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Would you have sex-missionary with someone if offered money

687 replies

Snoringfamily · 12/09/2024 23:34

If so, how much would it have to be?

Discussion at work quite a few years ago, inspired by the Demi Moore film. I was younger and had more money than now. If someone asked you to sleep with them for x amount of money-say half a million, would you? Missionary only, over quickly
I was aghast and said no, most said of course they would.

Now, I think I feel differently

Would you?

OP posts:
TrishM80 · 13/09/2024 09:21

How many women here would be OK with their husbands or partners shagging another woman if were offered a similar amount of money?

Or not even 500k, say 10k? What's the cut off point?!

Wickedstepsister · 13/09/2024 09:21

Only if my child was starving and I had no other options.

I’m surprised how many people have said yes, considering MN attitude to sex workers is normally pretty vile.

Whenwillitgetwarm · 13/09/2024 09:21

Of course I would! DH and I have had this discussion after watching the movie and agreed we would both it.

Edited to add that we would probably be annoyed with the other if we didn’t do it.

With my backing DH would go gay for pay (he said it would have to be £1m+ though!

KimberleyClark · 13/09/2024 09:19

No way.

Demonhunter · 13/09/2024 09:17

Butchyrestingface · 13/09/2024 00:18

Probably more likely to be a Jacob Rees-Mogg doppelganger.

But for a million quid, I'm still game.

Knowing my luck, it's more likely to be Sloth 😂

The Goonies Sloth GIF
MissUltraViolet · 13/09/2024 09:15

For 500k, absolutely. A couple of minutes of wham bam thank you ma’am could buy a nice home and I could relax and enjoy life instead of being trapped in a rented shit hole and miserable.

Think DP would be pissed if I turned it down.

oldwhyno · 13/09/2024 09:13

Cobblersorchard · 12/09/2024 23:43

Yes I would, absolutely. I’ve done far worse in my youth!
I’d probably do it for £50k I reckon, £500k and I’d do a whole football team.

Alas I’m fairly sure absolutely no-one would pay £5 these days.

Alas, knowing men, I can guarantee some would.

IHaveNoMoreFucksToGive · 13/09/2024 09:12

I mean to be fair I'd do it for a large bar of Dairy Milk and a Costa Lattè 🤷‍♀️

Rory17384949 · 13/09/2024 09:09

Yes haha, would have to be at least half a million though!

DoloresHargreeves · 13/09/2024 09:08

I wouldn't, not for any amount of money.

But I do think that that's because of my privileged life. Don't get me wrong, I'm not rich by any means, I don't own a house for example, but I have a job and earn enough to pay my bills and rent. If I really had nothing at all and it was a choice between that and being able to provide for my children, I might think differently.

velvetcoat · 13/09/2024 09:07

Wouldnt give a crap if people knew either, I’m in my perimenopause, over 40s life stage where I don’t care about others opinions enough anymore. The gossip would be yesterday’s news soon enough anyway

Yup- same here. I wouldnt give a crap either, I'd be laughing at them as I zoomed by in my Porsche.

SallyWD · 13/09/2024 09:05

OpalGoose · 13/09/2024 08:21

I'm surprised so many are saying yes. Are you not worried that if it's that easy then you might do it again and again and again........?

Well, then you'd end up very rich!

BettyBardMacDonald · 13/09/2024 09:04

ThatSongStuckInYourHead · 13/09/2024 00:29

No. The idea of a man that thinks he can buy me is repulsive to me.

I think it would have psychological consequences for many who have said yes. Every time you bought something you would be reminded of some grotty man who bought you. <shudder>

I wouldn't think "he bought me," but rather "i sure played him for a fool."

ShinyPebble32 · 13/09/2024 09:03

Yes, if I wasn’t married I’d do it in a heartbeat. There’s no shame around selling sex as far as I’m concerned, it takes a certain skill set that some people have and some people don’t, like any job.
I think all jobs are a type of prostitution - you give away your time, and very often your peace of mind and dignity, for money. For example, I am qualified and experienced in my field, but my job sometimes involves being shouted at by condescending or very angry customers on the phone, people that in my own time I would tell to fuck off in a heartbeat. But I can’t, because I’m being paid to represent a company. That to me is worse and more demeaning than selling sex for money. However the majority of society don’t see it like that.

betterangels · 13/09/2024 09:02

BoreOffAboutYerChickensEmma · 13/09/2024 00:37

Same.

Wouldnt give a crap if people knew either, I’m in my perimenopause, over 40s life stage where I don’t care about others opinions enough anymore. The gossip would be yesterday’s news soon enough anyway.

Same. And for this reason:

I know a lot on here has been said about the psychological damage but many of us are already psychologically damaged by a lifetime of poverty, do not underestimate the damage poverty does to someone's psyche. 40 years of it here and I'd rather a quick shag to change my life around than live another 40 years of not even being able to enjoy the smallest of life's luxuries

Pedallleur · 13/09/2024 09:01

As much £ as possible but its limited in whats available. Missionary ok but no kate price/Dubai antics or worse

SwanRonsen · 13/09/2024 09:00

Do you get to see the guy before deciding?

BettyBardMacDonald · 13/09/2024 08:58

MarkingBad · 12/09/2024 23:47

I'm over 50 and don't currently have a partner ... a tenner would do, hell I'd probably pay him! 😆

@MarkingBad 🤣🤣🤣

NortieTortie · 13/09/2024 08:57

In a heartbeat. 500k would solve all of my worries

BettyBardMacDonald · 13/09/2024 08:57

Cobblersorchard · 12/09/2024 23:43

Yes I would, absolutely. I’ve done far worse in my youth!
I’d probably do it for £50k I reckon, £500k and I’d do a whole football team.

Alas I’m fairly sure absolutely no-one would pay £5 these days.

Lol, same here. I'd have to pay them at this point.

Dpresst · 13/09/2024 08:56

At this point I’d probably do anything that wouldn’t result in a criminal record.

Snowdrop90 · 13/09/2024 08:51

Initially I thought yes for X amount however I have since thought with the most repulsive man I know and now the idea isn’t so easy. I don’t think I could as I be psychologically damaged / repulsed with myself for the rest of my life. I think it’s easier hypothetically saying yes to a fictional person but if you imagine someone who repulses you, not so easy for any amount of money.

Damnloginpopup · 13/09/2024 08:49

OpalGoose · 13/09/2024 08:21

I'm surprised so many are saying yes. Are you not worried that if it's that easy then you might do it again and again and again........?

With half a million in the bank? Wouldn't need to.

But if it was half a million each time I would.

That's twenty years pay in a shitty job...

moonplop · 13/09/2024 08:49

I know a lot on here has been said about the psychological damage but many of us are already psychologically damaged by a lifetime of poverty, do not underestimate the damage poverty does to someone's psyche. 40 years of it here and I'd rather a quick shag to change my life around than live another 40 years of not even being able to enjoy the smallest of life's luxuries

Absolutely agree.

Abi86 · 13/09/2024 08:47

The old joke - "so now we know what you are, we’re just negotiating the price".