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Bouncer snapped my sons ID

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StrawberryTartella · 15/09/2024 04:27

Unprovoked, a bouncer tonight snapped my sons ID at a club. Other bouncers apologised saying it was his first night but I don't know if I believe that. Son and friends are back at hotel now and I'm picking them up tomorrow. Do I report as reckless criminal damage or contact the club to cover the cost of replacing? Apparently his mates took bouncers details, hopefully badge no. etc. If first night and genuine mistake then could give benefit of the doubt but I worry it was done to show off.

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Cherry8809 · 15/09/2024 05:30

“Reckless criminal damage”?
Bit harsh.

Female “bouncer”/CP speaking from experience: I did the doors for years and have never seen a coworker snap someone’s ID to “show off”. Like, ever.

I have, however, seen them bend and flex ID cards to see holograms and markings under the lights, and it’s definitely possible he could have bent it too hard.

I wouldn’t assume malice, or anything worthy of reporting to police/SIA.

ru53 · 15/09/2024 05:19

Guidance is different from doing it all for him. How will he learn? I’d suggest to him the he emails the club himself to report and say he has witnesses and will report to the police if nothing is done and see what they say.

Workhardcryharder · 15/09/2024 05:08

Edingril · 15/09/2024 04:29

If your son is old enough to go to a club why is he old enough not to sort it himself?

Huh? Were you all knowing at 18 or did you require some guidance from your parents?

OP isn’t even sure on what to do, let alone someone who is barely an adult

TheSilentSister · 15/09/2024 05:04

Definitely contact the club and complain and at least get them to cover the cost of a replacement. He has witnesses.
Just because he's 18 doesn't mean he knows what to do so of course you help him.

ChampagneLassie · 15/09/2024 04:52

StrawberryTartella · 15/09/2024 04:49

One 18 year old lad against a group of bouncers and a club manager?

I'd say lack of experience, knowledge of his rights, unlikely to be taken seriously, likely to be dismissed and intimidation. All of which I don't have an issue with now due to life experience and wisdom of age.

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I understand but I think leaving him to sort out himself is how you learn. TBH if I were either party (you or son) I’d probably just get new ID and email club to complain, I’d need a lot of time on my hands to do anything more

DuckBee · 15/09/2024 04:50

Report their conduct to the sia?

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StrawberryTartella · 15/09/2024 04:49

Edingril · 15/09/2024 04:29

If your son is old enough to go to a club why is he old enough not to sort it himself?

One 18 year old lad against a group of bouncers and a club manager?

I'd say lack of experience, knowledge of his rights, unlikely to be taken seriously, likely to be dismissed and intimidation. All of which I don't have an issue with now due to life experience and wisdom of age.

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Edingril · 15/09/2024 04:29

If your son is old enough to go to a club why is he old enough not to sort it himself?