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Would you have sex-missionary with someone if offered money

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Snoringfamily · 12/09/2024 23:34

If so, how much would it have to be?

Discussion at work quite a few years ago, inspired by the Demi Moore film. I was younger and had more money than now. If someone asked you to sleep with them for x amount of money-say half a million, would you? Missionary only, over quickly
I was aghast and said no, most said of course they would.

Now, I think I feel differently

Would you?

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Stixk · 13/09/2024 06:22

ShatParp · 13/09/2024 00:04

Does it HAVE to be missionary?! Can't it be doggy?!

That’s more personal I feel

bazoom · 13/09/2024 06:16

Thirdsummerofourdiscontent · 13/09/2024 05:38

I wouldn’t want to lose my marriage for $500k but if there were no consequences I’m sure I could lay back and think of England.

Well it would certainly be wet.

Buffypaws · 13/09/2024 06:10

ThePrologue · 13/09/2024 05:53

What's the position to do with it?
Whether 'missionary' or swinging on the rafters, you've still prostituted yourself, so may as wellxdo it in an interesting way!

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Less effort innit

i would do it. No sex in a year. Hopefully I’d get a baby out of it finally. And if they paid off my mortgage I could afford childcare. Win win win.

getting semen off my ex has been like blood out of a fuckin stone for five bloody years

MelainesLaugh · 13/09/2024 06:06

Yes I would

why all the hatred for missionary? I love it

OhshutupBarry · 13/09/2024 06:04

Dependant on the money and it being over quickly - Hell yes!

ThePrologue · 13/09/2024 05:53

Snoringfamily · 12/09/2024 23:34

If so, how much would it have to be?

Discussion at work quite a few years ago, inspired by the Demi Moore film. I was younger and had more money than now. If someone asked you to sleep with them for x amount of money-say half a million, would you? Missionary only, over quickly
I was aghast and said no, most said of course they would.

Now, I think I feel differently

Would you?

What's the position to do with it?
Whether 'missionary' or swinging on the rafters, you've still prostituted yourself, so may as wellxdo it in an interesting way!

whereaw · 13/09/2024 05:46

I have enough respect for myself to know that I am more than worthy of half a million pounds. So yes I would. Grin

Thirdsummerofourdiscontent · 13/09/2024 05:38

I wouldn’t want to lose my marriage for $500k but if there were no consequences I’m sure I could lay back and think of England.

Namebechanged · 13/09/2024 05:36

Poppins21 · 13/09/2024 05:06

The whole point of the movie was she was attracted to him and he could have seduced her for free. But he was rich and powerful and decided the destroy the husband with his games. The husband couldn’t come to terms with how much his wife enjoyed her night and jealously destroyed the love.

So in the scenario of the film I wouldn’t as I wouldn’t want to destroy my marriage.

Let’s look the other way - Would you let your husband or partner sleep with an attractive older woman for one night for million pounds? Would jealously destroy you like in the film? Or would you happily spend the money?

Ohhhhhhh, if married then I'd never do it - but that's different.

Namebechanged · 13/09/2024 05:32

Poppins21 · 13/09/2024 05:06

The whole point of the movie was she was attracted to him and he could have seduced her for free. But he was rich and powerful and decided the destroy the husband with his games. The husband couldn’t come to terms with how much his wife enjoyed her night and jealously destroyed the love.

So in the scenario of the film I wouldn’t as I wouldn’t want to destroy my marriage.

Let’s look the other way - Would you let your husband or partner sleep with an attractive older woman for one night for million pounds? Would jealously destroy you like in the film? Or would you happily spend the money?

Ohhhhhhh, if married then I'd never do it - but that's different.

WiddlinDiddlin · 13/09/2024 05:30

Yup.

Half a million, straight sex, no oral - yes.

I've had enough crap sex with people I didn't particularly fancy/find all that interesting for free, to know that its not going to fuck with my mind (well not any more than its already fucked with...).

They gotta shower first though, and clean teeth. Sweaty balls and nasty breath is a game changer.

DP says he's fine with that as long as that cash is for us, to improve our lives, not for me to run off to the Bahamas with. I said the same goes for him.

Chances of either of us being paid by anyone... mm!

ncforcatquestion · 13/09/2024 05:23

I would hate it, but I would do it only for 30 k or above

Poppins21 · 13/09/2024 05:06

The whole point of the movie was she was attracted to him and he could have seduced her for free. But he was rich and powerful and decided the destroy the husband with his games. The husband couldn’t come to terms with how much his wife enjoyed her night and jealously destroyed the love.

So in the scenario of the film I wouldn’t as I wouldn’t want to destroy my marriage.

Let’s look the other way - Would you let your husband or partner sleep with an attractive older woman for one night for million pounds? Would jealously destroy you like in the film? Or would you happily spend the money?

Simonjt · 13/09/2024 04:56

No, no amount of money or other forms of coercion would work either.

Pacificisolated · 13/09/2024 04:53

If I knew my partner would never find out and I had a good cover story for where the money came from would to it for £10,000. Not a life changing amount but a decent sum to invest. Sex can be very transactional and meaningless in even a committed relationship so I don’t ascribe to the whole ‘selling your soul’ stuff some people are posting on here.

DontLookBackInBognor · 13/09/2024 04:47

BMW6 · 12/09/2024 23:45

Yeah, I SO would for, say, 200k +.

I could sell this house and get a bungalow.
I'm getting on and looking to future-proof.

Just love the practicality of this! 😄

Fair play to you!!👍

NeonGiraffe · 13/09/2024 04:46

MarkingBad · 12/09/2024 23:47

I'm over 50 and don't currently have a partner ... a tenner would do, hell I'd probably pay him! 😆

😂😂😂

Delonghi88 · 13/09/2024 04:39

herecomesautumn · 13/09/2024 01:12

I'd pay myself.

If only we could lol

GuestFeatu · 13/09/2024 04:34

I would. As long as he was clean and not physically revolting in some way, and his penis was a reasonable size (not huge!), I'd do it doggy style for £50k. A nice chunk of money for minimal physical discomfort. I wouldn't be concerned about my soul. I'm pretty good at compartmentalising sex anyway and have had a LOT of casual partners so this would feel fine I think. Or maybe a bit grating but the money would make it very much endurable. Like having your teeth scraped or a smear test - unpleasant but over quickly and worth the discomfort.

Maria1979 · 13/09/2024 04:29

Sorry: than I am. Before grammar swat team kicks my door in..

Maria1979 · 13/09/2024 04:28

Snoringfamily · 12/09/2024 23:41

@peachgreen Thats actually another, interesting side to the discussion! If our dps, Dh’s we’re offered the same scenario, would we give our blessing

My DH is more into money than me and I think he can separate sex and feelings so I'd let him. I have zero libido due to antidepressants so atleast he'd get some hanky panky while being paid😄

Just4thisthreadtoday · 13/09/2024 04:08

DoYouReally · 13/09/2024 03:17

I love sex.
I love money.
I can enjoy sex just for the sake of it.
I wouldn't be be psychologically damaged or anything.

But no, I'm not for sale or at least not for €500k. I'm not that cheap.

@DoYouReally

I don't see it as what 'I'm worth' or that I'm for sale!

I'll happily exchange a short amount of my time for .5M

Lulusept22 · 13/09/2024 03:56

Cobblersorchard · 12/09/2024 23:43

Yes I would, absolutely. I’ve done far worse in my youth!
I’d probably do it for £50k I reckon, £500k and I’d do a whole football team.

Alas I’m fairly sure absolutely no-one would pay £5 these days.

Hahaha

Josette77 · 13/09/2024 03:52

Synchronisedwitches · 13/09/2024 01:04

I don't think there necessarily is a level of selection..
At least in my experience. Sex I regretted tended to be when young with guys who just relentlessly persued me and I eventually gave iin.so it was more that they selected me and I was just not confident about what I did or didn't want so ended up sleeping with them. Sometimes when young you think you should feel something towards men who express interest in you. Sometimes it takes a while to learn to identify and assert your own feelings.
So yes I did end up sleeping with guys I wasn't attracted to at all.

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Same.

Plus those of us who have experienced sexual abuse tend to feel less empowered to use our voice and say no.

daisychain01 · 13/09/2024 03:50

SickOfTheRoad · 13/09/2024 03:31

Report it then if you find it odd. Some thread titles catch people’s attention over others. That isn’t odd just because the poster is a bloke.

Yeah, he's now posted on one about boobs as well. I'm sure he's a great man.

🤑a prince amongst men, clearly.

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