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Never felt worse about my skin and I want to cry (photo)

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AcneHelpMe · 13/09/2024 15:21

I just can’t deal with it anymore. My self esteem is on the floor, I get dry yet oily skin and my skin never ever feels good. I genuinely feel like it’s worse than anyone I know.

I have scarring, redness, acne, horrible bumps all over my face, just horrible texture and huge huge pores.

I’ve tried skincare but nothing is working. I can’t afford microneedling. If someone could help me I’d really appreciate it ☹️

Never felt worse about my skin and I want to cry (photo)
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Thistooshallpass24 · 13/09/2024 18:38

Be very careful if you try Acnenidebitd strong and will bleach any material it touches, your clothes, towels and bedding

PrincessOlga · 13/09/2024 18:35

I honestly think you are judging yourself too harshly! You seem to have very nice bone structure and lots of definition in your face. If anything, my eye was drawn more to that.

GildedRage · 13/09/2024 18:29

add to all these: gp, dermatologist suggestions and non prescription options
diet, exercise, and hydration.
i assume the very basic of no smoking is already in place. which includes second hand smoke.

notawittyname1954 · 13/09/2024 18:20

I agree with going to the gp to maybe get a cream. My daughter suffers more when she eats or drinks any dairy products since she has gone dairy free her skin has improved considerably.

Calliopespa · 13/09/2024 18:04

neverbeenskiing · 13/09/2024 15:59

There are things you can do, acne is a medical problem and you don't have to put up with it.

Firstly, don't waste money on expensive face washes. Many contain harsh chemicals that will dry your skin out, so your skin then over produces oil to compensate which worsens acne. You need a gentle face wash like Simple or Boots own sensitive skin range. Anything that makes your face tingle after use is too harsh for your skin. Also, don't make the mistake of over-washing your face, this also drys the skin out and so makes it over produce oil to compensate. Twice a day is plenty.

You need a moisturiser that contains sacillic acid. The La Roche Possay Effeclar Duo moisturiser is excellent for blemish prone skin. It can also help with reducing the appearance of scarring over time.

Most importantly, go to the GP and ask for oral antibiotics for your acne. Do not be fobbed off with topical solutions, or an antibiotic ointment. For persistent acne that causes scarring you need an oral antibiotic, like Lymecycline, and you will need to take it for several months. It's safe and few people experience troublesome side effects. You should start to notice a difference after a few weeks.

I would second la Roche possum effaclar range and also clindamycin lotion can do wonders ( think you need a prescription but it’s topical antibiotic so easier to manage than oral).

Truthfully and 100 percent brutally?
Your skin really isn’t that bad. It’s not that great, I’ll admit, but it’s not at a level that other people would give it a second glance.

Hadjab · 13/09/2024 17:59

Hyaluronic acid for hydration, even the oily parts. The Ordinary has a great one.

Salicylic acid to clear out your pores and help with the acne. Again, the Ordinary is my fave, but Paula's choice is also very effective.

Retinol to help with the acne and texture of your skin. Medik8 Crystal Retinoal is fantastic, and comes in several grades so you can start gently.

Vitamin C to help with the hyperpigmentation left by acne. Again Medik8 C-TETRA LIPID C RADIANCE SERUM is fab.

Using a derma roller every two weeks has also made a massive difference to my skin.

None of this is a quick fix, but hang in there, believe me, you can make major improvements with the above.

Madamechoco · 13/09/2024 17:49

I had red skin from rosacea, open pores and occasional breakouts. Products that literally sorted my skin out:

  1. azelaic acid (for redness/rosacea) on prescription from GP
  2. salicilic acid (Paula’s Choice) for open pores/breakouts
Thistooshallpass24 · 13/09/2024 17:48

@AcneHelpMe

  • Go speak to your Dr (regular GP)
  • Depending on their view you may be given topical creams *You may get referred to the dermatologist team at the hospital (probably not) *Don't try to change your full skincare routine overnight, you skin will react badly, either getting inflammation or drying out causing more flakiness *Salycylic can be too much for some people's skin, do it very gradually. *Azelaic acid is more gentle to start with They are so many options for you, but please don't try micro needle on yourself, you need to know what you are doing or you can make everything worse. Hopefully you find help and happiness (We all judge ourselves too harshly, if you would not say it to a friend, don't say it to yourself)

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WinterisComing95 · 13/09/2024 17:47

I would really recommend a good skincare - but not one with 100 different steps. I swear by double cleansing and also skin+me - I’ve noticed SUCH a difference in my skin since using them - I also use their cleanser, serums, moisturiser etc but honestly just the treatment alone every night made my skin look lovely!

DorothyWasRightTho · 13/09/2024 17:44

Another recommendation for skin+me or dermatica, they are pretty much the same service. You upload pics and they give you a months worth of cream personalised to your needs. It’s the only thing that sorted out my cystic hormonal acne. Lots of people do discount codes on Instagram for the first month cheaper. Retinol - particularly adapalene or tretinoin are the best for acne. Would absolutely avoid antibiotics if not necessary!

Maurepas · 13/09/2024 17:27

Have you not been to doctor about acne? They used to prescribe antibiotics which worked very well.

DeCaray · 13/09/2024 16:58

Concrete Sr Skincare. There products are affordable and they are happy to advise if you contact them.

You need regular peels to remove scarring, pigmentation and reduce the appearance of pore size whilst unclogging pores.

You will notice a complete turnaround in only a few weeks.

www.sr-skincare.uk/shop/

GildedRage · 13/09/2024 16:48

you might not be able to afford micro needling but can you afford to see a dermatologist?

Humdrumdumb · 13/09/2024 16:25

After buying a 10x magnification mirror, I realised I needed to do something for my skin and started following a Tretinoin and Retinoids User group n Facebook after a recommendation on MN and I have learned so much. The admin of the group is a doctor and gives a lot of background and recommendations about when you first start.

Frequently people with much more severe acne post before and after pictures and the results are amazing. However, it often comes with going through a purge of your skin: things often get much worse before they get better, and isn’t a quick fix. There are lots of people who will scare the shit out of you as they swear by lots of different products every day but I don’t believe that is necessary if you get the basics right. You do have to listen to your skin and not barge in with a whole range of new products in one fell swoop as, if you damage your skin, you won’t know what’s caused it.

I always thought I had combination skin but discovered that it was probably just dehydrated. I wonder if your oiliness is caused by using some harsh products that cause your skin to produce more oil as a pp suggested. It’s counter intuitive to use more gentle skincare to reduce the sebum production but it seems to work.

Good luck!

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Sera1989 · 13/09/2024 16:24

Acnenide is great! You go through a period of dryness but if you persevere it works really well to prevent spots and small bumps. I'd also use salicylic acid and a vitamin C serum to help fade scars xx

Bangwam1 · 13/09/2024 16:20

This looks like it might be androgenic hormones.

I recently learnt about spearmint tea, it’s supposed to clear this up extraordinarily well. Beware of side effects because it’s so effective at lowering testosterone it can have consequences (like high oestrogen) use sparingly (like twice a week) from what I’ve heard.

BoundaryGirl3939 · 13/09/2024 16:15

Castor oil, castor oil, castor oil!

Please watch videos of it on YouTube and read he testimonies/comments under the videos.
It heals deep scarring, acne, hyperpigmentation....everything skin related.

Takes about a year of consistent use to work.

isthismylifenow · 13/09/2024 16:14

Sorry this is affecting you so much OP.

As much as all the pp have been very helpful in suggesting things, quite honestly you could spend a fortune on items which may not work well for you.

Could you see a dermatologist? Maybe put the funds towards an appointment instead. Then they could prescribe something if they deem it necessary.

My friend had a sudden flare up and could not understand why. Turns out she had a fungal infection and one round of anti-fungal meds sorted it out.

MsCactus · 13/09/2024 16:13

My skin was just like this!

Two things that fixed it for me

  1. The Ordinary Salycylic Acid mask
  2. Acnecide from Boots

I used one every other day (alternate them) keeps my skin completely clear. Tried prescription retinol and all sorts - and they did nothing

angellinaballerina7 · 13/09/2024 16:12

I promise you this isn’t bad. Vitamin c and retinol will help though, and always use sunscreen!

theyoungishman · 13/09/2024 16:11

I would look into skin needling, just one session of this will really assist with the problems you describe. But I honestly don't think it's as bad as you think it is 💕

BippityBopper · 13/09/2024 16:04

I see plenty people with skin like that. In all honesty, it's not flawless, glowing skin. But it is absolutely normal and I wouldn't bat an eyelid seeing you irl.

AmandaHoldensLips · 13/09/2024 16:00

Aw I really feel for you! Don't be upset. If it's any consolation, my complexion looks like the "before" picture in all the advertisements. They can fuck off. This is what my face looks like and I wear it with pride and a big smile.

neverbeenskiing · 13/09/2024 15:59

There are things you can do, acne is a medical problem and you don't have to put up with it.

Firstly, don't waste money on expensive face washes. Many contain harsh chemicals that will dry your skin out, so your skin then over produces oil to compensate which worsens acne. You need a gentle face wash like Simple or Boots own sensitive skin range. Anything that makes your face tingle after use is too harsh for your skin. Also, don't make the mistake of over-washing your face, this also drys the skin out and so makes it over produce oil to compensate. Twice a day is plenty.

You need a moisturiser that contains sacillic acid. The La Roche Possay Effeclar Duo moisturiser is excellent for blemish prone skin. It can also help with reducing the appearance of scarring over time.

Most importantly, go to the GP and ask for oral antibiotics for your acne. Do not be fobbed off with topical solutions, or an antibiotic ointment. For persistent acne that causes scarring you need an oral antibiotic, like Lymecycline, and you will need to take it for several months. It's safe and few people experience troublesome side effects. You should start to notice a difference after a few weeks.

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