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... in asking if you have ever watched porn with DH/DP?

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Einhverdottir · 15/09/2024 17:12

I've done a NC for this post. My DP asked if I'd watch some with him.

I'm asking this question for women perspective. I know the title will attract a lot of the men readers, but not really interested in their replies.

YABU: I've never watched porn with DH/DP
YANBU: I've have watched porn with DH/DP

TLDR: In a new relationship with a nice man for 18 months. Exclusive. I really like him. Both divorced and no kids. Due to location, we had only gotten to see each other every 2nd weekend. But now we're both relocated to the same city. We both prefer to have our own places and spaces for now, no plans for anything more.

I've watch some porn in the past on my own, read erotica, etc. It is not something I need. I have the usual ethics concerns, but am sure I could find something. Also, working in cybersecurity area I'm somewhat paranoid about these things in general.

OP posts:
Chillilounger · 15/09/2024 18:20

Use it as an opportunity to educate him. Agree ( if you're comfortable) but only if it's ethical. You choose and explain your choice.

Anyonefortennistoday · 15/09/2024 17:56

I have never watched porn at all. I wouldn't be in a relationship with anyone who watched porn. So this situation wouldn't arise.
I find it hard to imagine why any woman would want to sit there whilst her partner got aroused watching other females being exploited and abused and assaulted.

Fiery30 · 15/09/2024 17:24

If you both enjoy it, why not? What kind of cybersecurity worries do u have? There are many 'safe' sites and you just have to be mindful not to click on any ads etc.

Abigaillovesholidays · 15/09/2024 17:21

Maybe you are overthinking? Give it a try, you may really enjoy it :)

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