To think it's ridiculous to fall out over a Facebook post ?

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Why did you go on holiday with her and the dogs, if it was going to cause this level of angst?

Obvs don't know who is right or who is wrong, but one thing I do know - adults on Facebook or Instagram? V.strange and even stranger falling out over not being mentioned on these platforms.

You both sound awful and childish.

You need to grow up. And stop going on holiday with your mum.

I agree, you both sounds unreasonable. Also I don't understand why you are going on holiday together if she is as dreadful as you say.

OK I've now read the original post and the mother does sound a total nightmare who would likely even cause a saint to flip their lid.

I still think you shouldn't go on holiday together!

So much drama.Do you actually enjoy being with your mother? If the answer is no then step away.Dont go on holiday with her make your own plans with your DH and child.Get on with your own life go very low contact for a few months and see what happens.It seems your mother is looking for a reaction from you which you give her this is not healthy.

People have become way too comfortable with victim blaming to boost their own self esteem on here. It’s actually unsettling.

This

Can’t for the life of me fathom why you go on holiday year after year when you quite clearly act like a couple of badly behaved kids.

You behaved pretty awfully, and people don’t seem to be buying that it was an innocent Facebook post.

Are all the ‘team mum’ posters too dense to understand the above from the OP? 😬

I think some posters are not appreciating that the mother is needy and emotionally controlling. Likely emotionally abusive. The OP won’t be able to clearly see through this or possibly even articulate it as she’s glossed over it slightly in her OP. I’d say this is the latest in a long line of abusive and manipulative interactions with the mother, which is why the OP is feeling ‘done’ with the relationship.

Team mum.

'but she was giving me the silent treatment and acting like a kid so I said whatever I could to get a reaction. She had been goading me all afternoon.'

You contracted yourself there by saying she had given you the silent treatment but then to say she had been goading you.

Awful childish nonsense.

I think the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

Your mum sounds like a pain but you don't sound innocent yourself. The apology for your part in the argument was a bit hollow because it was conditional on her also apologising and taking the blame.

Then the "my little family" post was intended to goad her, wasn't it? It certainly implies you, partner and baby only. You would have known she'd see it as a dig. It sounds like you were annoyed she hadn't apologised so you thought you'd needle her a bit more.

Honestly I've no idea why you go on holiday together year after year when you know that you lock horns like this.

You both sound exhausting to be honest. Just leave her alone for now and hopefully you'll both have gained a bit more perspective in a few weeks!

You're getting the responses you are, @Doggomom91 because you've missed the back story about your Mother and her previous behaviour.

With that back story, no I don't think you were particularly unreasonable, however knowing that she would see your FB post, I think you probably did know that not mentioning their presence and 'my little family' probably would provoke a response from her... You've known her a long time, you know exactly what will rattle her cage after all.

Given the back story... I would distance myself from her. Don't set yourself up to be anywhere with her that you cannot just leave with zero fuss/aggro.

Set yourself some clear boundaries on what behaviour you'll tolerate and what you won't and end the interaction any time and every time she steps foot over that boundary.

When you do this, give the same vague, pleasant, not angry or shouty, response - 'Oh dear Mom, I have to go now, see you another time' ... and hang up/leave.

Eventually she is going to realise what behaviour of hers it is that triggers this, and hopefully she'll stop it.

You clearly won't take responsibility for your part in this.
It all sounds terribly petty.

And yes, your post on FB about "my little family" was PA, meant to be hurtful, and yes, was poking the bear.

It sounds like you knew exactly what you were doing when you chose those pictures and that title. Provoking a reaction…..and you got one. I honestly don’t know how anyone can be bothered with this type of drama as an adult.

OP, you’ve had loads of good advice (and a lot of sympathy) on the thread from yesterday which it would probably help you to reflect on. I understand that you’re angry and upset but I don’t think a thread about the same thing the very next day is going to help you (especially as this one comes across as more antagonistic).

Forced apologies aren’t real anyway are they.

I think “say sorry” should be reserved for children learning manners. If you’re sorry as an adult, you say it of your own accord, when it feels right.

Nonsense.
You posted the exact same thread, near enough.