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Would you have sex-missionary with someone if offered money

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Snoringfamily · 12/09/2024 23:34

If so, how much would it have to be?

Discussion at work quite a few years ago, inspired by the Demi Moore film. I was younger and had more money than now. If someone asked you to sleep with them for x amount of money-say half a million, would you? Missionary only, over quickly
I was aghast and said no, most said of course they would.

Now, I think I feel differently

Would you?

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Mikey87 · 15/09/2024 13:01

No multi millionaire is going to offer a 45+ woman half a million pounds to sleep with them,when you could just go on tinder and get it for free. That being said if I was single, I'd do it for 1k and be happy. If in a serious relationship half a million.

Champers66 · 15/09/2024 06:46

SocksAndTheCity · 12/09/2024 23:35

God, definitely. Am I allowed to do Wordle.at the same time?

🤣🤣🤣🤣

ErinBell01 · 15/09/2024 01:38

Abbylikeswine · 12/09/2024 23:49

Does nobody wonder about the psychological damage it would do to you?

Lol I'd be too busy enjoying my half a million to be introspective! It's not the end of the world if you agreed to it. And think what you could do with that money? Even £50k.....

Beautifulweeds · 15/09/2024 01:34

When I was younger my reaction was no way, relationship with partner meant more, I just couldn't.

Now, a bit older, and completely monogamous, if someone offered a million pounds for one night, with protection, and discuss it with my DH as just that, probably yes! That detached time to have our future secured. Same as with DP, mutual agreement.

Can't believe how much my opinion of this has changed, but when you've been together for decades, the trust won't be forfeited because it's jist a transaction.

Not that I would be wanted for one night for that sum of money lol so all hypothetical. Xx

HerVagestyTheQueef · 15/09/2024 01:02

When I was young and gorgeous I spent the night with a man - a fellow wedding guest - in his hotel room because I was too tight to book my own room and the wedding finished earlier than I thought. Hotel was nice and probably fairly expensive for a nowhere town. I even blagged a free breakfast.

£500K is a big improvement on a decent hotel room!

06230villefrancesurmer · 15/09/2024 00:16

God damm ya cats are too kool for me . Oh to be 40 years younger. HA. hey sieze the moment sieze the day

neighboursmustliveon · 15/09/2024 00:12

If I was single I probably would. As I’m not, I never would. I wouldn’t be happy if DH did either.

outdooryone · 14/09/2024 22:18

Life changing amount of money?
Absolutely.
Where do I sign up?

Arraminta · 14/09/2024 22:01

Claire903 · 14/09/2024 18:58

I agree. Doggy is the way forward here. Question is, what book would it be? Or would you be on a site browsing luxury holidays?!

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To be fair, I'd be shopping online and blowing my million (obviously I would have insisted on payment upfront).

IDontHateRainbows · 14/09/2024 21:49

PetuniaT · 14/09/2024 21:35

Reminds me of the Winston Churchill story:
“Churchill: "Madam, would you sleep with me for five million pounds?" Socialite: "My goodness, Mr. Churchill... Well, I suppose... we would have to discuss terms, of course... "
Churchill: "Would you sleep with me for five pounds?"
Socialite: "Mr. Churchill, what kind of woman do you think I am?!"
Churchill: "Madam, we've already established that. Now we are haggling about the price.”
We've already established that they will fork. Now we are haggling about the price.

and that's what kind of woman you would be!

And for a mill, I dont give a shiny shit!

PetuniaT · 14/09/2024 21:35

Reminds me of the Winston Churchill story:
“Churchill: "Madam, would you sleep with me for five million pounds?" Socialite: "My goodness, Mr. Churchill... Well, I suppose... we would have to discuss terms, of course... "
Churchill: "Would you sleep with me for five pounds?"
Socialite: "Mr. Churchill, what kind of woman do you think I am?!"
Churchill: "Madam, we've already established that. Now we are haggling about the price.”
We've already established that they will fork. Now we are haggling about the price.

and that's what kind of woman you would be!

MyNDfamily · 14/09/2024 21:21

Synchronisedwitches · 13/09/2024 00:12

And I don't think it would be any more psychologically damaging than anything else I've experienced in life only this time I'd have 100k to help me get over it..

A good extension of this discussion is body parts.
Me and a friend who works in insurance were discussing that girl who got the payout from alton towers when her legs got crushed on the Smiler.
And how she may actually have considered it a lucky thing to have happened to her as she can now walk again with prosthetic legs and live a relatively normal life.. but she got 1million plus payout at 18 so she never has to worry much about money...
So we were discussing what body parts we'd give up for how much money..
Apparently there's a list of how much body parts are worth in terms of insurance and/or in court cases regarding accidents that weren't your fault!! There's a whole list of what say, losing a finger, or an ear, would be worth financially

Being physically disabled for most of your life from 18 onwards is huge. There will be pain and things she will never do. She may even use a wheelchair part time. I worked with amputees most are on anti depressants and require a lot of therapy to come to terms with what has happened. What I've seen I wouldn't wish on myself for 1m. It's not that much money over a lifetime. I think the sex would be a better option than having your legs crushed.

ObieJoyful · 14/09/2024 21:01

When I was really skint, a friend of my then boyfriend asked me to sleep with him for 1k. I said no because he was repulsive. I’d have said no to much more as well.

If I’d have been really attracted to him, I may have been turned on by the offer, but I doubt it- the idea of someone thinking they could control me sexually, with money, is something I find disturbing.

(boyfriend wasn’t a particularly serious relationship btw)

Now I’m married, it would be a flat ‘no’.

Bloom15 · 14/09/2024 21:00

Precipice · 13/09/2024 00:58

To numerous PPs who mention having had sex they "regretted": on what basis? Didn't you choose these men because you felt they were attractive or looked acceptable to you? Surely there was still a minimum aspect of selection of the guy?

I don't think this scenario is comparable. You chose to sleep with that man. Here, the scenario is a guy you'd never ever consent to sleep with otherwise.

But I would be choosing to sleep with him - for money

BCBird · 14/09/2024 20:45

Trump- absolutely not

dreamer24 · 14/09/2024 20:41

Only if I didn't have to kiss him that should be.

Bloom15 · 14/09/2024 20:40

Abbylikeswine · 12/09/2024 23:49

Does nobody wonder about the psychological damage it would do to you?

No as I have had sex I wasn't particularly up for in the past and it hasn't scarred me. At least I would be paid!

dreamer24 · 14/09/2024 20:40

Christ YES for half a million. But only if u didn't have to kiss him (unless he was gorgeous and smelled nice). Otherwise, sex only with no kissing.

FunWithFlagz · 14/09/2024 20:31

Snoringfamily · 13/09/2024 00:28

Ok doesn’t have to be missionary to those asking, but isn’t that the easiest, less worst option?! Get very drunk, close eyes, think of the money 😬

No, you could smell them and they might kiss you! Definitely doggy style! They’d not last very long and your face is as far away as you can get it. I’d do it for 500k. My life would be significantly better without a mortgage and I could buy my STBXH out of his share.

MayaPinion · 14/09/2024 20:29

OpalGoose · 14/09/2024 18:56

No, because he could afford to pay a lot more than that.

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No, because I’m pretty sure he’s incontinent and I don’t think I could cope with that.

IDontHateRainbows · 14/09/2024 20:24

Sapphire387 · 14/09/2024 20:08

No, I'm married and don't want to cheat on my husband.

In my single days? Still no, I want better sex than lying there letting some bloke use me as a wank sock. Even for money. It's just too grim.

No need to cheat.. see if he's up for sharing the dough.

MayaPinion · 14/09/2024 20:23

Ixon · 13/09/2024 22:20

Trump is a bit extreme. Barring no repulsive world leaders...Putin also in that's camp

Fuck it, I’d even do Nigel Farage for half a million + two bottles of Jacob’s Creek, as long as I could drink the booze first 😂

Sapphire387 · 14/09/2024 20:08

No, I'm married and don't want to cheat on my husband.

In my single days? Still no, I want better sex than lying there letting some bloke use me as a wank sock. Even for money. It's just too grim.

LG123 · 14/09/2024 20:05

But half a million? Almost absolutely, I've done it for much much less than that 😅

LG123 · 14/09/2024 20:03

Not sure I'd go back to it as I'm not longer single but it wasn't that long ago I was a working girl for £200ph! So it's a yes from me if I wasn't with anyone, however as I guess with ages I'd not want to do it anymore.