I'll try to keep this from being too long.
I have tried for 10 years with pil but it's got to the point that I'm too old and too tired for their bs.
Just a few small few examples from over the years.
Ringing us up at 7-8am every single weekend Saturday and Sunday to come over. Ringing over and over and texting if we didn't answer. Then turning up and commenting if we were still in pyjamas or if the house wasn't up to their standards. Mil walking into my bedroom when I was getting dressed or feeling unwell.
Interfering and criticising everything we did with the dc. Commenting on absolutely everything and comparing to how they did it. Questioning, refusing to believe in things like allergies. Ridiculing us for using stair gates. Stuff like that.
On the few occasions they looked after the children when they were small being outright dangerous. I walked in once to my two year old on a high kitchen stool alone with boiling pans simmering on the hob and no adult in the room.
Criticising everything we do from where we go on holiday to how we've decorated the house just nitpicking constantly.
Rude comments over the years about my appearance, my job, my family.
Honestly I could go on for pages and pages. Dh has been very weak in dealing with them on anything and has now just taken to avoiding them altogether.
It's got to the point that we hardly see them because Dh would rather avoid them than ask them to stop picking on us. It's very uncomfortable when we do see them, fil seems to try to get all of his criticising done in a short space of time then sort of huffs off.
Nothing is ever going to change but how do you deal with this kind of situation?