows at the end of September

rainbowunicorn · 16/09/2024 09:25

Curlygirli · 16/09/2024 09:11

Are schools still open at the end of July?

I assume OP has tickets for the September dates.

FriendlyNeighbourhoodAccountant · 16/09/2024 09:25

Smithhy · 16/09/2024 09:05

Getting home at 2am is a bit ambitious if you are driving to/from Wembley. The roads and the car parks are chaotic, and it can easily take at least an hour or two to get out of the car park.

Was going to say exactly this. Assuming the set finishes around 10:30 it's entirely possible (unfortunately been through it before) to not get to your car and get out of the car park until midnight.

LlynTegid · 16/09/2024 09:23

I think your DH will be understanding, maybe worth asking if he could start at 9am on the Monday and get up early to drive there.

I understand that it would not be reason to ask for a day off, even though I bet some of the parents would if their child was going.

Zanatdy · 16/09/2024 09:21

Saturday would have been better. I didn’t want standing as I didn’t fancy piss being thrown at me (friend confirmed that happened recently at Liam’s concert). We are lower tier. Maybe just ask him, would be rather go then or not at all. Chances are you can sell them very easily, probably to friends

Caerulea · 16/09/2024 09:20

boymama55 · 16/09/2024 02:05

@Caerulea I think I’m just stressing because I usually would have asked his opinion on which tickets to get as he’s more fussy than me when it comes to view - he’s also 6ft4 so I know he would always prefer to be standing than restricted to a seated area, but I’m now questioning whether booking the Sunday is a bigger compromise and maybe he won’t enjoy as much as won’t be able to relax like he would have done on the Saturday? Hopefully he will see we’re lucky to have got tickets 😅

Honestly, if he doesn't see he's lucky then, in answer to your final question in the OP, yes you would have every right to be annoyed cos that's just bratty.

I really hope your anxiety around this is down to you (I've got anxiety & I can create panic out of anything Lol) & not cos he's got a history of being ungrateful.

AlisonDonut · 16/09/2024 09:18

Please don't explain any of this. Just say 'yay I got these for you'.

Loooooo · 16/09/2024 09:17

If he’s a big fan then he’ll be over the moon- the tickets are not easy to get hold of! One day of being tired will surely be worth it for a big fan. Could you go down on the friday after work and make a weekend of it?

doodleschnoodle · 16/09/2024 09:15

Honestly, plenty of mums of young kids go to work on that much sleep routinely, so as a one-off for something he really wants to do I don't think it's that bad. Make it through with caffeine and then early night on Monday.

Clarefromwork · 16/09/2024 09:14

Have you seen this group on Facebook? Not sure how it works but might be worth looking into. Someone is looking to swap tickets

I don’t know how you could do this safely though that’s the only thing !

Bought Oasis tickets for husbands birthday and now doubting the date I picked
Curlygirli · 16/09/2024 09:11

Are schools still open at the end of July?

Smithhy · 16/09/2024 09:05

Getting home at 2am is a bit ambitious if you are driving to/from Wembley. The roads and the car parks are chaotic, and it can easily take at least an hour or two to get out of the car park.

MorrisZapp · 16/09/2024 09:00

Ps I got three tickets, seated, for the opening night at Murrayfield. 119 quid each. I haven't met any other person who actually got tickets! Will these stadiums be empty? It's all very mysterious.

Buffypaws · 16/09/2024 09:00

It’s really not the end of the world. He will survive work assisted by the residual adrenaline.

MorrisZapp · 16/09/2024 08:58

Don't tell him you had an option. Present it as a miracle, then work backwards from what you have. If it's really worrying you then tell him now, adults don't need big surprises to be on their actual birthday.

loropianalover · 16/09/2024 08:57

I’d drive down Saturday, have a chill night and get loads of sleep, relax Sunday morning, go to the concert, leave a few mins early and get on the road home.

I think you’re massively over thinking it. It’s better to be tired for one day at work than to miss out completely.

SquashPenguin · 16/09/2024 08:56

When I lived in Bristol I would often drive to the o2 in London then drive straight back home after a show and be back in work the next day. It's hardly the end of the world! Yes I was tired but being tired was much better than sitting in work thinking "I wish I'd gone to see xyz last night". It's not like it's every single night!

sonjadog · 16/09/2024 08:54

Speaking as someone who was a teacher for decades, this wouldn't bother me at all. Life is for the living, not for making "sensible" choices all the time. So I will be tired on the Monday, so what? I'll recover and probably drink a lot of coffee. I will have had an amazing experience, once in a lifetime. That is more than worth not being fresh and full of vigor on one Monday morning.

rookiemere · 16/09/2024 08:50

MouseofCommons · 16/09/2024 08:28

You'll have to leave the Sunday gig early to get ahead of the masses.

Get the playlist from the previous night and be ready to leave as the final bars of Wonderwall or whatever are being strummed. If you're quick off the mark you should beat the worst of the crowds.
Also worth checking if you take the car on Justpark if there is anywhere nearby you can park that isn't a multi storey as that will save you a lot of time.

Bloatedbelly · 16/09/2024 08:48

OP there are so many people who were desperate for tickets and didn’t get them. Just take Monday off if you are stressing. It will be amazing - enjoy.

Tiswa · 16/09/2024 08:47

Driving from Wembley (if you get parking) will be insane

we often leave at 4am when we have a long drive home as DH much prefers it as there is very little traffic he also prefers to sleep then get up get through the day and have an early night to catch up on sleep so I would do that

there are ways to make it work and if he is a big Oasis fan it will be worth it!

Smartiepants79 · 16/09/2024 08:46

I would be giving them to him and telling him that these were all that was available at the time. Tell him how hard you tried!! Then discuss. Be open to possibly changing them as the day gets nearer and other options might become available. I think there’ll be a lot of swapping and changing near the time.
Personally, as a teacher, I would be prepared to suck it up for one special occasion,

Fluffycloudsfloatinginthesky · 16/09/2024 08:45

@boymama55

Beware of anyone offering to swop tickets - we went Taylor Swift and this was everywhere. They won't even be available to transfer until 2-3 days before probably.

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