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NeedingAGoodNap · 15/09/2024 03:12

I'm considering this ring but with an aquamarine stone instead. Do people think this will work? Is it to over the top?

I don’t wear much jewellery so am very lost!

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Turnitoffnonagain · 16/09/2024 09:39

The stones are beautiful if a little large. For a worn everyday engagement ring I would recommend a rub over or channel set ring. That way it won't catch or scratch. Congratulations. 💐

NeedingAGoodNap · 16/09/2024 09:20

Thanks for your help everyone! Some good points have been raised. I am very set on having an aquamarine. The lighter blue sapphires are just no the same sadly! I absolutely love the design but am going to look at some more options.

I’m worried about it being too hard to wear day to day. It would be fine for work - I am a software engineer so I spend all day typing. But I worry about the snagging on clothes and getting stuck in my curly hair! Plus running around with my 4 year old daughter it might be prone to damage.

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pictoosh · 15/09/2024 08:18

A visual feast!
And unfortunately a clothes-snagging, thread-catching, scratch-causing pain in the bum.

If that doesn't bother you, it's beautiful. Not my thing...but understand why you love it.

harriethoyle · 15/09/2024 08:15

@NeedingAGoodNap i love both, but what’s most important is what you love. Like you I don’t wear much jewellery but have absolutely loved my statement engagement ring since DH popped it on my finger years ago! Yes you can get fluff in the prongs, no it doesn’t get caught on everything, no my clothing isn’t snagged left right and centre. It’s lovely to have something different from the same old diamonds that 80% of people seem to have too. PP make excellent points about checking the hardness of aquamarine if you’re wearing every day.

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ButterAsADip · 15/09/2024 08:13

If you’re having to ask it’s probably not the one for you. IMO they’re both just slightly too big, I’d need to take it down about a quarter or third of the size for everyday wear. If you’re going that big then I’d go less fussy - see Diana/Kate Middleton’s ring, massive but simple. Sorry but you did ask for opinions 😅 they’re beautiful but not very engagementy - doesn’t have to be a diamond solitaire (doesn’t have to be anything of course) but these just look a bit ballgown-y for everyday wear.

thekrakenhasgone · 15/09/2024 08:10

Too big if you are wanting to wear it for every day. Also, check it with a wedding ring on too. It's probably too big to sit together nicely on your finger. A trilogy or even 5 stones would be more practical for everyday wear (if that's what you want)

yeshimabet · 15/09/2024 08:08

Every piece of clothing you own will be snagged!

They look like 'cocktail rings' rather than engagement rings.

mitogoshi · 15/09/2024 08:07

Not an everyday ring imho, more a dress ring for special occasions. Think about practicality - do you want to wear it everyday?

HollyBollyBooBoo · 15/09/2024 08:02

Think they're both stunning! Practically I agree with others they will snag on everything if you're wearing every day that might become annoying.

exprecis · 15/09/2024 07:58

I really like it but I am someone who wears their engagement ring only for special occasions but every day

polydactylfeline · 15/09/2024 07:55

I love them both- as previous posters have said, you go with what you love as it'll be on your hand every day - the aquamarine looks stunning 👌

RuthW · 15/09/2024 07:41

Aquamarines need cleaning a lot. Most of the time they look like dirty diamonds. (Personal experience )

CantConfessWontConfess · 15/09/2024 07:22

Its beautiful but not practical, depends if that bothers you?

bergamotorange · 15/09/2024 07:20

It is objectively quite large and quite ornate. The question is whether that is right for you.

Some people have pared-back, some have simple, some have larger/more ornate, some have oversized/unusual designs.

What is your style?

If you love it, it is absolutely fine. And congrats!

TigerLoaf · 15/09/2024 07:20

Congratulations on your engagement.

The rings are beautiful but I think a sapphire would be a better choice. Have a look at a lighter sapphire. Ceylon Sapphires are pale and I think would sit beautifully like this one.

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TemuSpecialBuy · 15/09/2024 07:18

ultimately if you love it go for it

i strongly prefer the second ring on the little finger assuming both are sapphires.

mine is way less raised/ pronounced than that and the prongs do still catch on things mostly fabric I find fluff on prongs frequently.
maintenance is going to be £ and you’ll want good insurance.

I believe aquamarine is softer / easy to damage so you’ll need to take a lot more care

BarbaraHoward · 15/09/2024 07:17

I think it would be gorgeous, but yes perhaps get stuck on stuff a lot and I'd be wary of the aquamarine not being strong enough to wear day in day out for decades.

Would you wear it every day or just when you're dressing up a bit?

TiredCatLady · 15/09/2024 07:16

First: congratulations!

As others have said, a ring that size and design will catch on everything - hair, clothes, random things you don’t expect. And with the tendency to catch on everything comes the increased risk of damage and stone loss. It’ll drive you nuts if you’re not used to wearing jewellery and will potentially end up sat in your jewellery box.

As you’re going for a coloured stone, check if it has been chemically or heat enhanced - some treatments can wear over time and the stone change its appearance.

Bestyearever2024 · 15/09/2024 07:16

Pretty as a dress ring

For me I think something ''clean" and simple for an engagement ring ....solitaire diamond every time

ChiefEverythingOfficer · 15/09/2024 07:13

I have an aquamarine pendant and the stone has worn terribly. It's dull & scratched.

Just a thought.

MrsToothyBitch · 15/09/2024 07:05

I prefer the sapphire but both are gorgeous. If you like it, then go for it.

Dogstar78 · 15/09/2024 06:14

Congratulations. If you don't wear a lot of jewellery you'll not appreciate how annoying that ring will be. It will catch on everything. My friend has a ring like this and it drives her mad. It's not a style I would pick and the setting doesn't look very refined and it seems set quite high which adds to the 'catchyness'.

I love sapphires so I would pursue your thought process on this, just maybe not that ring. Personally, I think something smaller amd better quality, always looks classier and more timeless, even if you went for the same sort of cluster style.

AhBiscuits · 15/09/2024 06:00

Not to my taste. But that's fine, because I won't be wearing it. If you love it then get it.

Devilsmommy · 15/09/2024 05:54

Dreamskies · 15/09/2024 05:37

If you don’t wear jewellery much then that’s way too big. I used to wear rings quite a lot and the ones that did my head in were the ones that protruded too much. They catch on EVERYTHING.

This is exactly what I was going to say. Mine didn't even stick out half as much but the fucker still caught on everything in sight😂