If you're sharing the cost of the meal there's certain things you don't go for

100% I’d be ordering the ribs with mac n’ cheese 😂

I dunno.. the person in our family group who usually orders the steak also doesn’t order alcohol or coffee, so it tends to work out 🤷‍♀️
In general though, I have taught my young adults that you don’t order the most expensive dish if someone else is paying. Bill splitting is a greyer area, but I think the younger generation are much more likely to just pay for what they had when eating with friends.

@sauviGone

"Greedy fuck" made me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I’ve no real advice other than what’s already been posted but yes, this would annoy me if it happened frequently and 100% he is a CF!

Everyone else should not be having to subsidise him even if it us just a couple of quid - he should put in the extra tenner.

You won’t be the only person at the table to have noticed, I imagine.

If you are going to continue to eat out with him I’d be tempted to say you were on a budget and hand over your own share rounded up with a tip.

I need to have plain food when I'm out or I risk having a very upset stomach, so I often choose steak, but would offer to pay more. I don't drink though so it usually all works out. But yes, you shouldn't choose expensive dishes and expect others to pay for them.

I agree with you, OP. He's a CF. Thinks that everyone else should subsidise him.

I think if he treated your sister well you'd be ok with this, but because he's a dick to her, this is really annoying you.

I'd say something to him/refuse to sub him any more/just pay for my own.

But what about your sister? How does he treat her? Does she want to leave?

@alpacachino I think people are being deliberately disingenuous. To some extent it doesn't really matter what the actual price difference is, it's the fact that every time you go out as a group meal where the bill is split, he orders the highest priced item and then adds extras to that, so no matter where you go, the individual cost of his meal will always be the most.

Yeah that would annoy me, in the same way Dnephew ( adult earning own decent wage) always orders the second or third glass of wine if the bill is being split and the steak. Sure we can afford to subsidise his meals, but why the heck should we ?

Bird, Surf and Turf sounds like a lot. But it's in the same area as fish and Chips...

This is about your dislike of your BIL

You said he has the mixed grill... the ribs and steak are both more expensive and even with the £2 pimped fries the ribs are more...

And that's now down from £12 to around £8 difference

Getting less and less by the moment

Harvester MAIN menu

Since neither OP nor anyone who agrees you order off the standard menu has yet to answer me... which bit of this MAIN menu is the standard bit?

Burgers are a separate section, does that mean burgers are off limits?

Fish and Chips I'd consider to be on a fairly "standard" menu but it's under "Fancy Something Different". Different could imply not standard whereas it follows the Chargill sections, where the mixed grill is, which could imply the standard menu, then, is the Chargill section ...

At a Beefeater venue, for example, the steaks ARE the standard menu as its a steakhouse type place, ordering a salad or one of their limited "classics" range isn't the "standard" there

Yes, that would be great if the OP's BiL were doing that. This thread wouldn't exist.
The OP is asking about her situation where one person orders more expensive stuff always, and never offers to put in more.

Er, I’m not sneering but I do think I have not seen mixed grill on a menu for many years. I also think carvery restaurants aren’t something I’ve come across.

Perhaps you should get out more.
Carvery is hardly a niche concept, and nor is a mixed grill.

Don't order expensive drink (or excessive) and menu items unless you going to chuck in extra money

Why is it greedy to order something that is on the menu?

do you mean he orders TWO meals. That would be my definition of greedy not ordering something that is available and I want have. I think you have the problem and hyperfocussed on money. Do you enjoy their company at all?

YABU because people should be free to order what they want when eating out, it's a treat after all, and the main menu offerings are not always the best dishes available.
I nearly always have steak when I eat out and if necessary I pay more than my share to compensate, as I wouldn't appreciate being with someone that disapproved of my choices.

A mixed grill is certainly not always on a separate part of the menu, it's in the same place as other main courses such as steak, chops, grilled salmon, moussaka or whatever.

As for carveries, they are lovely if you fancy a nice roast. There's always lots of choice of meat and different vegetables plus trimmings; the roast potatoes and Yorkshires are splendid and then there's pudding. Good for families.

I agree with you. When going out with friends who split, we order from the pasta/ chicken grill type section? Not the fillet steak section. I assumed this was an unwritten rule.

I’m considering using a bill-splitting app next time I go out in a larger group,