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Would you have sex-missionary with someone if offered money

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Snoringfamily · 12/09/2024 23:34

If so, how much would it have to be?

Discussion at work quite a few years ago, inspired by the Demi Moore film. I was younger and had more money than now. If someone asked you to sleep with them for x amount of money-say half a million, would you? Missionary only, over quickly
I was aghast and said no, most said of course they would.

Now, I think I feel differently

Would you?

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dayslikethese1 · 14/09/2024 06:14

Not unless I was really desperate for money no.

kkloo · 14/09/2024 04:36

Synchronisedwitches · 13/09/2024 00:12

And I don't think it would be any more psychologically damaging than anything else I've experienced in life only this time I'd have 100k to help me get over it..

A good extension of this discussion is body parts.
Me and a friend who works in insurance were discussing that girl who got the payout from alton towers when her legs got crushed on the Smiler.
And how she may actually have considered it a lucky thing to have happened to her as she can now walk again with prosthetic legs and live a relatively normal life.. but she got 1million plus payout at 18 so she never has to worry much about money...
So we were discussing what body parts we'd give up for how much money..
Apparently there's a list of how much body parts are worth in terms of insurance and/or in court cases regarding accidents that weren't your fault!! There's a whole list of what say, losing a finger, or an ear, would be worth financially

That's insane that your friend thought that that was a lucky thing to happen and that a million pound payout at 18 means she never has to worry much about money.

And this friend apparently works IN insurance? 😳😳

The two girls that suffered amputations actually got £2 million + each, but that is to cover absolutely everything, their prosthetics need to be replaced every few years, they would be more likely to need carers when they're older than the rest of the general population and possibly for a lot longer, their homes will need to be adapted etc when they're older....much of that money will have to be kept for all of their future costs. They could live for another 60 years!

They were desperately unlucky, definitely not lucky.

IDontHateRainbows · 14/09/2024 03:45

I totally would. Would clear it with DH first but I'm sure he'd be persuadable for that sum.

Catsmere · 14/09/2024 03:18

No. I've never had sex and now, long past menopause, never feel the slightest sexual stirrings. It would be horrifically painful (I'm assuming the question means sex with a man). Much as I'd love that amount of money, which would secure me for life, that would be too high a price to pay.

OpalGoose · 14/09/2024 02:17

I asked DH tonight if he would object to me having sex with someone else so that we could be financially secure for the rest of our lives. His first question was man or woman? I said anyone, to see where it would go, he said as long as it was a one off then he would agree to it. That's got me thinking, zero chance of complications with another woman as far as I can see.

betterangels · 13/09/2024 22:21

Women do this all the time. For a house and a lifestyle. I don't see the difference, except this would be over much faster, and I'd not be cooking or doing the washing. Win in my book.

Ixon · 13/09/2024 22:20

Trump is a bit extreme. Barring no repulsive world leaders...Putin also in that's camp

JohnTheRevelator · 13/09/2024 19:21

Yes. But only for £100,000. That sort of money would be life changing for me. They'd have to pay upfront though.....

HauntedbyMagpies · 13/09/2024 18:56

I haven't had sex since January 2016 (had to specify the month!) so I'd do it for free AND give him a brew after

Flossyts · 13/09/2024 16:16

readysteadynono · 13/09/2024 07:31

That’s a utilitarian ethnical model (ends justifying the means) which isn’t a Christian ethical model. It’s not because God wouldn’t forgive you, of course he could and would. It’s about what damage that would be done to you spiritually by uniting with someone for money. I used to volunteer in a charity for sex workers and have seen how traumatic it can be, even when the ‘clients’ are rich and ‘nice’. As a Christian your body is not merely something to be used which is separate from your true self. Your self is seen as a holistic thing and includes your body.

If anyone reading has been involved in sex work and feels regret, please know you are precious and your very self is holy. You aren’t discarded by God, the very opposite. He seeks you and loves you.

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My point was rather that I think everyone has a price. For some, it will be higher than others.
whilst many would and will judge - everyone has a price.
Couldnt feed your children? Father needs life saving medication….. the price lowers.
I think your statement only goes so far 🤷‍♀️

Katielovesteatime · 13/09/2024 15:31

Definitely yes! I’d tell DH to as well if he had the chance!

BucketofTeaMassiveCake · 13/09/2024 15:26

I'm not sure as there are certain caveats. Do we like each other? Is he physically attractive? Is he clean, no dirty or raggedy fingernails, body odour or bad breath? Is there a significant reason why he hasn't a partner? Has he any horrible, degrading or illegal kinks?

Whether I'd agree would depend on so much. I wouldn't have to worry about a jealous partner but I'd give it a great deal of thought. And there's always 'fall out' with any deal like this.

WiddlinDiddlin · 13/09/2024 15:23

Oh yeah, there isn't the money in the world that would cause me to even vaguely contemplate shagging Trump.

I only shag humans, he absolutely isn't one.

BunnyLake · 13/09/2024 15:17

BettyBardMacDonald · 13/09/2024 15:08

I could stoop pretty low but not as low as Donald Trump. (Apparently he's got a new squeeze young enough to be his granddaughter and as batshit crazy as he is. Melania must be relieved.)

Can't say I'd want to perform oral on just anybody, though. That's my line in the sand.

Melania can’t hide her disgust of this man.

As far as this thread is concerned, it would be strictly missionary sex, done once, absolutely no ‘extras’ and no one repulsive.

There’d be no money in the world that would get me to say yes to Trump 🤢

BettyBardMacDonald · 13/09/2024 15:08

I could stoop pretty low but not as low as Donald Trump. (Apparently he's got a new squeeze young enough to be his granddaughter and as batshit crazy as he is. Melania must be relieved.)

Can't say I'd want to perform oral on just anybody, though. That's my line in the sand.

BIossomtoes · 13/09/2024 14:01

crackofdoom · 13/09/2024 13:53

Are we not discussing with who?
I mean, I initially thought "yes of course"....but with anyone? With Donald Trump, for example? I couldn't.

Maybe you could amend the brief so you had your back to him.

crackofdoom · 13/09/2024 13:53

Are we not discussing with who?
I mean, I initially thought "yes of course"....but with anyone? With Donald Trump, for example? I couldn't.

DamnUserName21 · 13/09/2024 13:48

Yep, I would. If he looked like Robert Redford, all the better!

Jazzabel · 13/09/2024 13:45

I’d genuinely do it for the remaining amount on my mortgage. Would make a big difference to my life to have that paid off. I’ve slept with plenty of randomers for free after a night out with no attachment so I don’t think it would affect me emotionally. I will say I am single though, I would probably feel a bit weird if I was with someone and I imagine it would end up causing arguments eventually.

bazoom · 13/09/2024 13:37

Well, someone is lying, I just went to Asda and asked 3 women separately if they would sleep with me for £100k, I've been chased out of the store by 3 angry husbands and now there's police swarming the area.

Everycloudect · 13/09/2024 13:29

BunnyLake · 13/09/2024 12:16

So you think one of us on this here Mumsnet might get propositioned with a £500k for one sex session offer? Well if they do I hope they let us know and what their decision was.

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Stranger things happen 😂

Somanypiessolittletime · 13/09/2024 13:13

I mean it's not really though is it?
There's no Indecent Proposal style film made about using food banks for money.
Also sex can be glamorous (or seedy) food banks are neither. They're a way to get by. And that's it

ttcat37 · 13/09/2024 13:07

MrsSunshine2b · 13/09/2024 12:35

Chill, it's a hypothetical scenario. Thousands of people are forced into sweatshops and domestic labour, it doesn't mean I can't say I'd hate to be a cleaner no matter how well paid, or that I don't know the first thing about sewing machines.

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I don’t need to chill, thanks. I’m comfortable with not joking about the reality of people’s lives. It’s like saying “would you use a food bank for £500k? I can’t imagine how dreadful that would be! lol! How awful!”

OutVileJelly1 · 13/09/2024 13:04

Absolutely not, its prostitution

BunnyLake · 13/09/2024 13:02

Newsenmum · 13/09/2024 12:31

I mean it sounds grim. If they’re not attractive it would be horrendous. The smell, the sweat… ugh.

So you decline the offer 🤷‍♀️

(As I would under those conditions).