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Would you have sex-missionary with someone if offered money

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Snoringfamily · 12/09/2024 23:34

If so, how much would it have to be?

Discussion at work quite a few years ago, inspired by the Demi Moore film. I was younger and had more money than now. If someone asked you to sleep with them for x amount of money-say half a million, would you? Missionary only, over quickly
I was aghast and said no, most said of course they would.

Now, I think I feel differently

Would you?

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moonplop · 13/09/2024 08:12

For a million? Absolutely yes. 10 mins and I'd never have to see them again and I'd be set up for life. Yes.

I also dont see it as "buying" me- heck, I've had sex with men in the past for free that weren't that great looking back.

Emerald95 · 13/09/2024 08:11

ThatSongStuckInYourHead · 13/09/2024 00:29

No. The idea of a man that thinks he can buy me is repulsive to me.

I think it would have psychological consequences for many who have said yes. Every time you bought something you would be reminded of some grotty man who bought you. <shudder>

My mindset would be the opposite. I'm making enough money change the life of my family for the better. The man is definitely getting ripped off

Paltor · 13/09/2024 08:09

I’m so shocked by the responses! Maybe because I have OCD but I find most men really gross. The idea of having their bodily fluids (sweat, saliva, semen) on me is horrific. This goes away when I love someone and find them sexually attractive. But having a random man pumping away on me? Eek gross. No!

Fluufer · 13/09/2024 08:02

Would have to be a lot of money. But yeah I would. The exact amount would depend who it was.

Joystir59 · 13/09/2024 07:59

mrsCtheRed · 13/09/2024 07:51

For half a million? I'd absolutely do it.
I had one night stands in my younger days, all consenting adults, no regrets etc so I'd see it just like that. With the bonus of no money worries afterwards

If they wanted to make it a million, I'd throw in my husband if they wanted, too 🤷🏽‍♀️

😁with his consent, hopefully

Joystir59 · 13/09/2024 07:58

BMW6 · 12/09/2024 23:45

Yeah, I SO would for, say, 200k +.

I could sell this house and get a bungalow.
I'm getting on and looking to future-proof.

I've just moved into a bungalow but need some money for shelves putting up and raised planters in the garden. £10k should do it 😁

frecklejuice · 13/09/2024 07:56

Absolutely!

Like someone else said sex can be meaningful but also very transactional, I'd take £400k if we could do it doggy style so I didn't have to look at them!

Just asked dh if he'd mind and his exact words were "for half a million you can crack on" 😂

Kevinisnotacatname · 13/09/2024 07:56

In a heartbeat and it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Balaclava1000 · 13/09/2024 07:52

The chances are it would be someone repulsive and vile. That should be factored in.

mrsCtheRed · 13/09/2024 07:51

For half a million? I'd absolutely do it.
I had one night stands in my younger days, all consenting adults, no regrets etc so I'd see it just like that. With the bonus of no money worries afterwards

If they wanted to make it a million, I'd throw in my husband if they wanted, too 🤷🏽‍♀️

Jennyathemall · 13/09/2024 07:50

Why missionary? Oddly specific. Surely it would be the other way round - literally - missionary is very intimate as you are face to face. From behind is more…transactional.

SallyWD · 13/09/2024 07:49

Interesting! I really want to do up my house and could do with £50,000 but it will take forever to save. I have to admit it's very tempting. Ten minutes of sex and then £50,000. Why not?

Bearpawk · 13/09/2024 07:45

Honestly my work is really stresfull at times and employers can take the piss. Especially out of women.
I can't see how it's any worse than continually expecting you to put in the extra hours, pick up the slack, mop up everybody's mistakes and do triple your job description.
Lying there for 5 minutes and getting paid a large sum for it doesn't seem to bad in comparison.

Ryeman · 13/09/2024 07:45

Yes, probably. But they have to supply the lube.

Caramellie3 · 13/09/2024 07:45

Possibly I’d need to have a level of attraction I think. Although morally it feels wrong but that amount of money would change my life. So maybe I’d get over the lack of morals.

brunettemic · 13/09/2024 07:41

100% if it was just me and I wasn’t married, had DC etc as the only issue around it for me is the impact on others. It’s ultimately just a one night stand with a big chunk of change afterwards.

Totally understand why others wouldn’t but for me it’s a bit of a no brainer.

LessOfThis · 13/09/2024 07:39

Flossyts · 13/09/2024 07:20

So a life changing amount of money that could change your life and everyone around you. You could end poverty in your town, you could quit work and holiday for the rest of your life, you could buy all your family a home, you could pay for life saving medical treatment for a bunch of kids? Theres no amount of money for 2 mins ‘work’?

Id feel too selfish if I said no …

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What an awful thing to put on someone. Well within your rights to say no.

Lots of cool girls on here but I bet they wouldn’t be rushing to do it in real life.

merrymelodies · 13/09/2024 07:39

No because being paid for sex is prostitution and I'm not a prostitute.

rainsofcastamere · 13/09/2024 07:38

Sparklywhiteteeth · 13/09/2024 07:26

This question always creases me up. The way people seriously consider their answer. Cos yeah whose going to offer you 500k to shag you 😂

I'll have you know my husband bought me a blue WKD and a bag of scampi fries when he first met me. My body has expensive tastes don't you know.

Solotwo · 13/09/2024 07:37

User19876536484 · 13/09/2024 07:31

For half a mil my husband said he would drive me there.

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Mine would watch and film it.

Mrsdyna · 13/09/2024 07:34

No

User19876536484 · 13/09/2024 07:31

Flossyts · 13/09/2024 07:14

If my husband found out I hadn’t accepted half a mil for a quick shag I think I’d lose my marriage 😂

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For half a mil my husband said he would drive me there.

readysteadynono · 13/09/2024 07:31

Flossyts · 13/09/2024 07:21

ehat if the price was so high you could use it to end poverty in a 3rd world country. Or pay for experimental medical treatment for 1000 dying children.
I think god would get it

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That’s a utilitarian ethnical model (ends justifying the means) which isn’t a Christian ethical model. It’s not because God wouldn’t forgive you, of course he could and would. It’s about what damage that would be done to you spiritually by uniting with someone for money. I used to volunteer in a charity for sex workers and have seen how traumatic it can be, even when the ‘clients’ are rich and ‘nice’. As a Christian your body is not merely something to be used which is separate from your true self. Your self is seen as a holistic thing and includes your body.

If anyone reading has been involved in sex work and feels regret, please know you are precious and your very self is holy. You aren’t discarded by God, the very opposite. He seeks you and loves you.

RedHelenB · 13/09/2024 07:30

Synchronisedwitches · 13/09/2024 00:12

And I don't think it would be any more psychologically damaging than anything else I've experienced in life only this time I'd have 100k to help me get over it..

A good extension of this discussion is body parts.
Me and a friend who works in insurance were discussing that girl who got the payout from alton towers when her legs got crushed on the Smiler.
And how she may actually have considered it a lucky thing to have happened to her as she can now walk again with prosthetic legs and live a relatively normal life.. but she got 1million plus payout at 18 so she never has to worry much about money...
So we were discussing what body parts we'd give up for how much money..
Apparently there's a list of how much body parts are worth in terms of insurance and/or in court cases regarding accidents that weren't your fault!! There's a whole list of what say, losing a finger, or an ear, would be worth financially

That's a horrendous thing to think about that poor girl. Trapped for ages, in absolute agony, all her carefree years taken away. I wouldn't swap that for money and I get she wouldn't either. You know you get pain and sores with prosthetic limbs don't you?

Sparklywhiteteeth · 13/09/2024 07:26

This question always creases me up. The way people seriously consider their answer. Cos yeah whose going to offer you 500k to shag you 😂