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To wonder why people pander to attention seekers?

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workworkworkblahblahblah · 12/09/2024 23:01

A woman at my work that joined about 6 months ago is the biggest attention seeker I've ever come across in my life.

Always dramas, always 'ditsy' moments, and always doing things to attract attention. Her main focus for attention is the men but I've known other attention seekers in the past that have wanted attention from both sexes.

Today, for example, after telling the whole office loudly about her Botox, she started shrieking that she'd 'lost a contact lense'. Cue half hour of men crawling around on the floor looking for it only for her to start giggling and saying how silly she is as it's still in her eye.

Everything is pandered to. Why do people pander to attention seekers so much?

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Loooooo · 12/09/2024 23:21

Thrilley · 12/09/2024 23:13

I can't imagine that happening in any workplace I've ever experienced.

However, fwiw, we don't talk about attention seeking anymore, but attention needs. It almost always is a result of trauma, which can help to understand it.

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Some people are attention seeking because it’s part of their personality. It’s not always because they’re experienced trauma.

Offcom · 12/09/2024 23:18

I don’t know the answer but your post has reminded me of Björk’s Army of Me (self sufficiency, please!), and it’s still EPIC so thanks!

ThomasPatrickKeatingsDegas · 12/09/2024 23:18

Thrilley · 12/09/2024 23:13

I can't imagine that happening in any workplace I've ever experienced.

However, fwiw, we don't talk about attention seeking anymore, but attention needs. It almost always is a result of trauma, which can help to understand it.

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Are you joking? Please say you’re joking? ‘Attention needs’ 🤣🤣🤣

Thrilley · 12/09/2024 23:17

workworkworkblahblahblah · 12/09/2024 23:15

@Thrilley I've been through some severe trauma though and I don't act like that

Well no, not all trauma response is the same

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workworkworkblahblahblah · 12/09/2024 23:15

@Thrilley I've been through some severe trauma though and I don't act like that

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Thrilley · 12/09/2024 23:13

I can't imagine that happening in any workplace I've ever experienced.

However, fwiw, we don't talk about attention seeking anymore, but attention needs. It almost always is a result of trauma, which can help to understand it.

Whatisyourfavouriteflower · 12/09/2024 23:12

I suppose people pander to that type of behaviour when there is something in it for them. If it's men that are doing most of the pandering it's easy to guess what they hope is in it for them.

It must be no fun for you having to work with someone who behaves like that.

Hopefully when she has been there a bit longer the her attraction will wear off and people will become bored and irritated by her behaviour.

BiscuitlyBoyle · 12/09/2024 23:09

I can’t stand that shit. There is a woman at my work who is forever having dramas. I once hid in a cupboard so I wouldn’t have to deal with her crying.

Ponoka7 · 12/09/2024 23:08

As well as the attractive bit, people see them as getting positive attention and go back to wanting to be part of the popular gang.

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 12/09/2024 23:07

I'm guessing they want to shag her.

poppyzbrite4 · 12/09/2024 23:04

I'm guessing that if she's got men crawling over the floor that she's attractive. That's why

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