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For not saying good night?

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safeatd · 15/09/2024 23:43

My boyfriend lives with a female room mate. Shes alright, we’re not friends though but will chat if we’re in the same room.

Tonight me and my boyfriend have been out, I’ve come in tired, gone straight to the bedroom and in to bed. He has gone in the living room to say hi to her and her friend.

Thye live in an apartment, the bathroom and his bedroom are the first rooms so I’ve not walked by or through a room and ignored them. But apparently my boyfriend is annoyed because I look rude and she’s also commented that I’m rude.

I

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Hairspray123 · 16/09/2024 00:20

Maybe if you were intoxicated or ill and dashed straight off fair enough. Id still appologise in the am for not saying Hi as it is rude. Im a bit confused why you wouldn't just say Hi though, unless you were physically incapable or just being a bitch. Sorry that just my initial thought. Being polite is so easy esp as its not your house.

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safeatd · 16/09/2024 00:18

DesigningWoman · 15/09/2024 23:47

The girlfriend who spends several nights a week in her boyfriend’s flatshare and makes no effort to be minimally civil to the other people who live there is pretty much a staple ingredient in ‘top reasons for troubles in flatsharing’.

I don’t spend several nights a week there. Why have you made that assumption? That’s a really odd thing to do.

I spend 2-3 and he is equally at mine. She also has a boyfriend that probably stays over most nights.

I also am civil with her, if we’re in communal spaces and hanging out then I’ll make conversation etc. No idea why when I just want to get into bed do I need to come in and say good night to her and her friend.

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Just4thisthreadtoday · 16/09/2024 00:16

Yes, that's rude.

Do you contribute to the expenses if the sppsrtment.

DoYouReally · 16/09/2024 00:11

You are a guest in her home.
Not even her guest!
I think it's very rude.

DesigningWoman · 15/09/2024 23:47

The girlfriend who spends several nights a week in her boyfriend’s flatshare and makes no effort to be minimally civil to the other people who live there is pretty much a staple ingredient in ‘top reasons for troubles in flatsharing’.

purpleme12 · 15/09/2024 23:44

I think this is ok as long as you don't do it all the time