Husband cancelled 2 nights away because he has a cold...

Or he just feels too ill to wander round York. Playing on computer games is hardly taxing. I don't want to be away from home when I'm ill.

Glad it's worked out. Def depends on the severity of the cold. If it's body aches etc you wouldn't want to be walking around somewhere, just resting.

Why would you be mad at him in the first place?

He sounds absolutely lovely.

How do you know you wouldn't enjoy it on your own? Have you ever been on a break on your own? Why not just try it? It's different to going as a couple/with friends but can be very enjoyable. No one else's opinion to consider, you can do exactly as you want.

Spare a thought for me OP- at the moment I should be packing for the taxi due in 2 hours to airport for Majorca- we have both had nasty colds and coughs and sore throat ( although that's a lot better today) since Thursday- ( it's not covid ) yesterday he told me he didn't want to go as 3 days out 7 look like rain too. Cancelled car hire, told me to cancel hotels ( luckily I'm only losing 1 night moneywise) and this morning asking me why I look upset. I would have gone if I'm honest- because probably by Tuesday would feel a fair bit better. I admit neither of us are exactly 'well' - but I'm well enough to be in town now on my own having a coffee and going toM&S . If we are more ok on Thursday we've provisionally booked3 nights in nice hotel in Devon.

So do it some other time. I agree with your dh, if he doesn't feel up to it, he's better off at home.

I don't understand why you'd be mad, though. DH would never be mad at me for something I can't help, not would I with him.

Glad to hear it's all worked out though!

If you've got a nasty cold and feel unwell then it's not wallowing to want to rest and ideally you should stay home, firstly so you can recover more quickly, but also to avoid spreading it to others. I don't go anywhere when I'm unwell, but then I'm fortunate that I don't need to!

It's obviously different if it's just a little sniffle - a lot of people can't, or don't want to, put their lives on hold for every mild cold.

Why on earth would you be mad at him at all for this? He's been reasonable not wanting to slope around feeling like crap, and has also offered extra stuff to placate you.

You should have gone by yourself.
Me and dh had planned to go to Brussels one weekend last year. He was genuinely ill. He looked awful, I could see he was aching all over and sweat was pouring off him. He rarely gets sick and if he's off colour just ploughs on.
He encouraged me to go by myself saying it was pointless for us to both miss out and I may as well go and enjoy myself.

It's not "wallowing" to want to stay at home with a cold - they can make you feel like absolute shit.

Go by yourself!

But, I feel like utter shit this morning and I wouldn’t want to go either for the sake of £35pp.

I do because I have family members who are vulnerable, and I know that covid is still nasty.

Your son will never be ill though, he will only ever have "man flu" and be faking it.

Yeah... a relative did just that, "just got on with it" with a nasty cold. Went from one international trip on to a second international conference, didn't turn up for his panel there, conference called the hotel and found him dead in the shower. Near-identical story with our family GP, just sans foreign travel. A "mere cold" can inflame the heart muscle and did in both cases. There's a reason you're told to avoid physical exertion.

Haven't read all the thread yet but just as others don't get why you wouldn't go by yourself. I've happily pottered around York all on my lonesome, had a lovely time.

Maybe he genuinely doesn't feel well? Colds can make you feel really ill.

I can't stand people who think a cold is "nothing".

It's revolting to be sneezing and coughing everywhere.
Colds can be anything from a sniffle to full blown misery with streaming eyes, streaming nose etc.
I've had colds where I can just get on with stuff and colds that have left me slumped on the sofa with a box of tissues and a packet of paracetamol/cold relief.

I understand that you're feeling disappointed, but I don't blame him for not wanting to go either.

Last time I went on holiday and got a cold, I felt awful - I didn't enjoy any of it, barely got any sleep and just wanted to go home to bed. Being unwell is bad enough in your own home, it's miserable when you're out all day on holiday with no chance to rest.

But saying that - you should just go on your own or take a friend, there's no need to cancel.

When I'm ill I prefer to be at home relaxing. I don't see what he's done wrong. I'd be a little annoyed but at the situation rather than him. You should have considered going by yourself or arranging a girls night out instead

Some people don't like going away when they feel ill, go by yourself or with a friend.

He's ill! There are some awful colds going around - I've had one this week that has rendered me in bed watching call the midwife for two days. Just because you 'got on with it' doesn't mean he can.

He is a fool, but I genuinely don't understand why you don't go on your own, OP. Two solo nights in York sounds fantastic, and the bonus of being away from the whiny husband!

I do it because I work with someone who is severely immune compromised.

That OK with you?

I'd be disappointed too but he didn't get a cold to spite you. If you're feeling grotty, you're feeling grotty. So he's feeling a bit bunged up and wants to stay at home nice and warm not walk round outside for two days. That's understandable.

Since it is just a cold and nothing terrible, I'd have gone to the hotel and had a little break by myself.