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AIBU to hope Bento boxes for packed school lunches never take off here?

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LightDrizzle · 13/09/2024 00:02

Luckily I’m an old bat and it wouldn’t directly affect me but while it’s a Japanese thing that is sort of cute at a distance, the thought of parents, and let’s face it, mostly women, thinking they have to put mental and physical effort into carving Squishmallows out of radishes and creating beautiful and imaginative Bento boxes every day for the delight of their children and the envy of their friends just makes me feel depressed.

It was bad enough in the days of cutting sandwiches and bunging a satsuma, a Mini Babybel and a Penguin in. I’m still surprised at how long it takes to make rounds of decent sandwiches. I loathed doing packed lunches on top of everything else you’ve got to do with young children and full time work. Obviously there is nothing wrong with the Bento box as a receptacle, it’s the Insta-culture expectation as to the contents that make me feel sympathetic dread. Sometimes it seems that as fast as we develop labour saving gadgets and devices; social media and influencers devise tortuous new ways of parting women from any prospect of a moment to theirselves.

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SweetSakura · 13/09/2024 08:41

CharlotteRumpling · 13/09/2024 08:33

Sorry @RedHotChilliPreppers I inadvertently quoted you and can't edit.

Yes, as a lot of us have said, not going on social media removes all feelings of inadequacy and envy.

Social media can be amazing too though. I use it to connect with people with the same rare condition as me. Without the internet I would never have been able to connect with people as it is too rare.

ObliviousCoalmine · 13/09/2024 08:41

My teen daughter had a bento for pre school until she was about 7.

I've used a biscuit cutter to make star shaped cheese and cucumber. It took me maybe an extra 2 minutes overall. I didn't mind, it was my choice.

Nobody is making heart shaped sandwiches mandatory for you, don't panic.

SweetSakura · 13/09/2024 08:39

Here's some more examples.

I mean I kind of assume noone actually does this except for silly "influencers" but who knows!

AIBU to hope Bento boxes for packed school lunches never take off here?
AIBU to hope Bento boxes for packed school lunches never take off here?
AIBU to hope Bento boxes for packed school lunches never take off here?
OriginalUsername2 · 13/09/2024 08:39

SweetSakura · 13/09/2024 08:35

Exactly. I don't know why people are getting all huffy and thinking op is referring to them sticking some grapes and a babybel in different compartments

If OP had posted that Bento Boxes were wonderful, all the answers would be “oh so mums have to carve stupid shapes out of rice now, no thanks!”

So much contrary lately.

SweetSakura · 13/09/2024 08:35

HanaLeigh · 13/09/2024 08:16

I think the OP means this type of meal, not just a sarnie and fruit shoved into the compartments.

Exactly. I don't know why people are getting all huffy and thinking op is referring to them sticking some grapes and a babybel in different compartments

SweetSakura · 13/09/2024 08:33

I think people are missing the point, I don't think op is referring to people who fling random stuff into compartments (I've been doing that for years for my daughter as she doesn't like sandwiches and can't have school dinners as they are useless with allergies).

Ops means the ridiculously elaborate bento boxes being shown off on social media.

CharlotteRumpling · 13/09/2024 08:33

Sorry @RedHotChilliPreppers I inadvertently quoted you and can't edit.

Yes, as a lot of us have said, not going on social media removes all feelings of inadequacy and envy.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 13/09/2024 08:32

The kind of lunches DD likes will transfer well into a bento style box for school, when she's there. But I won't be making the food look "cute". It's for eating.

Screamingabdabz · 13/09/2024 08:31

Mimipoop · 13/09/2024 07:23

its simple. Don’t go on Instagram/facebook/tikto whatever it is and you won’t know about these silly things, therefore you won’t care.

Best post on the thread and the answer to much of the apparent angst among people these days.

stichguru · 13/09/2024 08:27

I love our bento style box. It's not about shaping or carving, it's about:

  • not buying loads of expensive, environmentally awful, individual wrapped tiny things because you can pop in a chunk of something off a bigger one (Cheese, pork pie) or some mini ones (sausages, chicken sticks) out of a big pack.
  • Not having to fiddle wrapping everything in foil if it's from a bigger pack
  • protection for breakable stuff from a big pack (e.g. crisps or rice cakes)
  • being easily able to do something like cous-cous which otherwise would need it's own container
  • being able to do wet and dry
  • not having to use loads of tiny containers which the child struggles to open, loses and are a pain to wash!
Beezknees · 13/09/2024 08:26

DS had school dinners. Faffing around with lunchboxes every day, no thanks!

Gorgonemilezola · 13/09/2024 08:25

Here you go........

AIBU to hope Bento boxes for packed school lunches never take off here?
prescribingmum · 13/09/2024 08:25

The insta posts make me laugh because it’s usually processed shit cut out onto fancy shapes and sent as lunch. Balance rarely exists in the meals.

We have used bentos ever since DC started school because they make my life easier. My kids hate sandwiches and have smaller appetites. Filling the compartments with the leftovers and other food already in the house is much easier for me mentally. I pre-prepare the ‘snack’ parts and freeze portions so they just need to be defrosted the night before.
I have never cut any food item into a specific ‘shape’

sunseaandsoundingoff · 13/09/2024 08:24

SusannaSpider · 13/09/2024 00:12

I know you said the issue wasn't the bento box as a receptacle, but I love the Sistema ones. I'm not entertaining any of that squashing an egg into the shape of Hello Kitty shite, but having different apartments to fill just seems to stop me scrabbling around - a satsuma fits here, cherry tom's in this bit etc.
I probably have ADHD and it shows on threads like this 😳

why on earth does wanting a satsuma and tomatoes in different compartments of a box mean you have ADHD?

Silviasilvertoes · 13/09/2024 08:24

SusannaSpider · 13/09/2024 00:12

I know you said the issue wasn't the bento box as a receptacle, but I love the Sistema ones. I'm not entertaining any of that squashing an egg into the shape of Hello Kitty shite, but having different apartments to fill just seems to stop me scrabbling around - a satsuma fits here, cherry tom's in this bit etc.
I probably have ADHD and it shows on threads like this 😳

I feel you 😂👏

unsync · 13/09/2024 08:20

@SusannaSpider Thank you. "I'm not entertaining any of that squashing an egg into the shape of Hello Kitty shite" This could be a philosophy for living. You've made my day! 👏

CharlotteRumpling · 13/09/2024 08:16

Oops sorry I didn't mean to quote that post.

HanaLeigh · 13/09/2024 08:16

I think the OP means this type of meal, not just a sarnie and fruit shoved into the compartments.

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AIBU to hope Bento boxes for packed school lunches never take off here?
AIBU to hope Bento boxes for packed school lunches never take off here?
Gorgonemilezola · 13/09/2024 08:16

I think people are slightly misunderstanding the OP. I'm guessing very few posters produce these sort of bento boxes.....

AIBU to hope Bento boxes for packed school lunches never take off here?
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AIBU to hope Bento boxes for packed school lunches never take off here?
AIBU to hope Bento boxes for packed school lunches never take off here?
CharlotteRumpling · 13/09/2024 08:15

RedHotChilliPreppers · 13/09/2024 07:53

I really can’t understand why parents can’t just cream off a bit of their dinner from the night before and put it in a thermos for their DC for the next day.

When we had to send packed lunches during Covid I got loads of comments about my DC’s food which was something hot. I didn’t get up at 0500 to make it. I just took aside a big if lasagna/ curry/ whatever we had the night before and shoved it in the microwave for a couple of minutes in the morning.

Don't go on Insta.

EnglishGirlApproximately · 13/09/2024 08:12

Surely everyone saying that it's just an easy way of doing packed lunch is missing the point? OP was clearly talking about the insta worthy bento boxes that are all over the place rather than the actual container.

CharlotteRumpling · 13/09/2024 08:11

I don't think the problem is bento boxes. I think the problem is social media.

dancinfeet · 13/09/2024 08:08

my kids are early 20s and always had bento boxes for school- no faffing around with cutting things into fancy shapes though.

Callaphone · 13/09/2024 08:04

thanks @GreenTeaLikesMe , that sounds much more measured.

I like the idea of bento but it takes me a surprisingly long time to make a normal sandwich based lunch, so no chance am I doing all that. The notes look American to me, the little toothpicks with eyes or fake leaves look like exactly the thing that breaks dishwashers.

I love the sistema bento box. There's nothing bento about it though, it's completely designed round a typical UK packed lunch. Compartments for a sandwich, a whole apple and a yoghurt or stuff chopped up. Perfect.

RedHotChilliPreppers · 13/09/2024 07:53

I really can’t understand why parents can’t just cream off a bit of their dinner from the night before and put it in a thermos for their DC for the next day.

When we had to send packed lunches during Covid I got loads of comments about my DC’s food which was something hot. I didn’t get up at 0500 to make it. I just took aside a big if lasagna/ curry/ whatever we had the night before and shoved it in the microwave for a couple of minutes in the morning.

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