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Social Services won’t even look into my complaint

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Youaintmymuvva · 15/09/2024 01:17

I don’t know where else I can go? I have a long list of serious complaints resulting in my son now on a child arrangement with his dad and grandmother. It includes ignoring domestic abuse, drug use, alienation, not having a thorough assessment, not being assessed by the guardian, not taking evidence from other professionals and just from my ex and his mother, ignoring disability act and not actioning reasonable adjustments and so on. Making a serious conclusion without involving or speaking or meeting with health professionals resulting in being told I am not able to be a parent because of it, when it isn’t true. Accepting false allegations at face value without investigating. Documenting supervision reports falsely and stating the opposite happened. I raised just the one issue as I felt it was the most simple issue to raise and that is claiming I put my son at risk of medical harm by breastfeeding him whilst on on medication. I had in fact followed a treatment plan given by the perinatal team. Despite giving the medical notes and confirmation letters from clinicians to reiterate I had accepted those recommendations and that breastfeeding was always top of mind, that I had not put my son at any risk of harm etc the social worker continued to maintain that I had put my son at risk and I cannot understand why this would be. There were other medical issues that they raised incorrectly and completely dismissed that medical evidence I provided them addressing these specifics and affirming that my statements were true and they had made a mistake. It made no difference. They manager, their manager and even director of the LA service won’t even entertain the complaint at all. They maintain that I had legal counsel and that I had not had permission for an appeal to be heard so that’s that. I protested that the final conclusion was never mentioned at all prior so how could we have fought back, and the appeal process is not to fight back re what the judge was given to rely upon in the first instance. Yet the fact remains due to these actions from the social worker, the false reason that my son isn’t with me won’t be amended or even looked at, it’s not an opinion, it’s a fact that had resulted in this consequence that I had proven was incorrect yet remained as ‘fact’. They mark their own homework and I just can’t believe this can happen. Is there really nowhere I can raise this serious poor practice? I can’t understand why a social worker would do this or that nobody in the system will even listen let alone look into what has happened. Is this it?

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MissBattleaxe · 16/09/2024 00:21

What access do you have to your child? It's a very long list of complaints! Are you sure they don't regard them as a vexatious campaign?

Josette77 · 16/09/2024 00:16

Do you have a lawyer?

Is your housing situation stable and you are working?

I was put in care. They usually don't do that lightly.

tolerable · 15/09/2024 23:43

Can you look on the family rights site?,they have a helpline no and will be able to point you in right direction perhaps.
I believe you
I have been there/similar ill treatment . You really need proper advocacy. X

HRCsMumma · 15/09/2024 23:19

AGirlInACountrySong · 15/09/2024 01:35

I can’t understand why a social worker would do this or that nobody in the system will even listen let alone look into what has happened. Is this it?

Yeah, this is one of those situations where I'd live to hear the other side before commenting

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Ivehearditbothways · 15/09/2024 01:45

Just use your lawyer. No one here can comment because we’ve only got your word for it and only have your side of the story. Use your lawyer to fight it, speak to your MP about your treatment if you feel it was unjust.

AGirlInACountrySong · 15/09/2024 01:35

I can’t understand why a social worker would do this or that nobody in the system will even listen let alone look into what has happened. Is this it?

Yeah, this is one of those situations where I'd live to hear the other side before commenting