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My DH is overly concerned about his colleague

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Yiu124 · 13/09/2024 22:13

My DH works in a stressful job. He often comes home offloading. He has a few peers at work he’s friendly enough, but lately, he’s become overly invested in his female peer work stresses. They are in stressful situations- I get it, and they offload. But they are chatting a lot. She checks some of his essential emails. I often overhear him telling her to look after herself, that he’s concerned about her, not to work late, and that she cheers him up. Is this normal? Corporate environment for context

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Yiu124 · 13/09/2024 22:21

Candyiris · 13/09/2024 22:19

Yeah, this happened to me - mentionitis about a colleague going through a tough time at work. Turned out they were having an affair.

I am sorry to hear that. No affair as he wfh a lot and always around. But when I walk on him he’s chatting to her and offering a lot of support and care.

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Candyiris · 13/09/2024 22:19

Yeah, this happened to me - mentionitis about a colleague going through a tough time at work. Turned out they were having an affair.

Yiu124 · 13/09/2024 22:19

FuzzyDiva · 13/09/2024 22:16

In the basis of what’s in your post, it all sounds normal and nothing of concern. However, you come across as if you suspect him of infidelity so is that because he has a history of being unfaithful or you have insecurities?

Nothing like that at all. What’s odd he’s never been like this with anyone before. He’s reserved with colleagues. She’s supportive of him but to be coming home telling me how she’s having a very difficult week- it’s out of character.

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somereallyniceadvice · 13/09/2024 22:17

For now, just for now sounds like a warm friendly chat. Not emotional
I had a younger colleague who had a partner and a child who was so warm to be around and the minute he saw me, he would forget about it all and chat and laugh like mad. I could be his mother even though, I felt the same. Nothing emotional. Just a human attraction

GivingitToGod · 13/09/2024 22:16

I'd be abit worried tbh

FuzzyDiva · 13/09/2024 22:16

In the basis of what’s in your post, it all sounds normal and nothing of concern. However, you come across as if you suspect him of infidelity so is that because he has a history of being unfaithful or you have insecurities?

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