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Husband cancelled 2 nights away because he has a cold...

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railingsdown · 15/09/2024 09:35

So he has a cold.
Took a Covid test and it was clear
He is sneezing and feeling sorry for himself.
We were meant to go away today
Last night he said "can we set off later tomorrow " I said yes
Then this morning he said he doesn't want to go at all
So now he is playing on the computer upstairs
I'm honestly fuming
I've lost the train fare £70
Luckily hotel was pay on arrival so I can cancel

Aibu to be annoyed ?

OP posts:
Original poster
railingsdown · 15/09/2024 09:40

I know colds are rubbish
I've had them whilst being away and I just got on with it
He went to work yesterday and you can bet he will be back on Wednesday cold or not.

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Tagyoureit · 15/09/2024 09:39

Well I'm on the fence, if he sick, he's sick. If I was sick I wouldn't want to go anywhere and feel like crap as it would probably just take longer to get better.
Equally, I wouldn't want to drag my dh around who was coughing and sneezing and moaning.

Blackandbluesed · 15/09/2024 09:39

Colds are underrated for making you feel awful. I wouldn't want to travel with a cold either, but I would also be telling my partner to find a friend and go with them (or go on my own).

Cheesecakecookie · 15/09/2024 09:38

Absolutely go without him.

He wants you to stay and pander to him. Don’t.

MonsteraMama · 15/09/2024 09:38

Oh but York is so lovely! I'd have just gone on my own if I were you OP, no point wasting the money and the hotel. If he wants to sit on his arse at the computer LARPing as a teenage boy let him have at it, you go and enjoy York!

Mum2Fergus · 15/09/2024 09:38

railingsdown · 15/09/2024 09:37

No other issues
He said he doesn't fancy walking around York for two days feeling like crap

I wouldn't either. Just go yourself.

TickingAlongNicely · 15/09/2024 09:38

Take a friend instead?

I'm guessing there's a backstory as most people see illness as just one of those things. "Colds," can be horrible

offyoujollywelltrot · 15/09/2024 09:37

MinnieMountain · 15/09/2024 09:36

Go without him.

This. If he can mess about on computer games, he can look after himself.

Original poster
railingsdown · 15/09/2024 09:37

No other issues
He said he doesn't fancy walking around York for two days feeling like crap

OP posts:
MinnieMountain · 15/09/2024 09:36

Go without him.

DearGoldFish · 15/09/2024 09:36

i’m guessing there’s other issues….

DearGoldFish · 15/09/2024 09:36

annoyed but also hurt

he clearly didn’t really fancy going with you

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