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Would you have sex-missionary with someone if offered money

687 replies

Snoringfamily · 12/09/2024 23:34

If so, how much would it have to be?

Discussion at work quite a few years ago, inspired by the Demi Moore film. I was younger and had more money than now. If someone asked you to sleep with them for x amount of money-say half a million, would you? Missionary only, over quickly
I was aghast and said no, most said of course they would.

Now, I think I feel differently

Would you?

OP posts:
BunnyLake · 13/09/2024 07:23

Well it depends on what they look like. If they were gorgeous it wouldn’t be much of a dilemma. An absolute no for anyone I didn’t find attractive, for any amount of money. I’ve slept with tw*ts for nothing in the past so why not a looker for life changing money.

Yotomoto · 13/09/2024 07:22

Absolutely I would. As another PP said it doesn't have to be about intimacy at all - I use my body for all sorts of things, this is just another one. I wouldn't have any trouble seeing it as just an action.

Flossyts · 13/09/2024 07:21

readysteadynono · 13/09/2024 07:18

For me it is an easy no. It would be against my Christian faith where we believe that sex is a deeply spiritual act not just a physical one. I’d also be breaking my marriage vows.

ehat if the price was so high you could use it to end poverty in a 3rd world country. Or pay for experimental medical treatment for 1000 dying children.
I think god would get it

Flossyts · 13/09/2024 07:20

Saturdayblurs · 13/09/2024 00:17

I wouldn’t for any amount of money, the thought turns my stomach. I’m not judging anyone else, live and let live, just for me personally I feel repulsed even thinking about it.

So a life changing amount of money that could change your life and everyone around you. You could end poverty in your town, you could quit work and holiday for the rest of your life, you could buy all your family a home, you could pay for life saving medical treatment for a bunch of kids? Theres no amount of money for 2 mins ‘work’?

Id feel too selfish if I said no …

Harrumphhhh · 13/09/2024 07:20

So, I get to have sex without the commitment of a relationship, AND get paid? Sounds perfect. Where do I sign up?

StrugglingGrief · 13/09/2024 07:18

No chance you do give part of yourself away when you have sex with someone I remember a lot of mistakes I made as a young woman. I imagine so many of those men have never thought of me after that day. And hear I am more than 20 years on still thinking of those times.

readysteadynono · 13/09/2024 07:18

For me it is an easy no. It would be against my Christian faith where we believe that sex is a deeply spiritual act not just a physical one. I’d also be breaking my marriage vows.

Cobblersorchard · 13/09/2024 07:16

Abbylikeswine · 12/09/2024 23:48

What if part of the criteria was that they would tell everyone what you had done. Would you still do it?

That would be ok.
People that know me well wouldn’t be very surprised and I wouldn’t care what anyone else thinks.

I’ve had a lot of one night stands in my life, I do meaningless sex easily (now married, and faithful I hasten to add). My “number” is pretty big so one more wouldn’t matter.

rainsofcastamere · 13/09/2024 07:15

Yes, but from behind so I wouldn't have to look at them though!

My soul has been left perfectly intact every single time I have had sex. My soul isn't connected to my vagina or clitoris.

I have sex with my husband because I love him and I fancy him - good sex - my soul is the same afterwards.

I have had ONS because I've fancied the person, some have been good sex, some have been horrendous - my soul never diminished.

Sex does not = connection to me at all. I connect with a person in so many varying ways. Sex has never been one of them, it's simply a means to an end to feel good and have orgasms.

Flossyts · 13/09/2024 07:14

Thirdsummerofourdiscontent · 13/09/2024 05:38

I wouldn’t want to lose my marriage for $500k but if there were no consequences I’m sure I could lay back and think of England.

If my husband found out I hadn’t accepted half a mil for a quick shag I think I’d lose my marriage 😂

Flossyts · 13/09/2024 07:13

Honestly I think everyone has a price. People say they don’t, but I don’t believe them.

£250k for me 😂

Tangerinenets · 13/09/2024 07:10

Yes 100%.

PepaWepa · 13/09/2024 07:09

LuLuRN · 12/09/2024 23:40

I'm skint so prob would.

This

GrannyRose15 · 13/09/2024 07:09

Only if t was Robert Redford 🤣

berriesandchocolateflowers · 13/09/2024 07:08

Cobblersorchard · 12/09/2024 23:43

Yes I would, absolutely. I’ve done far worse in my youth!
I’d probably do it for £50k I reckon, £500k and I’d do a whole football team.

Alas I’m fairly sure absolutely no-one would pay £5 these days.

😂😂😂😂😂

Lemonadeand · 13/09/2024 07:07

If I were in some kind of dystopian situation and my kids were starving then yes.

RhaenysRocks · 13/09/2024 06:59

Abbylikeswine · 12/09/2024 23:49

Does nobody wonder about the psychological damage it would do to you?

I'm sure some do but you speak as though it's a certainty. I can easily separate physical sex from any sort of personal feelings and if by doing this I cleared my mortgage and had savings for my kids I absolutely would. And I'd happily justify it to anyone who cared to ask. The only way it's "shameful" is if you think sex for a woman is somehow bad unless she has a ring on her finger.

MabelMora · 13/09/2024 06:57

I have met many married couples where the wife is a tiny, attractive woman from a South East Asian country and the husband is a much older, much less attractive white English man (mail order brides in less PC times).
Those women are always dressed very nicely, have lovely bags, watches, shoes etc, but I do sometimes look at them and think: is it worth it to have him huffing and puffing on top of you twice a week? Not to mention the chauvinistic way in which the husbands speak to their wives.

However, for a one off worth 500k/a million, and never having to clap eyes on them again - I could be persuaded!

ruffler45 · 13/09/2024 06:56

Its a old joke
Would you do it for £1miilion - yes
Would you do it for £5 - NO what do you think I am
We know what you are , we are just haggling over the price...

velvetcoat · 13/09/2024 06:56

Let’s look the other way - Would you let your husband or partner sleep with an attractive older woman for one night for million pounds? Would jealously destroy you like in the film? Or would you happily spend the money?

For a million, I'd undress him for her myself 😂

AnonyLonnymouse · 13/09/2024 06:55

I wouldn’t do it for money. However, I am job-hunting at the moment and it is so soul-destroying (despite great qualifications and lots of experience) that I would be quite happy to consider an indecent proposal from the chair of an interview panel!

But I would definitely want to take a look at the goods first!

2Old2Tango · 13/09/2024 06:45

I'm widowed, so I don't have to worry about a partners feelings.

If it was someone like Robert Redford (as per the film) when he was younger and gorgeous then hell yes, I'd do it. Maybe for £100,000 or more.

If the proposer was someone like Donald Trump then I'd have to turn it down. Not that I'm a looker by any means, but I still have standards 🤣

AnneButNotHathaway · 13/09/2024 06:35

Depending on the amount of money needed and my current relationship status I would definitely think about this.

Blueribbo · 13/09/2024 06:23

I'm single so I wouldn't be destroying a relationship. Would do it for £500,000 and give the money to my daughter, her partner has run off with someone else,leaving her with a young baby and struggling financially.

SickOfTheRoad · 13/09/2024 06:23

🤑a prince amongst men, clearly.

Indeed. The thread about boobs he posted on was 3 months old so he was obviously searching for certain things to find it. Definitely not in trending or active. 🤮🕷

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