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railingsdown · 2024-09-15T08:35:32+00:00

So he has a cold. Took a Covid test and it was clear He is sneezing and feeling sorry for himself. We were meant to go away today Last night he said "can we set off later tomorrow " I said yes Then this morning he said he doesn't want to go at all So now he is playing on the computer upstairs I'm honestly fuming I've lost the train fare £70 Luckily hotel was pay on arrival so I can cancel Aibu to be annoyed ?

Mintgum · 15/09/2024 13:45

My friends 20 year old son as a awful cold poor lad walking around with tissue up his nose.
He works night in a club but has took the pass 3 nights off his boss told him to take a week off.
The boss had it first.
But for the sounds off it men are selfish to get sick and are not allowed to be unwell and want to stay home.
If a women is unwell thats a different story she has to be treated like a queen.

Ceebs85 · 15/09/2024 13:44

I love my own company so I'd be delighted to be going on my own 😂😁

Clarabell77 · 15/09/2024 13:44

I wouldn’t want to go if I had a cold and I wouldn’t want to go with someone who has a cold.

YABU.

DearGoldFish · 15/09/2024 13:41

what a way to spend such a bonus lovely and sunny weekend as these two

Gassylady · 15/09/2024 13:40

railingsdown · 15/09/2024 12:47

Can I just quickly ask if I'm being unreasonable here
He is literally doing everything possible for me to catch it
Coughing without covering his mouth
Lying on my pillow
I asked him why he wasn't just on his pillow and he smirked
Asking for cuddles (he never wants them ) and says well your gonna catch it anyway
Then asks me for kisses

I do think this wouldnt have been possible if you were in York. Again why do his wants/feelings trump yours?

butterpuffed · 15/09/2024 13:39

OP , you two sound the same as each other . You were "fuming" when you couldn't go, then cheered up when he gave you £100 to spend and promised next weekend . Now he's moaning and you're not happy again !!!

DearGoldFish · 15/09/2024 13:36

Apolloneuro · 15/09/2024 12:58

You two seem to be spoiling for a fight with each other?

exactly

Seaside3 · 15/09/2024 13:35

@GladBluePigeon I would imagine he wants some peace.

redskydarknight · 15/09/2024 13:35

Well, I agree he shouldn't be trying to spread the cold.

But ... if it's a small minor thing that shouldn't have stopped him going away this weekend, then surely it's not a particular bother if OP catches it?

GladBluePigeon · 15/09/2024 13:34

railingsdown · 15/09/2024 13:26

He doesn't have a cough but he is still spluttering about
He has a cold -that's it
A cold
No chest infection
He's not dying
He's got a simple coat
He's making a meal of it and determined to give it to me
Simple as that

Why is he trying to get you out of the house?

Seaside3 · 15/09/2024 13:34

You're both making a meal of it.

Either be his nurse and look after him, or stay out of the way and stop provoking him.

You're clearly hanging around him, so you're likely to get his cold, whether he puts his head on your pillow or not.

If you're that determined not to get his minor cold, stay away until it passes. Or, as you say, it's nothing major, so what you worried about?

Either way, you both sound like you need to grow up.

Bumblebeestiltskin · 15/09/2024 13:31

railingsdown · 15/09/2024 13:17

I was a bit annoyed
And yes I was being selfish
Now I'm over it
I wouldn't like to walk around York with a cold either ...but in that moment I was disappointed and a bit annoyed
In day to day life I'm a nice person
I do everything for him
Cook /clean /washing and yet he's now spilling for an argument because he has a cold.
He asked me to get to the chemist for cough medicine -I told him we had some
He thinks of something he needs so I have to go to this particular chemist

It doesn't sound like you have a great relationship. You sulked because he's ill and guilt tripped him into giving you money etc, now he's being a dick trying to make you ill.

Whothefuckdoesthat · 15/09/2024 13:27

So he’s trying to give you his cold so you don’t feel like going next weekend, and then trying to get you out of the house for a while?

He sounds… devious.

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railingsdown · 15/09/2024 13:27

*simple cold

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railingsdown · 15/09/2024 13:26

He doesn't have a cough but he is still spluttering about
He has a cold -that's it
A cold
No chest infection
He's not dying
He's got a simple coat
He's making a meal of it and determined to give it to me
Simple as that

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colourfulchinadolls · 15/09/2024 13:24

Give him a break he's unwell.

I've just had a nasty cold and spent most of two days in bed. No way would I want to be anywhere other than at home.

LuckySantangelo35 · 15/09/2024 13:23

betterangels · 15/09/2024 13:14

She got a hundred quid out of sulking about him being ill. I'd go spend it and leave him alone. If she stays away, his cough won't annoy her.

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@betterangels

she can stay away but then it sounds like he’ll be rubbing his snot on her pillow so she can’t win basically can she? He’s the problem, not her.

ItWasOnAStarryNight · 15/09/2024 13:23

"Coughing without covering his mouth"

Even though he doesn't have a cough?

MrsSkylerWhite · 15/09/2024 13:21

Go by yourself? Love my husband but also enjoy alone time and a mooch about a new place by myself.

GladBluePigeon · 15/09/2024 13:20

junerella · 15/09/2024 13:19

Not related to the initial post OP but get a Lemsip spray, the ones that stop colds before they really start. Nasal spray 4 times a day and you should be fine.

They really don’t work.

GladBluePigeon · 15/09/2024 13:20

railingsdown · 15/09/2024 13:17

I was a bit annoyed
And yes I was being selfish
Now I'm over it
I wouldn't like to walk around York with a cold either ...but in that moment I was disappointed and a bit annoyed
In day to day life I'm a nice person
I do everything for him
Cook /clean /washing and yet he's now spilling for an argument because he has a cold.
He asked me to get to the chemist for cough medicine -I told him we had some
He thinks of something he needs so I have to go to this particular chemist

You said earlier he has no cough?

junerella · 15/09/2024 13:19

Not related to the initial post OP but get a Lemsip spray, the ones that stop colds before they really start. Nasal spray 4 times a day and you should be fine.

betterangels · 15/09/2024 13:19

railingsdown · 15/09/2024 13:17

I was a bit annoyed
And yes I was being selfish
Now I'm over it
I wouldn't like to walk around York with a cold either ...but in that moment I was disappointed and a bit annoyed
In day to day life I'm a nice person
I do everything for him
Cook /clean /washing and yet he's now spilling for an argument because he has a cold.
He asked me to get to the chemist for cough medicine -I told him we had some
He thinks of something he needs so I have to go to this particular chemist

Well, that's different. There's obviously other issues, after all.

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railingsdown · 15/09/2024 13:17

I was a bit annoyed
And yes I was being selfish
Now I'm over it
I wouldn't like to walk around York with a cold either ...but in that moment I was disappointed and a bit annoyed
In day to day life I'm a nice person
I do everything for him
Cook /clean /washing and yet he's now spilling for an argument because he has a cold.
He asked me to get to the chemist for cough medicine -I told him we had some
He thinks of something he needs so I have to go to this particular chemist

OP posts:

betterangels · 15/09/2024 13:14

LuckySantangelo35 · 15/09/2024 13:11

@betterangels

yes, he is - he needs to stop being grotesque and cover his mouth when he coughs and sneezes. What a minger.

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She got a hundred quid out of sulking about him being ill. I'd go spend it and leave him alone. If she stays away, his cough won't annoy her.