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Feeling completely overwhelmed, I keep screaming into a pillow

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glassdo · 15/09/2024 13:54

Please be kind. I don't know what's wrong with me today. I'm so fucking fed up of mum life.

My kids are two and four and it's so relentless.

I think I must just be so unhappy to be so happy overwhelmed.

Especially my two year old just doesn't fucking listen to a word I say. I can't even get him to eat anything. All he does is cry, scream and have tantrums if he doesn't get exactly what he wants.

I'm so angry today. I'm angry. It's another Sunday alone with the kids. It's been another week, dealing with my kids basically alone because my husband works away a fair amount. I'm angry because they don't listen to me ( especially the little one ). I'm angry because I work so fucking hard to keep my house tidy and clean and all they do all day is mess it up.

I am so angry because I feel like everyone thinks I'm a joke and a mess of a human and they can do it better than me. By everyone I mean my in laws, my parents and even my husband. I think he thinks I'm just a bit shit. He has no idea how much it takes for me to keep the house in the condition it's in.

I can't take it. I just want my kids to listen to me. I can't take it anymore

I'm absolutely fuming today.

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Drachuughtty · 15/09/2024 14:12

Yanbu your anger is spot on.
Your husband is a joke. He is the problem.

alpacachino · 15/09/2024 14:11

Can your in laws and parents help out. I've no idea how any one copes with a 2 and 4 year old. I struggled so much when my little one was 2.

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glassdo · 15/09/2024 14:11

SeulementUneFois · 15/09/2024 14:08

Can you put the younger one in a play pen for a bit? (Even if he screams...). (Also get some earplugs..)

He'll get out. He's physically very able.

He gets into everything. He gets out of everything.

I'm going to throw/give all their toys away and keep 5 things for each. I'm so done living like this.

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penguinbiscuits · 15/09/2024 14:10

Well don't give him food then, he can go hungry if he can't sit still the table. That's what I tell my 2 year old. He leant pretty quick.

They CAN understand at their age. Who does he think he is, to be making a mess eating the food around the house. Food that you made him, in the house that you pay for. What a joke.

If he runs away when you're out, take him straight home. Tell him if he doesn't listen to you, he's going home.

I know it's relentless but repeat and repeat. And reinforce that you're the authority here, not him.

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glassdo · 15/09/2024 14:09

For the last two weeks, he just won't have any dinner after nursery. He just won't eat anything I put in front of him.

All he wants is banana or chocolate. If I give him nothing, he just won't eat. He gets a bottle of milk and that's it.

If at random times during the day, he decides he wants something to eat, he literally will not stop screaming. He'll go for 30 minutes. He just won't stop. He wants what he wants.
How am I supposed to have the energy to listen to this every fucking day and NEVER give in ?

I know giving in makes me a bad parent and plays into it, but how the fuck am I supposed to have the energy to listen to this several times a day ? I can't take it anymore

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SeulementUneFois · 15/09/2024 14:08

Can you put the younger one in a play pen for a bit? (Even if he screams...). (Also get some earplugs..)

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glassdo · 15/09/2024 14:04

autumneveningsunlight · 15/09/2024 13:58

I have a similar age gap and I’ve felt the same sometimes, it can feel like they’re trying to wreck everything although logically you know they aren’t. It is pissing down here too so shoes on and out to the park would not work!

Gave my two year old a breakfast muffin earlier and he refuses to sit down at the table. Will scream and just walk to the living room.

He did walk to the living room with it and just destroyed it in his hands and spread it all over the carpet.

Just one small example of what he does.

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glassdo · 15/09/2024 14:02

I can't take them anywhere alone anymore. The little one runs away and if I put him on reins he just drags and has tantrums. He escapes his buggy and his car seat. It's just not safe.

Last time we went out I ended up really accidentally smashing against my four year old while chasing my two year old. I refuse to take them out since then, by myself. Unless it's to the doctors and even then, they cause a fucking ruckus and I m on edge. I just can't control the two year old. It's dangerous,

I only go to small soft plays I know. But surprise surprise they're all booked today.

But also I'm so tired today. I've been ill all week.

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Comedycook · 15/09/2024 13:59

I agree with a pp...get out of the house...go to the park, go for a walk, let them burn off some energy. Staying at home is the worst when you feel like this

autumneveningsunlight · 15/09/2024 13:58

I have a similar age gap and I’ve felt the same sometimes, it can feel like they’re trying to wreck everything although logically you know they aren’t. It is pissing down here too so shoes on and out to the park would not work!

ItWasOnAStarryNight · 15/09/2024 13:58

Is he working away now? Get out to the park or similar for a walk and then put for tea. Don't forget to take colouring books for the kids

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glassdo · 15/09/2024 13:58

violetcuriosity · 15/09/2024 13:56

Shoes on and out to the park, get yourself a coffee to drink while you walk. Tire them out.

We all have days feeling like this ♥️

I can't take them to the fucking park on my own. Sorry not swearing at you.

My two year old runs away all the time. It's far too dangerous and exhausting to take him anyway.

I have a big garden and he's been playing out there.

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Penguinmouse · 15/09/2024 13:57

I’m sorry OP, it can be so overwhelming. You need a break asap - I would speak to your husband and say you need a day off. Do you work or are you a stay at home parent? Even if it is the latter, the responsibility needs to be shared.

violetcuriosity · 15/09/2024 13:56

Shoes on and out to the park, get yourself a coffee to drink while you walk. Tire them out.

We all have days feeling like this ♥️