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Toy gun in the park

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Applesandbananaz · 13/09/2024 18:26

I was in the play park today with my two pre-school aged children when 2 older boys came in with a toy gun. I am not sure what type it was, but it ran out of ammunition after around 20 minutes of play. (I am guessing a BB type but I'm no expert)

They looked to be primary aged (but were there without their parents) and were engaged in a game of hiding around the play park and then shooting at each other, until the pellets ran out.

AIBU to have felt very uncomfortable? When I left, I spoke to one of the boys and asked him not to bring a gun to the park again as it wasn't appropriate with small children about. Did I do the right thing? I feel quite disturbed by it and am not sure if I should have intervened sooner, or am I just overreacting because of the events over the summer?

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SaffronsMadAboutMe · 13/09/2024 18:33

Ahhh a cap gun!

Totally safe then as they don't actually fire anything.

I had one in the 70s and loved it. I think I would've been totally bemused at a random telling me not to bring it to the park! 🤭

Everyone had them in the 70s. They were awesome fun 😊

MummaMummaJumma · 13/09/2024 19:10

My older brother had a BB gun, it’s hurts and they are dangerous. Imagine if that pellet accidentally hit someone’s eye. You did the right thing if it was a BB gun, did you ask?

If it was a gun that made noise but didn’t shoot anything, I’d be less concerned.

What did the boys say when you asked them not to bring their guns to the playground?

Rory17384949 · 13/09/2024 19:09

I don't think that's appropriate at all, can't believe people think it's ok!

Remember being in a busy touristy seaside town and a little boy was walking down the promenade pretending to shoot people with a toy gun- yes it was obviously a toy but I just thought it was very inappropriate and in bad taste

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 13/09/2024 19:09

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 13/09/2024 19:06

Oh, I remember them, my big brother had one 😂
Need to Google that now. Brb

Yup, they are still a thing 😂

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 13/09/2024 19:06

Ablondiebutagoody · 13/09/2024 18:34

Maybe it was a spud gun 🔫. Are they still a thing or am I showing my age?

Oh, I remember them, my big brother had one 😂
Need to Google that now. Brb

DancingPhantomsOnTheTerrace · 13/09/2024 19:05

ginasevern · 13/09/2024 18:36

Personally I don't think any toy guns (or any toy weapons) are appropriate and I'm surprised that parents still buy them. Surely we should not be teaching or encouraging our children to simulate the act of killing and maiming other living things. But I guess I'm going to be the outlier and weirdo on this thread.

No, I'm with you on this. I won't have toys guns.

cakeorwine · 13/09/2024 19:02

There are rules about where you can fire BB guns and what they should look like.

FAQ (askthe.police.uk)

Some BB guns do look realistic and don't have an orange colour on - they shouldn't be in a public place.

FAQ

https://www.askthe.police.uk/faq/?id=587bc863-12db-eb11-bacb-0022483f57c9

DonnaSummet · 13/09/2024 19:00

Ablondiebutagoody · 13/09/2024 18:34

Maybe it was a spud gun 🔫. Are they still a thing or am I showing my age?

Now thats a memory unlocked!

YankSplaining · 13/09/2024 18:58

ginasevern · 13/09/2024 18:36

Personally I don't think any toy guns (or any toy weapons) are appropriate and I'm surprised that parents still buy them. Surely we should not be teaching or encouraging our children to simulate the act of killing and maiming other living things. But I guess I'm going to be the outlier and weirdo on this thread.

What about for costumes? When I was five, I was Robin Hood for Halloween and had a quiver of fake arrows, so I have to disagree about “any toy weapons.” There are some costumes that are just incomplete without fake weapons - Star Wars Jedi, knight, cowboy.

Blessedbethefruitz · 13/09/2024 18:54

I had no idea toy guns had orange tips here, thanks!

Op, I would have freaked too if it was banging. Despite my 5yo ds recently entering nerf (and foam diamond pickaxe from minecraft) age. We don't take them out though.

MartinCrieffsLemon · 13/09/2024 18:46

BB guns aren't suitable for under at least 16, might be 18

UK toy guns should have an orange tip to show its a toy

If it made a loud BANG it sounds like a cap gun which didn't shoot anything

There are Nerf guns now which shoot gel pellets

UK police aren't likely to shoot a child. That's definitely an American thing. UK police aren't regularly armed for a start...

I think you might have been a little OTT tbh

Rustytrombone · 13/09/2024 18:45

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Connected1 · 13/09/2024 18:44

OP, if you'd posted asking "aibu to let my two unsupervised children play with a pellet or BB gun in a play park where there are pre-school children" everyone would be outraged.

Can't believe people are telling you that you're overreacting.

Quote from the Web:

"Though they are significantly less powerful than real firearms, non-powder guns such as BB or air guns can be deadly, and should be regulated as such. Non-powder guns, such as BB and air guns, are not toys—they kill and injure thousands of people each year, including children and teenagers."

Even nerf guns can be dangerous if you're hit in the eye. Play at your own risk, not round a bunch of small children.

Soitis83 · 13/09/2024 18:43

ginasevern · 13/09/2024 18:36

Personally I don't think any toy guns (or any toy weapons) are appropriate and I'm surprised that parents still buy them. Surely we should not be teaching or encouraging our children to simulate the act of killing and maiming other living things. But I guess I'm going to be the outlier and weirdo on this thread.

I have three boys and I absolutely agree with this. I think it's weirder that it's normalised. It's odd to me that we're the weird ones tbh

MartinCrieffsLemon · 13/09/2024 18:42

ginasevern · 13/09/2024 18:36

Personally I don't think any toy guns (or any toy weapons) are appropriate and I'm surprised that parents still buy them. Surely we should not be teaching or encouraging our children to simulate the act of killing and maiming other living things. But I guess I'm going to be the outlier and weirdo on this thread.

I know parents who wouldn't buy their sons guns
The boys just made sticks, pens, trains... anything into guns they would point at each other and shout bang

You don't have to give them toy guns for them to pretend to kill each other. It's what kids have played since forever. Being dashing heroes against wicked foes... the eternal battle of good vs evil

Applesandbananaz · 13/09/2024 18:40

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ginasevern · 13/09/2024 18:36

Personally I don't think any toy guns (or any toy weapons) are appropriate and I'm surprised that parents still buy them. Surely we should not be teaching or encouraging our children to simulate the act of killing and maiming other living things. But I guess I'm going to be the outlier and weirdo on this thread.

Haha I think I'm also a fellow weirdo - I was very uncomfortable. I will leave quietly next time as

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Magnastorm · 13/09/2024 18:38

If it was a BB gun then actually I think you are right to have a word. BB's can properly hurt people at close range and can damage eyes etc quite badly.

Nerf guns and things like that are fine, BB guns which look like actual guns and fire hard pellets I think are a bit ropey in public areas.

ginasevern · 13/09/2024 18:36

Personally I don't think any toy guns (or any toy weapons) are appropriate and I'm surprised that parents still buy them. Surely we should not be teaching or encouraging our children to simulate the act of killing and maiming other living things. But I guess I'm going to be the outlier and weirdo on this thread.

SaffronsMadAboutMe · 13/09/2024 18:35

UK toy guns have a bright orange tip to show they're toys.

They're not imitation fire arms.

TomatoSandwiches · 13/09/2024 18:35

You did the right thing op, anything firing a pellet is fine at home in their own garden but not for the park or in public.

Ablondiebutagoody · 13/09/2024 18:34

Maybe it was a spud gun 🔫. Are they still a thing or am I showing my age?

LauritaEvita · 13/09/2024 18:33

I’m surprised the kids parents didn’t have something to say about you telling their kids what they should or shouldn’t bring to the park.

Hateam · 13/09/2024 18:33

Did they leave any mess behind?
That would be an issue for me.

But the playing with toy guns in play park isn't a problem.

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