Husband kicking off over bath

I have to pee in a pan or the garden if my dd is having one of her 3 hour baths. Yes, unreasonable, I know.

I seriously feel like I'm living in a parallel universe with some of these replies.

They have a working toilet in their shared home.

What possible reason is there for her buying and then using a camping toilet?

Not that he ever would because he's not insane, but if my OH ever had an issue with me using the toilet I would politely remind him that I pay half the mortgage each month and then I would tell him to fuck the fuck off.

If this is a regular occurrence get a camping/festival toilet bucket. They are under £20. If his peace is important to him and you only have one loo it's really not worth fighting over.

If your need to wee when he's in the bath a regular occurence rather than a one off I could see why he's miffed. However if it's an emergency why cant he let you in and shut his eyes/stick his fingers in his ears if he cant bear the 30 secs whilst you wee.
What a fusspot!

I think some posters don't seem to realise that everyone is different, raised different or simply have different preferences... some people don't like using the loo in front of others or having others use the loo in front of them and some just like to lock the door!

We leave the door unlocked but it is because we have a toddler who cannot easily wait but I don't really like using the loo when DH is in the bath or like it when he pees when I'm in there.

I don't think the going to the toilet infront of each other is the issue. I think it is more because op's dh is wanting to have his 25 minute bath in peace without somebody weeing next to him. It is a bit grim isn't it? Op had been drinking with a UTI, so dh's idea of an uninterrupted bath was probably a little unrealistic, given the situation. Although op went before it, she most likely didn't fully empty/had an irritated bladder.

My OH has seen parts of me I haven't seen! Going to the toilet in front of each other isn't a problem!

I think you are being super unreasonable, of course he should be able to take a bath in peace in his own home

So confused by these responses! Of course YANBU!

Yep, cos that's MY time and no-one is getting in. I do x̌heck with everyone before I go in but yes, I pock that door!
Definitely don't need to see anyone on the loo when I'm relaxing in the bath,

Yep. The mums net misogyny in full force tonight! How dare you have needs and how dare you age! No your attempt at a solution \ compromise is pathetic. You must try harder to not have any needs so we don't inconvenience men in any minor way.

You 'see a Dr, that's not normal' folks are hilarious.

You know there are a TON of conditions, and medications, that can mean you have to pee very frequently and with little warning.

Do you know what Drs do when they have dx your condition or prescribed medication, and you moan about having to go to the loo every five/ten/20 minutes/with three seconds warning...

They agree it is quite awkward to live with.

There isn't some instant magic cure, there is no mad scramble to fix this immediately, just a nod and a 'yep, it is what it is'.

Reading some of these comments is shocking. Thank goodness I don't have a man-child of a husband, who would rather me soil myself than interrupt his precious bath time.

I have Crohn's disease and bowel urgency. I can go from nothing to needing the toilet in three seconds. We have one bathroom. He would never, ever try to stop me from using the toilet if I needed it.

Would most people's husbands leave them, then, if they developed a bladder or bowel issue that caused urgency or incontinence? If they are so fragile they can't be in the same room as the person they are supposed to love, having a wee? The things my husband has seen since I developed Crohns 😂 Having a wee is nothing. And guess what? He's still here, because he's a grown adult.

I totally agree with you. We haven’t locked the door since the kids left home. My husband often pops in when I am in the bath or shower and vice versa. He doesn’t wee because we have other toilets but in our previous home he did occasionally.

Nor me. Thank goodness we don’t have a loo in the bathroom.

When me & my sister bought a house together, (financially convenient), the fact that there was a downstairs toilet & a full bathroom upstairs is what clinched it! Is there no way to incorporate another toilet? I can assure you it is a lifesaver! Good Luck with the rest of your toilet wars. And yes he’s a dick!

I do this because my husband takes foreeeeeeveeeeeer on the toilet and I'm not waiting 40 minutes to pee!

We are a family of 6 in a house with one bathroom. It's not ideal but we manage.

@ClockwiseHoneysuckle

its even easier & cheaper if he stops being such a twat. She's asking for access to the toilet for a wee if she needs it.

it's his WIFE I'm sure he's seen her bum before & she's seen his willy. WTAF is he being such a twat about??

@Seriouslyhowcouldyounot you're living with a selfish, nasty man. I bet this is not the only way he shows that! You don't have to stay married to this bellend.

I wouldn't feel comfortable weeing whilst partner is in bath

Oh dear god. How are people so unable to believe that other people might choose to do things differently from them? And that other people's bodies might do different things than theirs?

Totally agree

Not everyone can

If you have a urine infection, it is important to drink lots ( non alcoholic), even though it can sting when peeing.
Irrespective of whether you have an infection or not, I think your husband is being unreasonable

I live with my elderly DF and am his carer. He has an enlarged prostate and is in and out of the toilet all day and night, he is also autistic and has ocd.

Trust me, peeing in a bottle is preferable to interrupting his toilet time. 🤦‍♀️