For context , we’ve been together 8 years…husband was predominantly brought up by grandparents,(his mum died when he was little) whilst his father went on to marry cruella de vil (10 years between him and half siblings). She’s always excluded my husband from their family.
All was tolerated when we first started dating. We weren’t included at Xmas dinners etc but did do cards and small presents which was fine at the time. Father in law never took to me from the start however, used to ring my husband trying to break us up and basically interfered. Couple years later, one of the half siblings stopped contact with us altogether out the blue. No card for Xmas/birthday and ignored out wedding invite (only husbands father came).
Two years later, now with a toddler, we had settled into a nice routine of just his father coming over to us to every few weeks. Until last month. His father dropped a bombshell and had a long phone call with everything we’ve done and said wrong over the years (& all stemming from ‘my influence’). It was brutal. He basically can’t stand me. I’m rude, have no hospitality as I’ve not made him a dinner every week; he hates my family; complained my husband hasn’t treated him enough for his 60th a few years ago, nit picked at specific conversations from months ago. Told me his family didn’t come to our wedding because of ME. Where do I go from here? It’s nearly a month and he’s not apologised or said anything.