A bit of background - I've got DS11. His Dad walked out when he was 1. He can't remember him ever being at home and he sees him regularly. In those 10 years me and his Dad have been split up (we weren't married) I have had one relationship which lasted 3 years. He ended things out of the blue which was difficult for both me and DS as he was close to him. Fast forward to now.
I have been with my current partner for 10 months, although I've known him a lot longer. So far DS hasn't met him and because my boyfriends kids (teenagers) also live with him it's meant it can be tricky to see each other. We do get the odd child free night but mostly we meet out somewhere.
My boyfriend would like us to introduce children soon. My DS is aware of my boyfriend (only recently), and I have spoken to him about the possibility of meeting him. DS11 has said no, he doesn't want to. I've asked why and his only answer is that he doesn't ever want me to have a boyfriend.
How would you handle this? Accept what DS is saying and hold off any introductions? I'd be happy to do that but what if he still feels the same way 6 months down the line? Or in a year? We weren't planning on blending families any time soon (or at all whilst there are children at home). Thanks