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It's been hard to connect grandkids to grandparents since school started. AIBU?

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SpongeBob119 · 13/09/2024 20:47

DS started school last week and since then it's been hard to see grandparents.

Before that he was in preschool 3 hrs a day, and we saw my parents 1-2 times a week and DS would play there for hours (they live 25 mins away) and my in laws 1-2 times a month (they live further and are less playful).

Since school started it's been a lot harder. There are only 2 hours between school and bedtime, and he's knackered and processing the new routine / information he's taking in so has needed time to connect with us and help processing his emotions.

We saw parents last weekend but have other plans this weekend.

Grandparents giving me a hard time over it and I do feel guilty but not really sure what I can do about it. Surely it's just the way life goes? I think it'll settle down once DS has got used to school.

How often do your kids see their grandparents?

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SpongeBob119 · 13/09/2024 20:54

DS needs a lot of sensory input after school. He has SEN and is masking all day. I'd love my parents to be able to do this but they don't recognise the signs. Maybe I could educate them if they're happy to learn.

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Iloveacurry · 13/09/2024 20:54

Well your parents are being unreasonable! Your DS needs to get into a routine. My two were very tired when they started school. Do you always have to travel to them? Perhaps they can come to you in the week. Your DS will probably fall asleep in the car if you travel them.

DrummingMousWife · 13/09/2024 20:52

Can they pop over for dinner on a Wednesday evening or something like that? They can see for themselves how tired their grandchild is after a day at school.

MichaelAndEagle · 13/09/2024 20:51

Maybe they could pick him up and give him his tea once a week?

LifeIsGreatForUnicorns · 13/09/2024 20:51

Why don’t you encourage grandparents to pick child up 1 day a week and give him an early tea? - kid gets 1-2-1 time with GP - You get a break (& don’t have to do tea)!

Namechangedforspooky · 13/09/2024 20:50

Once a month for one, once every 4-6 months for the.other.
The other ones live on the next street and even then we can sometimes go a week or so without seeing them. They pick up the younger one but now the eldest is at secondary it has got more difficult again!

Melodysmum12 · 13/09/2024 20:49

Wow wish my parents cared that much! Mine are 10 mins away and we see them maybe 1-2 times a month! MIL lives 25 mins away and we see maybe once every 2 months (which I’m happy about!!)