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Men with boats cheat

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Boatsandcoats · 15/09/2024 21:54

The subject says it all!

I’ve long believed that men only buy boats to use them as floating love shacks. My friend thinks I’m being ridiculous and says boats are just a great lifestyle choice. Recently, she told me her husband is thinking of buying a boat, and I couldn’t help but give her that look! She insists he’d never cheat, but in my experience, every man I’ve known who had a boat wasn’t exactly faithful.

Honestly, if my husband bought one, I might even consider it grounds for divorce!

So, am I being unreasonable? Can men own boats without it leading to adultery, or am I totally right to be suspicious? Should men with boats just wear a t-shirt that says, "Don’t trust me?"

(For the record, this doesn’t apply to fishermen making a living or people who live on boats!)

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Pippetypoppity · 17/09/2024 18:55

We’ll depends on the boat. Husbands friend has a boat for fishing and is so uncomfortable you’d never get a woman in her right mind even on it. Do k know of someone who’s husband had a pleasure boat with a cabin and he did indeed cheat on it. We all called it the love boat.

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Boatsandcoats · 17/09/2024 18:43

I have never heard if Howard's way but perhaps I need to look it up. I have no boat related trauma, I have never had a boat or had a partner or immediate family member with one so no I'm not 'going through' anything but thanks for your concern @LoveLifeBeHappy I do have a wonderful therapist but that's due to the work I do and is part if my contract.

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MeridianB · 17/09/2024 18:37

Immediately thought of the theme tune from Howards Way

MagicFarawayTea · 17/09/2024 18:35

There must be some boat- related-dating-mishap-backstory here. Or was traumatised by watching Howards’ Way when growing up?

Iwantnevergets · 17/09/2024 18:30

‘Course you’re NBU - you’d know that if you watched Howard’s Way

EmeraldA129 · 17/09/2024 18:25

I think it’s more that lots of men cheat (lots of women probably do too, though I personally don’t think quite as many), and if they’ve got enough disposable income to have a boat that they don’t live on or use for work then they fall into the category of men with enough disposable income to be able to have an affair & keep it secret with hotels/ other properties etc. more easily than others.

YANBU to notice a link, but I don’t think it’s quite that cut & dry.

WandaFishy99 · 17/09/2024 18:24

It sounds ridiculous, but thinking about it, my best friend's DH has a boat and he was having an affair with a woman he worked with. Who knows?

Seashor · 17/09/2024 18:09

At one point we owned three. My husband must have been exhausted!!!!

Doxiedolittle · 17/09/2024 17:57

My dad did. Before my poor late mum knew it his “secretary” was volunteering to “crew” for him on a weekend - next you know he’s left my mum on Valentine’s Day (nice) saying he needs space but really for a woman who’s 2 years younger than me his daughter. Creepy or what. However, they’re still together 20 odd years later. 5 years later my mum met (on Valentine’s Day too - replacing a bad memory on that day with something much nicer) and married a lovely guy and they had many happy years together before she passed away 2 years ago. Meanwhile the stepmother (NOT) is my dad’s full time carer. So yes I agree with Op she is spot on ANBU

LoveLifeBeHappy · 17/09/2024 17:56

Boatsandcoats · 15/09/2024 21:54

The subject says it all!

I’ve long believed that men only buy boats to use them as floating love shacks. My friend thinks I’m being ridiculous and says boats are just a great lifestyle choice. Recently, she told me her husband is thinking of buying a boat, and I couldn’t help but give her that look! She insists he’d never cheat, but in my experience, every man I’ve known who had a boat wasn’t exactly faithful.

Honestly, if my husband bought one, I might even consider it grounds for divorce!

So, am I being unreasonable? Can men own boats without it leading to adultery, or am I totally right to be suspicious? Should men with boats just wear a t-shirt that says, "Don’t trust me?"

(For the record, this doesn’t apply to fishermen making a living or people who live on boats!)

So, am I being unreasonable?

It sounds like you’re going through something challenging right now. Have you considered talking to a therapist? They can offer support and guidance to help you navigate through it

MattandNat69 · 17/09/2024 17:53

Spomb · 15/09/2024 22:04

All my friends have boats. They’re all swingers so I think you’re on to something. One couple has four boats, god knows what they get up to.

Swinging isn't cheating though.

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Boatsandcoats · 16/09/2024 22:43

5foot5 · 16/09/2024 22:40

Your DH has crabs and you're sure he's fine?

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Yep the crabs are easy to shift the frosted tips and camper are for keeps.

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5foot5 · 16/09/2024 22:40

Boatsandcoats · 16/09/2024 21:57

89% think I'm unreasonable oh woe is me but at least my husband doesn't have a boat. He does have an allotment, camper van, HGV, 2nd home, mullet with frosted tips, a selection of golf clubs and fishing rods, crabs and he does his own washing.
I'm sure he is fine at least he isn't a pilot!

Your DH has crabs and you're sure he's fine?

Poddypuppy · 16/09/2024 22:19

Businessflake · 15/09/2024 22:13

It’s pretty difficult to have a decent shag on a topper.

🤣🤣🤣

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Boatsandcoats · 16/09/2024 22:15

5foot5 · 16/09/2024 22:11

Oh god I bought DH a Flying Scotsman starter layout for Christmas! Since then he has been building up his layout and already been to a exhibition. What have I done?

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Well you won't have to worry about other women! You could get him a boat just to balance it out!

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5foot5 · 16/09/2024 22:11

Edingril · 15/09/2024 22:12

I thought those model train fans looked a little shifty

Oh god I bought DH a Flying Scotsman starter layout for Christmas! Since then he has been building up his layout and already been to a exhibition. What have I done?

Runki · 16/09/2024 22:03

@Boatsandcoats It really is. 😂 Honestly, thank you for all the laughs today. 😀 I will never look at a boat in the same way from now on. 😂

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Boatsandcoats · 16/09/2024 21:57

89% think I'm unreasonable oh woe is me but at least my husband doesn't have a boat. He does have an allotment, camper van, HGV, 2nd home, mullet with frosted tips, a selection of golf clubs and fishing rods, crabs and he does his own washing.
I'm sure he is fine at least he isn't a pilot!

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Rummly · 16/09/2024 21:39

Boatsandcoats · 16/09/2024 21:36

That's dogging and that's known! Some become HGV drivers just because of the naughty public mischief.

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I think you mean Dogger Bank. <nose tap>

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Boatsandcoats · 16/09/2024 21:36

OhmygodDont · 16/09/2024 10:42

Now we can move on to lorry drivers. Long haul truckers 😬👀

That's dogging and that's known! Some become HGV drivers just because of the naughty public mischief.

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Getitwright · 16/09/2024 21:21

You ain’t lived until you have worked in the leisure industry🤣 You name it, and it has been shagged in, on and under. And when the leisure industry marries the Fire Service and there are equestrian sports involved as well, life is just all rubber, leather and whips…….

TheaBrandt · 16/09/2024 21:18

I am suspicious of men who consistently work away from home even if they are senior. Plus men who visit the Far East in all male groups. I just assume they are cheating as the men I worked with that did these things all did.

ErrolTheDragon · 16/09/2024 21:16

The commodore of the sailing club I used to belong to (cold reservoir with dinghies not posh yachtie type) once said his aim was to die in his 90s by being shot by a jealous husband. But I think he was planning for when he was too old to sail. Grin

Howmanycatsistoomany · 16/09/2024 21:16

YABU OP. We (well it's DH's really) have a boat; DH doesn't spend much solo time on it (needs crew, usually me) but when he does he can be usually be found tinkering in the engine room. There was a serial shagger on our last marina but he didn't bring his bits on the side to the marina.

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Boatsandcoats · 16/09/2024 21:08

Runki · 16/09/2024 09:19

I live a stone's throw from a river , where dozens of boats are moored. I must admit that I have had to install sound proofing in my walls to protect my innocent children's ears from the constant sound of grunting, moaning and calls of "Yes, yes, take me out to sea, Captain", and "Oooh baby, climb my rigging", and "Keep going til you splice my main brace, YES, YES, give it to me Sailor!" It's relentless.

The struggle is real

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