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Would you have sex-missionary with someone if offered money

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Snoringfamily · 12/09/2024 23:34

If so, how much would it have to be?

Discussion at work quite a few years ago, inspired by the Demi Moore film. I was younger and had more money than now. If someone asked you to sleep with them for x amount of money-say half a million, would you? Missionary only, over quickly
I was aghast and said no, most said of course they would.

Now, I think I feel differently

Would you?

OP posts:
Garlictest · 13/09/2024 02:13

BoreOffAboutYerChickensEmma · 13/09/2024 02:11

Nothing wrong with fat, middle aged men imo. Jack Black for example. He has a million pounds.

I bet he's good in bed, too ...

BoreOffAboutYerChickensEmma · 13/09/2024 02:11

Nothing wrong with fat, middle aged men imo. Jack Black for example. He has a million pounds.

BobbyBiscuits · 13/09/2024 02:11

If someone offered me half a million quid for missionary that lasted only about two minutes? And it was someone I didn't know? Or I did know?! If they used a condom...Can they have a bag over their head? Can I? If nobody would ever know I guess it would be idiotic not to. But why on earth would this circumstance arise?
I reckon any sicko wants to pay that much for sex would want something way more grim and humiliating? Maybe if the person was female I'd be less suspicious? Lol

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 02:11

I know what a sugar baby is I’m not dumb. Sugar babies and daddy’s I find weird but they only exist and continue to exist because of the customer base they have right and the “people” that want there services.

Garlictest · 13/09/2024 02:10

I doubt he'd be talking about fishing or Reform You never know, it might be what gets him in the mood 😂

I landed a massive carp this morning. You'd have loved it, you like a big one, don't you? Fnarr, fnarr, huff, puff. Nige'll win the next election, you'll see. Puff, puff. I can't wait till we GET IN! That'll do it, huff, puff, grunt. Migrants out, the white man on top! Puff, puff, grunt, huff! Change is COMING!! Argh, uhh, grunt, grunt, puff! Phew. Here's another hundred for being a good listener. Vote Reform!

Just4thisthreadtoday · 13/09/2024 02:09

Abbylikeswine · 13/09/2024 01:17

It's you who's wrong actually.

Go and read up on what a sugar baby is

@Abbylikeswine

Its not @PyongyangKipperbang that's wrong.

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 02:08

Oh my god what is everyone’s problem, I just commented on a thread I haven’t said anything unkind or inappropriate at all I’m just answering comments like everyone else I’m not harming or offending anyone at all !!

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 02:07

500k is still 500k regardless of who it is right now?

FruitFlyPie · 13/09/2024 02:06

I think that many of us have had sex that left us feeling used and unhappy with men that were supposed (and claimed) to love us. So the idea of doing exactly that with someone who made no such claims but we were left with a life changing amount of money isnt a huge issue.

Exactly. I've never been raped or sexually assaulted, but I've had sex I didnt want. To be nice, to make someone like me, to avoid an argument, to stop him nagging and even because I felt awkward saying no. I feel like most woman have done this at some point.

To have sex for a large amount of money is nothing compared to that. I wish sex was something "special between two people in love" but it isn't really, is it.

Kittynoodle · 13/09/2024 02:06

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 01:25

As a father of 3 at 35 and been single for 7 years I’d say yes to improving my children’s and my life

Why are you on here???

Just4thisthreadtoday · 13/09/2024 02:05

Abbylikeswine · 13/09/2024 01:13

Let's throw something into the scenario.

Say if the man was old, fat, smelled bad.

Would you still take a half a million pounds for sex with him.

These kinds of men are not usually kind nice and good looking

@Abbylikeswine

fat. WTF I'd find some people's attitudes far more of a problem than someone being fat!!

my neighbour is 'old', he's 20 years older than me & one of the sexiest men I've ever met. Yes he's 'ageing' now & getting a bit saggy, be he's still one of the sexiest men I've ever met.

but yes, even if the man wasn't young & 'fit'
id still do it.

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 02:04

See I agree with this but as I’m a guy I’m sure I will get hate for agreeing

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 01:58

Oh here we go pick on a guy just because he happens to see this and comment, I just showed you it was the first thread that came up and it’s not the only one I spoke on either. I’ve said nothing sexual or derogatory to anyone either. I don’t want to joint a sex board or thread either, stop gaslighting me. I really don’t know why you have a problem with me is it something I said or just because I am male and have commented on this thread ? I’d love to know.

Just4thisthreadtoday · 13/09/2024 01:57

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 01:09

If I could make money for it then I’d consider it but there’s not a market for single fathers lol

@Delonghi88

im not so sure about that!!

Just4thisthreadtoday · 13/09/2024 01:55

@Synchronisedwitches

well, I doubt he'd be talking about fishing or Reform, while having sex with me. Portly middle aged man, yes, fine.

for the house definitely.

@Snoringfamily

yes, absolutely would. I don't know how much my lower limit would be? Do we get to meet him before we decide how much?

a lot of sex is 'transactional' whether people want to admit it or not, down to 'if I have sec with him Friday night, he won't be a grumpy arse all weekend'

My thoughts are: sex with someone you love can be very deep & emotional. But sex can be mind blowing as just a physical act with someone you don't love, it can also be crap. I can be emotionally detached.

Obviously it's better when you find them attractive, but as long as there's plenty of lube if you don't... I could fake it.

a million pounds would make that easier.

there's obviously a monetary point which makes sex with someone you're not attracted to that would make me agree. But not sure what that would be, may be £10,0000?

not based on any kind of worth, simply the point at which I'd probably regret saying 'no'

ThatSongStuckInYourHead · 13/09/2024 01:55

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 01:47

Oh move on you nut job, what are you causing grief for ? Leave it out.

And a man just had to answer the one about sex....on a predominantly women's forum as your 'first' post. Nevermind in 7 days you can have access to the sex board where all the other men hang around.

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 01:47

U see now !! First thread.

Would you have sex-missionary with someone if offered money
Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 01:47

Oh move on you nut job, what are you causing grief for ? Leave it out.

ThatSongStuckInYourHead · 13/09/2024 01:43

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 01:40

Yes it is the first time do your digging on me if you want I’ve just literally created this account to talk about something else, this was the first thread that came up lol, what’s your problem ? You forget your here too !! There no inappropriate things from me so what’s your problem ? I don’t have one with you.

🚩🚩🚩

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 01:40

Yes it is the first time do your digging on me if you want I’ve just literally created this account to talk about something else, this was the first thread that came up lol, what’s your problem ? You forget your here too !! There no inappropriate things from me so what’s your problem ? I don’t have one with you.

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 01:38

So all the women and young girls advertising sex online is ok then ? Id hate for my daughter to do it but the new generations minds are warped

ThatSongStuckInYourHead · 13/09/2024 01:35

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 01:30

Firstly this is the first time I have EVER been here and no I commented on a thread, stop before you start insinuating things. My posts were singular to me. No suggestions no insinuating either nice try tho but I won’t bite

First time you have been here and this is the thread you choose. 🚩

Wisterical · 13/09/2024 01:35

No, because the type of man who would pay for sex isn't someone I'd ever agree have sex with, under any circumstances.

Garlictest · 13/09/2024 01:34

@Abbylikeswine, the OP says "Missionary only, over quickly".

I could deal with the awful bloke for a solitary shag and the money. My "soul" would be untouched by this scenario!

In more usual situations - the best sexual compliment I ever received was "She brings her whole self into the bed. Then she takes her whole self back with her."

Namebechanged · 13/09/2024 01:33

Name changed for this but - I used to have sex occasionally for money while I was working full time.

I did it for money but - also for fun as I met interesting guys and enjoyed the power dynamic. When a guy lays down money he tells you what he really wants and I enjoyed that.

Sometimes we'd end up not having sex as we'd be talking too long, or they didn't want full sex. I considered it as a career but I got offered a lot of money from a man who wanted me on the side while he kept his 24 year marriage. I didn't want anything to do with hurting the other woman on the other side of the transaction.

He said "She'll never know."
I replied "She's been your life partner for 24 years, trust me, she'll know."

So unfortunately as much as I'm fine with the 'money for sex' dimension, I'm not okay with the cheaters.

All my partners and friends know I've done it - It's not something that I feel ashamed about, but I'm definitely the minority. I really think the average woman would feel they've 'given something away' by doing what I've done, I just happen to think very differently from social norms.