DH is on day 5 in hospital having various tests to (hopefully) rule out very nasty potential diagnoses.
He is very stressed, lonely and in need of support. I am unable to visit much as we have young children who are not allowed to visit. All support offered from friends and siblings has been accepted, but DH remains in hospital feeling alone and scared.
DMIL is abroad in a European country on holiday. We are reasonably close to her and have a good relationship. If this had happened when she was in the country, she would be highly involved in this situation.
DH doesn't want to tell her ruin her holiday unless he actually receives a bad diagnosis.
AIBU to think that she should know her son is on day 5 in hospital, facing potentially devastating diagnosis (the nature of the conditions in discussion are that they would deteriorate imminently and could cause almost immediate death), and is not coping well with the support available? As a mother I would 100% want to know and would be on the first flight home, without questions, and just be relieved if it didn't end up being one of the bad diagnoses.
YABU- don't ruin her holiday
YANBU- she should be told
I won't be contacting DMIL, it's DHs decision, but interested to see what others think.